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Do you need friends to be happy?

EP158207

EP158207

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I have 'friends' but not close ones. They dont come to visit when I'm ill, or let me talk to them about problems. THey also make jokes about my skin colour often. ITs getting to the point that I'm not happy being around them, as I'm always the butt of (racist) jokes or just ignored when in need.

So I'm thinking of cutting these toxic people out of my life. But can you really be happy with no friends? I have a wonderful partner and a good parents but no siblings as I'm an only child.

What do I do?
 
G'day mate

First off I'd definitely get rid of these "friends" you speak of... Sounds like they're no good and they cause more drama than happiness, which is definitely not what friends are about.

Making jokes about your skin tone is pretty shit of them and if they disappear when you are in an hour of need, well that's just really not good friends at all!


I'd spend more time with your partner and family if I were you, it's never impossible or too late to make friends, I myself found myself in your situation recently (but without a partner :() and I ended up moving away for my work/education and it turned out to be the best move I ever made.


Keep your chin up and don't let these people bring you down, do what makes you happy and don't let these bitches being you down, know what I'm saying gurlfraaaand *snaps fingers in Z formation* mmmhmmmm?
 
^I'm with afterstyle on this one, you don't need people like these in your life. To answer your question though, I don't think you need friends to be happy, as there are other things you can be happy about. Also too, you only need a few close friends who you can trust without judging your skin color etc.

I'm just the type of person that if certain people don't treat me well, then might as well be alone, as long as I have a good job, a place to stay, food to eat then I'm all good.
 
EP158207 said:
I have 'friends' but not close ones. They dont come to visit when I'm ill, or let me talk to them about problems. THey also make jokes about my skin colour often. ITs getting to the point that I'm not happy being around them, as I'm always the butt of (racist) jokes or just ignored when in need.

So I'm thinking of cutting these toxic people out of my life. But can you really be happy with no friends? I have a wonderful partner and a good parents but no siblings as I'm an only child.

What do I do?
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these people dont sound like your friends, they sound like fair weather aquaintances.

when you are friends and young you have people you hang out with that you grow out of. these people sound shit because they offer you nothing and enjoy lowering your self esteem for whatever benefit they gain from it.

i'd move on a make more friend which you have to make effort to do and is easier said than done, but is still doable
 
I would focus my time and energy into.my family and my partner. If you are really feeling like you neef to spend time with people outside of your family and partner then you could try a meet up group of people with similar interests or you could try taking up a new hobby altogether.

You definitely need those awful people, that are not your friends, out of your life. Life is way too short to be treated that way by anyone. You don't need anyone like that dragging you down and making you feel bad about who you are.
 
Thank you guys for the advice .You guys have echoed my own thoughts, about getting rid of them. I feel better not speaking to them. At the age of 28 I'm not usre making new friends will be easy, but I will try. These people I have known since HS, so we have just osrt of grown up together.
 
You'll find it pretty easy to make new friends with your partner and they will be much better than the ones you currently have (if you could even call those people friends).

Plus couple-y friends are great, double dates and nights out where no one feels like a third wheel.
 
Get rid of the negative people in your life. You don't need them. You CAN find new friends. :)
Couple friends are really nice too.
 
yeah by 28 there are only 2 people from school i'm friends with and those i hung out with in my hometown were just filler cos i never see them anymore.

takes effort on your part to make friends- make the effort
 
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