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Did this Girl think I was a Loser or did she like me ??

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oqj

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So I met this random girl who approached me at the bus stop and she asked personal questions and stuff.

I was answering but I seemed to be quite shy/nervous.

After some time the bus came and she said,"Bye" and left with her friend.


After 2 weeks, I was at the shopping centre and a man pat on my back and said , " She want's to talk to ya" and it was the girl.

She talked to me and stuff; looked very happy when she saw me. She was talking about how she loved to party and stuff and didn't want to study.

I advised her to finish school and she was reluctant about it. Then I talked about her goals and she said she was happy.

Just before the bus came I asked for her number. She said she didn't have a phone and told we would see each other again.

SHE DIDN'T OFFER ANY OTHER CONTACT.

When I got on the bus I saw her STARE at me till I could see her NO MORE. :?

what's up with this girl??

I NEVER SAW HER AGAIN :(
 
lol it sounds like she wasn't really that serious about seeing you again. i would forget about her.

from your post you appear needy (which is unattractive), if this is your response to a random girl coming up to you and talking to you.

i do like the idea of leaving stuff up to fate though. "we will see eachother again" its like she knows the force or something

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This sounds like something out of a dream, disjointed scenes.. random conversation etc.. Who was this man?

More importantly, a girl in this day an age who doesn't have a phone.. saying she couldn't remember her number would of sounded more believable. She sounds like those eccentric type of girls, like Kate Winslet from Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless mind.. infact this whole scenario seems to play out like the train scene in that movie.
 
malakaix said:
This sounds like something out of a dream, disjointed scenes.. random conversation etc.. Who was this man?

More importantly, a girl in this day an age who doesn't have a phone.. saying she couldn't remember her number would of sounded more believable. She sounds like those eccentric type of girls, like Kate Winslet from Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless mind.. infact this whole scenario seems to play out like the train scene in that movie.
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I don't know who she is.... That was the first time i met her and she approached me 3 times. I never even approached in the first place.... so that's when I grabbed my balls and asked her number but no success......
 
Mysterie said:
lol it sounds like she wasn't really that serious about seeing you again. i would forget about her.

from your post you appear needy (which is unattractive), if this is your response to a random girl coming up to you and talking to you.

i do like the idea of leaving stuff up to fate though. "we will see eachother again" its like she knows the force or something

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I couldn't care less if i approached a girl first and she didn't want to give her number...... Fair enough since she doesn't know me or trust me. But this Random girl approached me 3 times from her side and didn't give any contact.... It does sub-consciously bug me if you know what I mean.... i have flash-backs and think what simply went wrong??

What do you think her intention was.... Did she even like me??
 
oqj said:
I don't know who she is.... That was the first time i met her and she approached me 3 times. I never even approached in the first place.... so that's when I grabbed my balls and asked her number but no success......
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I missed the quotation marks on 'man' i meant the man who patted you on the back?
 
malakaix said:
I missed the quotation marks on 'man' i meant the man who patted you on the back?
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oh ok... It was a Random Old man ... Sitting next to me . She was with her friends. The first time I met she was with a friend and they were both smiling at me and quickly peeked towards my crotch (it was weird). The second time she was with the same girl and they smiled and said " Hi" and talked. The third time she was with another 2 friends and she went into the shopping mall and came back by herself and struck a conversation with me. This was the time I asked her number when she was by herself.

SO...ANY CLUES ??
 
how old are you? how old is she?

it kind of makes sense if you are both 16
 
girls are kind of like that at that age. like they will be more forward in coming up to you and saying hi and asking questions and stuff. then its not inconceivable that she either, thought you weren't being very responsive,for it to be worth it for her to make sure you see eachother again. or maybe she just likes to keep things spontaneous and mysterious in the form of you possibly bumping into each other again (if the city you live in is smallish).

i don't really have any of the answers, only she would know, and she might not even know herself. you don't need to place your self value on what some girl thought of you, after meeting you 3 times shortly.
 
Mysterie said:
girls are kind of like that at that age. like they will be more forward in coming up to you and saying hi and asking questions and stuff. then its not inconceivable that she either, thought you weren't being very responsive,for it to be worth it for her to make sure you see eachother again. or maybe she just likes to keep things spontaneous and mysterious in the form of you possibly bumping into each other again (if the city you live in is smallish).

i don't really have any of the answers, only she would know, and she might not even know herself. you don't need to place your self value on what some girl thought of you, after meeting you 3 times shortly.
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So do you think that Initially she was attracted to me and liked me , but something in the conversation blew her off.

I am just asking this as well ...... ( Do you think she was into having one -night stand or was she a serious relationship type).....
 
she might have just been in a friendly mood and wanted to have some fun by talking to a guy she saw who was her age. as for one night stand vs serious relationship. i dont even think it was on the radar for her, unless she was giving you indication of interest (e.g. touching you, flirting etc)

i have no way of knowing how easy this chick was, you need to try not thinking so much imo.
 
Mysterie said:
she might have just been in a friendly mood and wanted to have some fun by talking to a guy she saw who was her age. as for one night stand vs serious relationship. i dont even think it was on the radar for her, unless she was giving you indication of interest (e.g. touching you, flirting etc)

i have no way of knowing how easy this chick was, you need to try not thinking so much imo.
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thanks:) But if she started the conversation always, did she find me attractive ??

Besides this i have quite a number of Random girls approaching me and starting a conversation. Some girls like touch my arm subtly, shoulder, or play with my hair, give me a high five, hugs or tease me. AND THESE ARE GIRLS I HAVE JUST MET RANDOMLY THE FIRST TIME OR KNOWN FOR LESS THAN 2- 3 WEEKS.
However when the girls flirt with me on the first meeting, they talk they seem quite nervous (play with their hair) and listen to my conversation with full attention. However when I ask for their number they reject ( just like the girl above). And the weird thing is they stare at me when I leave as if they are in love.

So if the same thing is happening with many girls who approach me , what am I doing wrong??
 
are you doing nofap or something, you must have a confident aura for random girls to be coming up to you to talk.

if things are, as you say they are, it doesn't make sense that they would reject giving you their number..

i would pay more attention to facial expressions and body language if you want to gauge why you are being rejected. how long after them coming up to you do you ask their number?

some girls will be shy so they will just say no automatically, some girls might fear some kind of commitment at that age. if you try and make it sound fun and light like "theres this really great movie i want to see thats coming out in a week, why don't you come watch it with me. whats your number?" or something. i am the wrong person to be asking tbh, i have never been on a real date and im 21 lul
 
Mysterie said:
are you doing nofap or something, you must have a confident aura for random girls to be coming up to you to talk.

if things are, as you say they are, it doesn't make sense that they would reject giving you their number..

i would pay more attention to facial expressions and body language if you want to gauge why you are being rejected. how long after them coming up to you do you ask their number?

some girls will be shy so they will just say no automatically, some girls might fear some kind of commitment at that age. if you try and make it sound fun and light like "theres this really great movie i want to see thats coming out in a week, why don't you come watch it with me. whats your number?" or something. i am the wrong person to be asking tbh, i have never been on a real date and im 21 lul
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Well , thanks for ur aura compliment:) Although I must say I am shy around girls big time and I mean it:) I have learnt to fake myself sometimes = D. But like the girl in the Original Thread and her friend were always smiling and giggling and looking down at me. Sometimes girls giggle when walking past me.

But what bothers me is some girls..... For instance this Random girl who works at the charity organisation was talking really nice , giving me high fives, asking stuff about me and she had my contact details from my receipt and she never ended up e-mailing me.

Some girls get touchy when I meet them first and then they leave abruptly(Like my friend is waiting ).

Some girls I have just met in class, and known for 4 weeks or less, talk to me about how they feel sick or their body is in pain and then I respond to them by saying they should see a doctor and they reply by saying " I went with my boyfriend to the Doctor and it still is bad".

Sometimes a Girl I have just met asks me to hang around and then says, "Brother".
 
sounds like you need a little more experience in the flirting department or social skills department...when a girl mentions a pain here or there, tease her a little, tell her to stop being such a baby, see her response..dont be proper joe and tell her to go to a doctor, that is just lame and not fun..girls like FUN guys, they do not like boring, proper guys especially at that age...it just sounds like u need to loosen up and jokem around with them more..

one thing you are doing right is u have some type of aura that drives attractive girls to just walk and flirt, touch you..u just need the personality to match it..a fun, charismatic personality means so much in the dating scene..ive known very hot girls that were plain and boring, no sense of humor and it was a buzzkill but a lesser looking girl could have a great sense of humor and charisma and it makes her much more appealing.. jesus, even good looking guys i know dont have that happen to them, maybe once in a great while but thats it.. problem is, charisma and being energetic/fun is hard to teach and can take a long time to develop..trial and error..
 
The only way to know whether or not a girl likes you is to make a move (at the right time) the rest is just pussyfooting about the issue. and if you miss an opportunity to make a move when she's receptive it's game over usually.
 
belfort said:
sounds like you need a little more experience in the flirting department or social skills department...when a girl mentions a pain here or there, tease her a little, tell her to stop being such a baby, see her response..dont be proper joe and tell her to go to a doctor, that is just lame and not fun..girls like FUN guys, they do not like boring, proper guys especially at that age...it just sounds like u need to loosen up and jokem around with them more..

one thing you are doing right is u have some type of aura that drives attractive girls to just walk and flirt, touch you..u just need the personality to match it..a fun, charismatic personality means so much in the dating scene..ive known very hot girls that were plain and boring, no sense of humor and it was a buzzkill but a lesser looking girl could have a great sense of humor and charisma and it makes her much more appealing.. jesus, even good looking guys i know dont have that happen to them, maybe once in a great while but thats it.. problem is, charisma and being energetic/fun is hard to teach and can take a long time to develop..trial and error..
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Thanks :)

1) So what you are trying to convey is the Girls are initially attracted to me at first, but because I don't flirt back enough at the beginning they Auto-reject me by calling " Brother" or saying "They have a boyfriend" ,,, etc.

2) Also what do you think was the intention of the girl in my original post (The girl who approached me at the bus stop and didn't give her number when I asked for it).........
 
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