Hi. Me and my boyfriend are wanting to try some domination together for the first time and i would like some suggestions (i will be his slave) as to what he could do to me. nothing majorly extreme like shitting on me lol, so far we've got spanking, commanding, teasing/holding off orgasms, kissing feet etc... just looking for some ideas. we got a collar and leash, blindfold, and something to bind my wrists.
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Domination - ideas?
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NeighborhoodThreat
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There are plenty of "guides" out there online - do a Google search for "BDSM basics" or "bondage guide" - something to that effect will give you some good results. You're really just gonna want to ask him how he wants to dominate you and punish you, etc. Everybody has different boundaries so you'll want to explore what yours are...and go from there.
^ yes, and make sure you set boundaries in advance and a safe word (if you don't want "no" to mean no, I personally find it a turn-on).
Also, it might feel silly the first time or two and you might get giggly or whatever - that's totally normal, just roll with it. Don't take it too seriously. It's a new journey for both of you and you'll find out a lot about yourselves and each other in the process. Just play with it and enjoy! Don't worry too much about getting it "right".
Also, it might feel silly the first time or two and you might get giggly or whatever - that's totally normal, just roll with it. Don't take it too seriously. It's a new journey for both of you and you'll find out a lot about yourselves and each other in the process. Just play with it and enjoy! Don't worry too much about getting it "right".
_mistresspoppy_
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Clothespins- they're much cheaper than clamps and you can find some in varying degrees of strength. I won't specify exactly where to Clip them, use your imagination. For a really wicked bite, attach a string through all the clothespins and yank the string, ripping off all of the clothes pins at once quite painfully. Not sure how intense you want to go, that can be pretty painful. You can just go into the kitchen and raid the cabinet- wooden spoons, spatulas for spanking, a fork or butter knife placed in the freezer can feel like a cutting razor blade. ginger or Minty toothpaste can create a tingly feeling when spread on sensitive areas. Ice dragged across the skin or inserted. However- ice can "get lost" in the rectum, and you'll just have to squirm until it fully melts out. Be careful for frostbite, though I've used ice without any problems.
DeathDomokun
Ex-Bluelighter
Now lets get this straight, there's a big difference between domination, bondage, and masochism/sadism. If you don't enjoy/want to be hurt badly, don't give him the go ahead to do so. Letting someone tie you up/surrendering your ability to escape, as well as any and all control of a situation, takes a lot of trust in the other person, as well as faith.
If you like being submissive, sight deprivation can really increase sensations, and some people like knife play. Even running a cold butter knife along someone who has been blinded for a lengthy period can feel very intense.
Really it depends on the both of you. Having a weird safe word is good (something like batman or puzzle or pizza, anything really)
You really have to test the waters and work out some boundaries and what you're comfortable with before you dive into the deep end.
If you like being submissive, sight deprivation can really increase sensations, and some people like knife play. Even running a cold butter knife along someone who has been blinded for a lengthy period can feel very intense.
Really it depends on the both of you. Having a weird safe word is good (something like batman or puzzle or pizza, anything really)
You really have to test the waters and work out some boundaries and what you're comfortable with before you dive into the deep end.