Dealing with a new type of partner... Ideas?

[_mistresspoppy_]

So I have this... gentleman friend. Well, a male friend that is NOT a gentleman, which is why we get along so well.
In my "friend with benefits" relationships, I'm typically the sexy, confident one that tends to make blushing virgins nervous. With this guy, I feel inexperienced and inadequate. I'm not good at being on top, and I feel like I'm always disappointing him. He claims to be a "feminist" in that he likes the girl on top. And then proceeds to throw her around and choke her. (Completely consensual, of course) He always calls me back, though. So I must not be that awful. I can't figure this guy out. He's got really pissed when I called him "babe" during sex, yet he introduces me to his friends as his "Puta"(Not the same connotation, but still). But he always calls me first and wants to hook up again.
So, first... Guys, are there any creative things a girl can do that will really impress you? I feel like I'm boring to him. I've always been the submissive one. And I still am, I just need to be a bit more active.
Also, plain sex with him is pretty good, but if I egg him on a little bit, even just joking, he gets amazingly aggressive and sex is PERFECT. But is that a good idea? I'm not genuinely trying to make him mad at me, just make things interesting. I really like hooking up with this guy, and I'm afraid he'll get bored and move on, though we're not in a relationship beyond the sex.

 

[pofacedhoe]

so the sex is amazing and you dont want it to get boring. if he's into s&m type shit (and to me that includes choking a woman you're shagging) just do some s&m shit, bite him a bit or grab him aggressively and dig your fingers in. maybe get a paddle and whack him (consensually of course)

puta (something i had to look on google) isn't an endearing term. i dont see what is feminist about a woman riding a man either, its just standard that people have more than one sex position:D

 

[Pagey]

Yeah, if 'puta' has the same connotations as it does in french ('pute'), it's pretty insulting... :/
As for making him mad at you, I dunno. I mean it might piss him off for good one day so I'd recommend trying to find other ways to spice up your sex life (say, stuff like umm - role play, s&m as pofacedhoe mentioned, doing it in more risky places...you know) - one of my friends has had this sex friend for a few months and has started falling for him, she's been dropping a few hints here and there and he's really, really not appreciating it. In that type of relationship, since there's always a bit of a latent risk that at least one of the people involved will develop stronger feelings, I've got the impression that if you don't, you tend to be more susceptible to suggestions of being an actual couple because you want to make it so clear you're not.
That might be why he really doesn't like you calling him 'babe'.

 

[opium]

Yeah sounds like your catching feelings...
Anyway, like the above said..put out what you receive. If he likes being aggressive, do it back.
If he's into that s&m , then hop on board.

If you keep pissing him off it will eventually annoy him, then drive him away.

 

[nooneanymore]

He claims to be a "feminist" in that he likes the girl on top. And then proceeds to throw her around and choke her. (Completely consensual, of course)

LOL. News flash, sex always gets boring. That's why a relationship should also based on other things.

Your post makes me think that you're just a young kid who grew up on the net and doesn't know anything about the people or the world.


There's probably some nice guy out there that you could have a real relationship with but instead you're wasting your time with this idiot who probably has no respect for you. Some people learn the hard way.

 

[sms143]

I agree that the OP is developing feelings for this guy.

 

[Lysis]

he introduces me to his friends as his "Puta"(Not the same connotation, but still).

He introduces you to his friends as "whore?" Is this the same controlling guy that was like 50 or something you posted about before?