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Greenlighter
Growing up, I was under the impression that you loved your family unconditionally, even your extended family. The older I get the more I'm realizing that's a bunch of shit. Should you feel obligated to unconditionally love people who you'd not even be friends with if it weren't for being related by blood or marriage?
Let me paint a picture.
I have a cousin who's about a year or two younger than me. He's been in trouble time and time again. Now I've had my share of problems with the law and otherwise, but I don't go around acting like getting arrested makes me cool. Nor do I, when faced with being caught by my parents for having weed, roll over on my cousins and say it was theirs... especially when it wasn't in the first place. Now maybe he's grown up and matured a bit, but you wouldn't know it by the fact that he got all fucked up and put his car into a tree, causing him to have to get facial reconstructive surgery. Large price to pay considering he's got 3 kids to take care of. That's besides the point, however. He's also got a wife who's dying of cancer. She's been going through chemo for about 2 years now. It's really unfortunate, but my other cousin (and sister of the cousin I was already talking about) makes sure to let me know at the last family gathering that "karma's a bitch" when talking about her sister-in-law. The girl's dying of cancer and because she was rude to my cousin once... my cousin holds a grudge which includes gratification that this girl has cancer and is dying. Now, if you don't like someone because of a past experience... fine, but to actually say "karma's a bitch" in reference to her having cancer? Hmmm... bit much, no?
Aside from that... their mother (my aunt by marriage as she married my mothers brother), has always been such a negative, gossipy, chatty cathy of a woman. She never has anything positive to say, is a know it all, bossy, and just overwhelmingly uncomfortable to be around. She used to come to our house when I was little and boss me around and/or yell at me for doing things that were common practice in our own house, but because they didn't do it that way in their house... I was in the wrong. She also likes to talk down to me on the regular. I forgot to mention... my cousins... are also both the most negative people you'll ever meet.
So am I an asshole? Or is it ok for me to not like members of my extended family let alone love them unconditionally? I feel that they offer me nothing in life and that I offer them nothing back. I prefer to avoid them more often than not anyways, but am I in the wrong?
Let me paint a picture.
I have a cousin who's about a year or two younger than me. He's been in trouble time and time again. Now I've had my share of problems with the law and otherwise, but I don't go around acting like getting arrested makes me cool. Nor do I, when faced with being caught by my parents for having weed, roll over on my cousins and say it was theirs... especially when it wasn't in the first place. Now maybe he's grown up and matured a bit, but you wouldn't know it by the fact that he got all fucked up and put his car into a tree, causing him to have to get facial reconstructive surgery. Large price to pay considering he's got 3 kids to take care of. That's besides the point, however. He's also got a wife who's dying of cancer. She's been going through chemo for about 2 years now. It's really unfortunate, but my other cousin (and sister of the cousin I was already talking about) makes sure to let me know at the last family gathering that "karma's a bitch" when talking about her sister-in-law. The girl's dying of cancer and because she was rude to my cousin once... my cousin holds a grudge which includes gratification that this girl has cancer and is dying. Now, if you don't like someone because of a past experience... fine, but to actually say "karma's a bitch" in reference to her having cancer? Hmmm... bit much, no?
Aside from that... their mother (my aunt by marriage as she married my mothers brother), has always been such a negative, gossipy, chatty cathy of a woman. She never has anything positive to say, is a know it all, bossy, and just overwhelmingly uncomfortable to be around. She used to come to our house when I was little and boss me around and/or yell at me for doing things that were common practice in our own house, but because they didn't do it that way in their house... I was in the wrong. She also likes to talk down to me on the regular. I forgot to mention... my cousins... are also both the most negative people you'll ever meet.
So am I an asshole? Or is it ok for me to not like members of my extended family let alone love them unconditionally? I feel that they offer me nothing in life and that I offer them nothing back. I prefer to avoid them more often than not anyways, but am I in the wrong?
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