I'm not sure if I'm getting exactly what you're communicating. I think you're questioning whether women will cock-block or distort one's image with mirrors and stealth in order to bring him down in the eyes of his co-workers.
Speaking from the experience of my childhood and youth, combined with 20+ years of working primarily as an independent contractor with both women and men, I can answer emphatically, "yes." I hope that's the form of answer you're lookign for.
I reached womanhood many years ago, but I was quite tomboy-ish in childhood. In adulthood, I'm neither butch nor femme, I'm just me.
I have worked for, and with, many clients as an employee, employer and consultant and I can certainly testify to the fact that while men *can* be loud-mouthed, heavy-handed blowhards at their worst, women can at their worst puurr at you for days, confiding in you about work, their lives, their children and their outside life, establishing what you think is at least a workable professional relationship even if you would prefer to keep personal material outside of the relationship.
The same woman, though, who has spent days confiding in you her worries about her son and the chances of success of the direct-marketing campaign, will quite casually turn around the following day and lay you and your entire department off with a smile. With no apology. She will wreak havoc on you without batting an eyelash.
So, yes, it does seem to work like that. Not all women are like that by any means. And when I described the bad behavior of some men, I wasn't condemning the entire half of the species as blowhard, jock-grabbing, arrogant, lying pricks who will steal the last dime out of your granny's bra while verbally mincing you into chopped liver in front of your entire staff.
But generally, a certain type of guy will take you down loudly and publicly, in front of your work peers, or worse, your staff. They will let you know they're your enemies. A woman who has a similar opinion of you, will have you over for her granny's 100th birthday, seat you right next to her, tell you to say "cheese" when the shutter clicks, and go on (into the next week, in public) about how lovely the day was. Then disassemble you brick by brick over the same week, disseminating whispered character defamation that leaves the entire team with the idea that you've molested kittens in their graves and enjoyed it immensely. Jeez, I hope that had something to do with your question. It's getting very late here.
It may seem from my response that I harbor a lot more resentment towards women, which is not accurate. What I tried to do was to mirror the actions of the different groups in my response. Men who beahve badly tend to do so abruptly and openly with a lot of loud braggadocio and crowing. Women who behave badly tend to set up their plans behind the scenes and let their plans unroll as they go about their daily business; likewise, the conclusion of their well-laid plans is rarely as up-front or brief as those of their male counterparts.
I don't really think either is worse. Although as a woman, I find it easier to deal with man-style. It's just more obvious and upfront, like a 2-point play that's based on blocking hard enough and long enough, while hoping the guy jumping over the bodies will jump high enough. It is what it is.
There's not a female equivalent in that analogy. Or if there is, I don't know it, because I don't know much about Am. football. It's good to understand how the schemes of different people function in order to recognize them and, hopefully, avoid becoming entangled in them. That's basically why I wrote a book on it here in this thread. But I hope that in some way I answered a bit of your question.
Then there's my str8 female cousin who, unbeknownst to me, would cock-block every male trying to hook up with me when we were out at night at a bar, playing pool or something. It took me a LONG time to figure out certain social dynamics, and I only heard about this from guys who were friends but were trying to get with me. I still don't understand that one. Maybe someone can shed some light? I don't want to derail the thread, but maybe it's related?
