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Feel weird about my sex life atm

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AndrewLiam

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Hey guys, So i'm a 23 yr old guy and I've only had two girlfriends so far and only had sex with one girl. Granted we probably hd sex over 100 times but this was almost 6 years ago. we had a really ugly break up, she was screaming and flailing about and I was just barely able to react appropriately by lightly restraining her legs (we were in my car driving so I din't want her to make us crash). I was really turned off from relationships and realize now for the last 5 years I have subconsciously avoiding sex and intimate relations. I now really wan't to find a gf or someone to be intimate with, but I feel weird about the lack of sexual partners thing haha. Also i've finally gotten over some heavy addictions and drug seeking behavior so now I really want a girl in my life:) I guess what i'm asking is, am i total weirdo? I sure feel like one atm
 
You aren't at all. Everyone has their own path in life. The best place to be at to get a gf is to be secure on your own feet, in your own skin, happy with your life as a single person. You're at that place now, so you're in a great position to find a girl you like.

There are lots of guys and girls who haven't had a six-year break from sex but who have gone from one person to another, all of them wrong for them, never having gotten their lives together on their own. You're already in a much better situation to find someone who makes you happy then they are. :)
 
You only have to think about the millions of people who married as virgins, only to be trapped in a sexless marriage to realise you are far from abnormal
 
Sounds pretty normal to me. Lack of partners doesn't amount to much really.. you could sleep with 50 people and still be awful at intimacy. It only becomes a problem if you believe it is a problem.
 
Andrew, you're not weird. Far from it.

I can understand that your lack of sexual partners and your messy break up has left you with mental scars and has had a profound effect on you preventing from engaging in sexual activities but you really need to get past this.

You're in a good place in life, you have got over your drug induced behaviour now so that's fantastic. What better time to get out there and find that lucky lady.

You're struggles are nothing to be ashamed of hun, when you get past your fear you will feel a million times better.

Take things slow, relax, give yourself a good talking to, smarten yourself up and get yourself looking all gorgeous and then get out there and meet your girl.

Once you have overcome this hurdle, things will be so much easier for you and you will be able to live life to the fullest!

I wish you good luck sweetie!
 
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Wow thank you for that reply Milzy :) You have so much compassion and it's almost like i know you in a way lol..Thanks for that i'm feeling glad that I asked this question
 
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