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AcidRAEn

AcidRAEn

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Do you believe in "true love" or "soul mates"?
If so, do you believe that it's something that occurs only once in a lifetime?

I used to be very cynical about love, and in some ways maybe I still am. When I met my boyfriend (well, I guess he's technically an ex) it felt like we had known each other our entire lives. There was an immediate, intense connection. He said he loved me after less than a month and the shocked look on his face confirmed that he was being genuine (me being the stubborn fuck I am, I smiled and said thanks for fear of getting too serious too early).
No one has ever understood me the way he does, he even taught me how to love myself. He says I'm his soul-mate..that he knew it the second he saw me. You don't know me fellow BLers..but this is the kind of thing I scoff at. Soul mates...what a load of shit. But at the same time....

He just finished one year of a 13 year prison sentence (it will be reduced to 10..but still) and as much as I love him..I just can't wait that long. I can't put my life on hold and pay for his mistakes..but I'm afraid. Afraid I'll never love again, that I'll never experience that kind of happiness again. Afraid that I'm just destined to be alone.

Can you *truly* be in love more than once? Is there even such a thing as true romantic love?
 
I think what I'm afraid of most is that he's the only person who could ever love me. I'm not particularly attractive by societal standards (unless I see myself differently than others) I've always been on the "thick" side...even as a child. I didn't lose my virginity until i was 19 and I didn't really seriously date anyone until I met him around my 23rd birthday.

I'm going to stop now..this is starting to sound like a late night pity-fest. FML.
 
No, I don't believe that there is one soul mate. I do believe in love though. I think there are many people who you can love and connect with.

I think you can find someone else if you want to. There will be others who love you.

And I almost guarantee you see yourself differently than others do. You probably have low self esteem. It's okay to be on the "thick" side too. Many guys are into curvy women (as well as slim women), there are a TON of guys out there. Some will find you attractive, some won't. That's the beauty of so many different people :)
 
no. i did when i was a kid, but a few relationships later? nooooooope. i thought i had one a few times, just chemicals like oxytocin and shit firing off in your brain.
 
There are certain relationships that form between people that can be described as such. Do I believe? I believe I have found the love of my life. I can therefore call her my soul mate. She is my everything. I have never fallen for someone so much in my entire life. It is a truly amazing feeling, to actually have someone in my life that I want to be with forever. This is true love, if ever I have sensed it. <3
 
soul mate said:
There are certain relationships that form between people that can be described as such. Do I believe? I believe I have found the love of my life. I can therefore call her my soul mate. She is my everything. I have never fallen for someone so much in my entire life. It is a truly amazing feeling, to actually have someone in my life that I want to be with forever. This is true love, if ever I have sensed it. <3
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While I believe 100% that you found true love, have you ever thought, what if you didn't meet her? Do you not think you could have met someone else? I really think you could have. I think you would have met someone else who would have been your true love.
I don't mean to put a damper on anything. I just think that we all have multiple people who we can have "true love" with. :) I believe I have found this person as well. But I also believe that, if I didn't meet him, I could have been just as happy with someone else. Maybe it would have taken longer or something, but I think it would have happened.
 
There are too many people in the world to only be able to experience true love with just one person. It's not the end of the world for you and you're most likely not going to spend your life alone. The very fact you think this is a possibility is an indication of low self esteem. It's something you will have to keep working on. No one can break your cycle of low self esteem but you. No one can make you happy or love yourself, only you can.
 
I believe in "true love" or "soul mates iv been with my wife, soul mate for just over 18yrs we are both 37 shes 3days older we grew up together went through school together even went out with each other in second school we have been best mates for over 20yrs we go clubbing together take drugs together hang round together there is no one i would rather do anything with other than my wife and i honestly think every one has a soul m8 somewere
 
I believe in soul mates.. my husband is mine (cheesy I know but true) not gonna go into all the "love" stuff but everyday im grateful that iv found my soulmate.... some people arent so lucky xxx
 
bimbam said:
I believe in soul mates.. my husband is mine (cheesy I know but true) not gonna go into all the "love" stuff but everyday im grateful that iv found my soulmate.... some people arent so lucky xxx
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lol Sucks to be them.
 
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