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Drug "friends": Is it possible?

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shags2dope78

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I am beginning to think that nothing works better in breaking up a friendship than drugs. I was friends with this one guy for YEARS and we go back to way before we even decided to do drugs. We have been through a lot of shit together, but now he things are totally different. We started out just smoking weed and then we went on to other things, but even at this point, all we both really do is smoke weed and take a few pills every now and then.

He is started to hang out with people who just want his money. He is becoming blind to the facts that if he never had the green paper in his pocket, he would not be hanging out with those guys. He keeps on asking me if I want to chill with them, but these guys just mean trouble. They constantly just do stupid stuff like riding around the city paintballing people, which can be funny, but can also lead to the police getting involved and all of them getting busted with drugs.

He just won't listen to me when I try to tell him. Even worse, he is starting to become like him. Like this weekend, he calls me up asking if I want to go in on some weed, and I say I do. I go pick him up and I drive to the dealer's house and then he decides to tell me that he has no money. That is the one thing that has really started to piss me off because I don't have trouble paying to get somebody high if they just are through a time where they don't have the money, but I know he had money.

I still bought the weed and we went out and got high because I wasn't going to be a bitch. Well, a few hours later, I had to go to my girlfriend's house and I dropped him off with those "friends". Later that same night, I get a call from one of the guys he is riding with saying that my friend bought a ounce WITHOUT having somebody else go in. I call my friend up the next day and see what he is getting into and I just ask if he has gotten any money or any weed lately, and he just lies to me.

I know it sounds stupid and immature for me to be bitching about this, but it just pisses me off that he can not be honest with me. I mean, fuck, if he wanted to keep the weed to himself, all he had to say was that and I wouldn't care.

So if anyone has any advice on what I should do, please help. I am just thinking that I should just say screw it and just keep my distance from him. He is only going to end up in trouble and I try to show him, but he just fails to realize it. Has anyone else had the same problem? Do drugs really break up friendships?
 
Yep, sometimes drugs do break up friendships.

I've had a few really close friends get involved with sketchy people, mostly involved in cocaine. I still hang out with them but it's different, and sucks to see how these guys will drop whatever they/we are doing at any opportunity to blow some yayo.

But when it comes to weed, I've gained way more friends through this drug :)
 
Sometimes drugs can end friendships, and can have an effect on people that makes them act totally different (although I am NOT saying that this is all the fault of drugs, thats not at all what I mean).
My boss actually hangs out a lot with the guy that hooks him up, but they do lots of other stuff when not smoking, like mtn biking and Halo online, etc. His girlfriend however stopped talking to one of her best friends for years because the girl became a thief and pill-head basically stealing any pills she could get (checking later to see if they were actually recreational) as well as stealling money from people that trust her just to buy more drugs. They recently started hanging out again, and my boss's girlfriend's daughter had a script for Adderall, and a bunch of those pills went missing after this pill-head chick was over for NYE. Not hard to figure out what happened.
But I think it really depends on the individuals and their self-control, and their ability to make rational decisions. If you're wondering if this friend of yours is worth hanging out with anymore based on how he *used* to act, chances are he's just changed for the worse and you should get on with your life, if you can't stop him from hanging out with the wrong people and making bad decisions. I guess just be glad you've still got your senses and haven't turned for the worse like he has.
 
Homies part sometimes man. You cant be lettin people drag u down with them. He aint gonna see shit, seems like u already know that. hes bein a real dick but the bigger problem is that you cant trust him. dont surround yourself w people who you cant trust. its dangerous and especially rememberin some shit you said before about gettin busted and shit you dont wanna fuck around wit that, straight up. Sounds like someone who
--tells you bullshit lies about himself and what hes doin
--cant be trusted with money
--cant be trusted, period
--obviously dont feel the same bond to you that u once had and would probably narc you out at his first chance

Dont fuck around w this cat no more or uintil he gets his shit straight. and pay attention to it if his shit gets a little 'too' straight and then he calls u up lookin for shit.

drugs dont break up friendships. People who cant handle the stakes is what breaks up friendships. higher up u go less people you can trust. And generally the more money involved the more fucked up shit gets. Its all about the money anyway that paper is some treacherous shit.

I know a Kid who needed a couple Gs fast so he got orders for oz's out of a pound he was gettin and got the dough fronted to him by everyone who was puttin in. he gave the money to the man he was dealin and that cat was goin to get it from his jamaican peoples. Well last thing they heard the cat jumped and took off with all their money. He said he just happened to get pulled over w a pound. funny the police reports for the town he got 'busted' in didnt say shit about anyhting happenin. so first off we thought Kid just got jacked for a lb.

But I heard Kid just happened to need the exact amount that the pound costed for rent. And then somehow just a few days afterwords he managed to replace the money he lost and repay all his peoples who lost $ when the runner got 'busted.'

So did the runner jack Kid's shit or did Kid never even do the transaction with the runner in the first place? Shit i dont know cause i was there when Kid heard it wasnt goin through and unless he did some university of acting shit that cat did not have that planned.

But the point is who fuckin knows. i dont care. i dont associate w him no more thats some sketchy shit. But see what money does. And thats nothin you wanna talk about fuckin people over thats aint even the tip of the iceberg. Yo that aint even the cherry on top. thas like the tip of the tip of the cherry stem. theres some scandalous ass shit people do out there.

But my real dawgs stay tight we dont fuck around. everythings game when u deal w people u aint tight with. But when it comes to your real people your ride or die people theres just no reason for that shit. You be real with your true friends and dont hide shit and you live by that, thats the way you do it if you dont wanna be havin drug drama cause that will tear all your shit up.

to answer your question ditch that sorry ass fool, make sure you can trust the peole you keep closest to you, and anjoy the friendships you got that are real, and if theres drama, leave. cause you always gotta be able to sit back and chill with somebody. Enjoy gettin high with your homies. Aint no bones about that.
 
I can't say drugs break up friendships. But what they do do many times is bring out the true character of people, and that breaks up friendships. What you need to do with this friend is lose him, becuase from what you said his problems are deeper than weed or any other drug.
 
I say drugs have a positive and negative impact on relationships. I've seen myself and my friends at our best and worst moments. We all drink heavily and this when problems can occur. Also I think most of the time the older you get the more "shady" drug use becomes. I just notice the negatives alot easier now and I know all types of users
 
I've experienced how drugs have ruined friendships. I was living with my best friend about 5 years ago and I got heavily involved in drugs, but she didn't.

I started using meth way too much and we grew apart. We moved to separate houses and we rarely talked for a couple of years.

Somehow though, our relationship got back on track and is stronger than ever now.

The funny thing is, now SHE has a problem with coke.:\
 
wow u guys sound like a couple of queers. Seriously it costs like $3 to get high on weed. Stop being such fags and just smoke bitch
 
BigUnit:
Odviously this thread is way over your head, if you dont understand that once someone shows you that u can't trust them that you distance urself from them then i donno what to thing. go smoke sum schwag u lil beeyotch
 
heavy weed smoking fucks up friendships...especially if that's all you do with your friend anymore.
i've noticed that most people usually "grow up" around 20-25 and realise that they've wasted so much time and effort being stoned for the last 5 years...its amazing how people become so addicted to weed and its whole culture.
i'm trying not to be heaps anti-weed here but smoking weed everyday makes you worry about things like this too much and makes people into sketchy fucks.
 
Thanks to everyone for the replies that they actually put thought into. It just sucks to see a long-time friend just change over night. I am not really saying the drugs is at fault, but I do think it has played a big role in this and all my past situations I've had with friends. But me and this guy go way back and we always watched out for each other. For example, his dad caught us drinking liquor. Even worse, it was his dad's liquor and by that time, we had drank every bottle but one of liquor they had, and they had quite a bit. But his dad kicked me out and told me he would be calling my house. I told my mom what happened and she doesn't care about me drinking so she called his dad and said that I was the one who had the idea of drinking the liquor and my friend didn't really want to do it.

That's just what we have done. It sucks to just see him become so greedy. I saw all this coming when he got put on probation and he just had it for 6 months. Just 6 fucking months. I even told him that I wouldn't do drugs until he got off probation and then as soon as he got off, we would just smoke weed like crazy. But he just kept doing the drugs. I was trying to look out for him because I know he doesn't have it easy at home like me and I didn't want to see him get sent off for some bullshit failing a drug test.

Lately, he hasn't been meeting with his probation officer and he hasn't even been going to school. He's just been staying at people's houses and I find that to be stupid. He is a senior and we only have a few months of school left and we would be done with all of it, but he just thinks everyday is a party and just doesn't care.

He's just hung out with the people who have basically turned him around. Before, it was just have fun every few days or even daily if he didn't have anything to do, but now he has just changed. He hasn't been home in weeks (he is 17) and his parents keep calling my house bitching at me. His parents keep telling me that this started when he started hanging out with me. They keep bitching at my parents as well and a lot of the time, they will call the cops, and the cops will be up at my house like crazy. Yesterday, his parents called the cops saying that he might be with me, and I was at home doing my report for school, and the cop just parked in my driveway and stayed there for 10 minutes. Then he just left and every 30 minutes or so I would see a cop coming back around my house slowly.

It pisses me off because I don't snitch, but it's not my fault that he has been acting like this. I am not going to tell the cops where he is at, but I don't want to be pulled over leaving my house and I get busted.

Tommorrow, I'm just going to call him up and just tell him not to talk to me or call me. I'm not going to have anything to do with him because sooner or later, this all will catch up to him, and I am willing to bet that his parents will make it look like my fault.
 
^ Yeah, this is clearly the best idea.

While you obviously know your friend better than I do, nothing in your post suggests you're losing him specifically over drugs. At base, he's just being a dick. Yes, it sucks to watch someone get really lame after a long period of friendship, but if he's not going to be (1) honest and (2) pleasant with you, that's not a friendship any longer. There's no benefit to being around him; in fact it sounds like there are inherent risks. If you're still in high school, you're going to move on and meet many more interesting people outside your current sphere once you graduate and go to college or enter the working world. Myself, I'm not in contact with anyone outside family that I met before college. Shit like this happens to everyone; if you're wise you'll quickly divorce yourself from something that is only bringing you problems.


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Drugs have never ended any of my friendships.


Drugs get me more friends actually....


Before i ever smoked or did any of the stuff i do now, i had no where near as many friends as i do now. Doing drugs opens your eyes to different kinds of people, cause well, all kinds of people do drugs and.. you gotta have someone to do drugs with (IMO its no fun without other people).

Drugs have opened my perspective to different kinds of people that i would have never hung out with or even met if it werent for the drugs. I've met some of my best friends through drugs.
 
Drugs [read:abuse] has ended a few friendships

Drugs have also bonded me extremly close to a group of friends that are always there thru rough times to high times

Drugs have also taken away many friends permanetly

Drugs have also alienated myself from 'other friends' because they really dont understand addiction and just dont realize it no so easy to change. After years of 'this time will be different', etc. some people start to lose hope.

Thankfully there are true friends that see thru all the bullshit (called life) and are always there for me whether I am a hairbrained mess or a couch surfer or on-top-of-the-world.
 
Drugs have ended my friendships.

My 2 best friends they where my brothers my homies my bros. Then one day shit started going missing here and there maybe it was a pack of zigzags here or a pack of cigs there. I eventually realized it that they where stealing my cash and my moms money. One of them was the kind of kid who would stay high on E for like 4 days at a time.8o 8o well there rotting in there own addiction one of them is a heroin addict and the other smokes rocks. Serves them right
 
Dude, i would just like to say reading your story made me think of one of my own.

the same as you started hanging around other people and stuff and yeah i still see him i am just careful now and if you think that hanging with him might get you into trouble with the law then keep your distance criminal records suck.
 
Drugs are apart of both of your lives but that doesn't mean thats what is breaking up your friendship. If drugs didn't exist (*almost faints*) I would bet that you would still be having trouble with your friendship. People grow up and grow apart, it is the way of life. It sounds like he is just trying to get in with a crowd you don't want to have anything to do with.

Its not the drugs.
 
yea man..drugs make and break friendships...so far for me, ive mostly made friends- but iv elost some too
 
I had a friend who doesn't like me anymore because of drugs. I'm not the only person he stopped talking too either...all because of drugs.

He had this idea in his head that he needed to save us from ourselves. Which is ridiculous because our drug use is rather low/responsible/infrequent.

Anyway, one day he told me: "I hope you choke on your drugs and die...never talk to me again."

That hurt.

He was a hypocrite and a half though. A borderline alcoholic who would yell at my friends for smoking a weed spliff in a parking lot (public place) whilst he chugged back on his beer. (The idea being that smoking weed in public is bad/illegal)
 
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