Woodsong
Bluelighter
- Joined
- May 2, 2011
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This past month has probably been the hardest period of my life...
It started when my dad died, very suddenly in his sleep, on April 26th... My stepmother called me at 6:20 that morning, right after my alarm went off, and told me. I was just ... in complete and utter shock. I didn't know what to do, I moved in a trance to take a shower, put my clothes on, go pick up my co-worker then head over to my parents' house. There were many people from their church there trying to comfort my stepmom. I stood there and cried, at a loss of what else to do, completely numb... I've always had a very dysfunctional family, but we were trying to pull things together lately, trying to act like a family should... My dad wanted that more than anything...
I went to my boyfriend's house that night, desperate for whatever comfort I could get... He had recently begun taking Lexapro, an antidepressant. All he could say was "I'm sorry, I dunno what to tell you, I dunno how I can help, I'm sorry, etcetera." (Give me a fucking HUG or SOMETHING, motherfucker, god damn...) It's like the medication has robbed him of any empathetic capacity whatsoever... Sure he was a little bit selfish before he started taking the meds, but now it just seems like other peoples' problems and affairs don't really concern him or have anything to do with him, period... Or at least mine don't...
A week later, he broke up with me...
He can't afford to live down here anymore, he says. He needs to go back to school, get moving with his life so he's not scraping by paycheck to paycheck at Starbucks, and he has to do this back home, in Vermont, clear on the other side of the country... He still loves me, he says, we're still friends, but he has to do this, he says. I'm not exactly capable of dropping the rest of my life here in Georgia and moving 1,200 miles away with little promise of being able to support myself... God knows I wish I could follow him. He had been trying hard to convince me to move up there, then says that he wouldn't have time for a boyfriend if he was going to school and all that anyway .. which is bullshit... He had bugged me, and bugged me, and bugged me, for months and months, for me to give him a chance... He moved all the way back down here again on the off-chance that I might get with him. And I did. I finally gave in... I didn't know where the relationship was going at first, I wasn't sure of it at all... Then, slowly, I began to fall pretty much madly and hopelessly in love with him... I had finally found something that I preferred over artificial opiate-induced happiness... (And believe me, that's saying something...) But the more I grew to love him, it seemed, the less affection he began showing... He seemed to grow farther away as time went on, and then we had a little conversation... He hates it here, hates everything about Georgia, he wants me to move with him back to Vermont, where we can go to school and get real jobs and live a happy life together... Sure I'd like to go up there to a beautiful part of New England to start anew with the love of my life, but I have a family here that's trying to mend itself, I have a $15 an hour job with almost complete job security, I can't just leave... I WANT to, but I just ... I don't know... I don't know... And by that point in the relationship, I wasn't really sure how much he even really still loved me, given the attitude he'd been showing... So much uncertainty to the whole situation... And it ended in him leaving me here. My love, my best friend, left me here alone to go do .. whatever the hell it is he plans to do... I don't really have any other friends... He was all I had left that brought me any real happiness. He brought me out of the deep, dark hole that I had dug myself into with opiates...
... I don't know where to go from here. What to do with myself. I'm a simple person, I don't need a nice house with nice cars and nice things and lots of money... All I need, all I really need in life ... is love... I tried to fight off the loneliness before we got together with handfuls of roxi 30's and lortabs and dilaudid and heroin and whatever I could get my hands on really... And now it's back; that debilitating, soul-crushing loneliness... I can't take it anymore... I want to say I was better off being a junkie without a soul than having my soul crushed again by another failed relationship with the "love of my life"... He keeps telling me I'll be fine, that we're still friends and he still loves me and Hey, at least we had a good relationship, right? Fuck...
Just ... fuck... I dunno what else to say... All I wanna do right now is shove three or four roxi 30's up my nose and slip back into that warm, blissful, apathetic oblivion that I love so much... Can't though... Fucking Subutex... By God I think I will this weekend though... I wanna get high again so bad right now I can't fucking stand it...
It started when my dad died, very suddenly in his sleep, on April 26th... My stepmother called me at 6:20 that morning, right after my alarm went off, and told me. I was just ... in complete and utter shock. I didn't know what to do, I moved in a trance to take a shower, put my clothes on, go pick up my co-worker then head over to my parents' house. There were many people from their church there trying to comfort my stepmom. I stood there and cried, at a loss of what else to do, completely numb... I've always had a very dysfunctional family, but we were trying to pull things together lately, trying to act like a family should... My dad wanted that more than anything...
I went to my boyfriend's house that night, desperate for whatever comfort I could get... He had recently begun taking Lexapro, an antidepressant. All he could say was "I'm sorry, I dunno what to tell you, I dunno how I can help, I'm sorry, etcetera." (Give me a fucking HUG or SOMETHING, motherfucker, god damn...) It's like the medication has robbed him of any empathetic capacity whatsoever... Sure he was a little bit selfish before he started taking the meds, but now it just seems like other peoples' problems and affairs don't really concern him or have anything to do with him, period... Or at least mine don't...
A week later, he broke up with me...
He can't afford to live down here anymore, he says. He needs to go back to school, get moving with his life so he's not scraping by paycheck to paycheck at Starbucks, and he has to do this back home, in Vermont, clear on the other side of the country... He still loves me, he says, we're still friends, but he has to do this, he says. I'm not exactly capable of dropping the rest of my life here in Georgia and moving 1,200 miles away with little promise of being able to support myself... God knows I wish I could follow him. He had been trying hard to convince me to move up there, then says that he wouldn't have time for a boyfriend if he was going to school and all that anyway .. which is bullshit... He had bugged me, and bugged me, and bugged me, for months and months, for me to give him a chance... He moved all the way back down here again on the off-chance that I might get with him. And I did. I finally gave in... I didn't know where the relationship was going at first, I wasn't sure of it at all... Then, slowly, I began to fall pretty much madly and hopelessly in love with him... I had finally found something that I preferred over artificial opiate-induced happiness... (And believe me, that's saying something...) But the more I grew to love him, it seemed, the less affection he began showing... He seemed to grow farther away as time went on, and then we had a little conversation... He hates it here, hates everything about Georgia, he wants me to move with him back to Vermont, where we can go to school and get real jobs and live a happy life together... Sure I'd like to go up there to a beautiful part of New England to start anew with the love of my life, but I have a family here that's trying to mend itself, I have a $15 an hour job with almost complete job security, I can't just leave... I WANT to, but I just ... I don't know... I don't know... And by that point in the relationship, I wasn't really sure how much he even really still loved me, given the attitude he'd been showing... So much uncertainty to the whole situation... And it ended in him leaving me here. My love, my best friend, left me here alone to go do .. whatever the hell it is he plans to do... I don't really have any other friends... He was all I had left that brought me any real happiness. He brought me out of the deep, dark hole that I had dug myself into with opiates...
... I don't know where to go from here. What to do with myself. I'm a simple person, I don't need a nice house with nice cars and nice things and lots of money... All I need, all I really need in life ... is love... I tried to fight off the loneliness before we got together with handfuls of roxi 30's and lortabs and dilaudid and heroin and whatever I could get my hands on really... And now it's back; that debilitating, soul-crushing loneliness... I can't take it anymore... I want to say I was better off being a junkie without a soul than having my soul crushed again by another failed relationship with the "love of my life"... He keeps telling me I'll be fine, that we're still friends and he still loves me and Hey, at least we had a good relationship, right? Fuck...
Just ... fuck... I dunno what else to say... All I wanna do right now is shove three or four roxi 30's up my nose and slip back into that warm, blissful, apathetic oblivion that I love so much... Can't though... Fucking Subutex... By God I think I will this weekend though... I wanna get high again so bad right now I can't fucking stand it...