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LilikoiMoon

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Apart from sex, do you believe a younger guy can really have a successful relationship with an older woman? Do they really have anything in common? Kids 21-25 always wanna hang with me for some reason. Ya, mommy issues probably.


If I had sex with this guy, it would be hella fun, but I'd probably scare him. Lol. If I dated him, I'd probably get picked on cuz he is 23.
He's made it clear after several encounters over the past few months he wants me, but I ignore the advances. We did spend the night on the beach together last night talking/smoking weed with friends.


Have you ever had an age difference relationship?
 
I never have but I don't see anything wrong with it as long as the younger person is mature enough. I mean, an 18 year old with a 30 year old may be difficult. But 25 and 37? Likely fine. It's not something that can be determined just by numbers but it's more maturity, the people, it's case-by-case.
 
I used to think it didn't matter. Not so sure now. I suspect the 10 year age difference played a pretty strong role in the failure of my last relationship.
 
divide your age by 2, then + 7. if its that age or higher, then your all good.

i think i learnt that trick from bl a few years ago
 
MoreAlkaloidsPLZ said:
I used to think it didn't matter. Not so sure now. I suspect the 10 year age difference played a pretty strong role in the failure of my last relationship.
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Is it because someone got older faster. Anything related to energy?

Mysterie said:
divide your age by 2, then + 7. if its that age or higher, then your all good.

i think i learnt that trick from bl a few years ago
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I think that could work..
 
llama112 said:
I never have but I don't see anything wrong with it as long as the younger person is mature enough. I mean, an 18 year old with a 30 year old may be difficult. But 25 and 37? Likely fine. It's not something that can be determined just by numbers but it's more maturity, the people, it's case-by-case.
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There's an 11 year age diff between me and my SO. I'm the younger. It's been fantastic. Although I am a lot more mature than most people my age. Old soul? Life exp.? Who knows, but I do agree with llama here.
 
atreyaferret said:
There's an 11 year age diff between me and my SO. I'm the younger. It's been fantastic. Although I am a lot more mature than most people my age. Old soul? Life exp.? Who knows, but I do agree with llama here.
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If it's not too personal, what are your ages? :)
 
atreyaferret said:
38 and 27
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Right on. That doesn't seem like much of a difference at all. It would have been weird when you were younger (age 15 and 26 let's say). :)
As you grow up, age differences just don't matter as much.
 
llama112 said:
Right on. That doesn't seem like much of a difference at all. It would have been weird when you were younger (age 15 and 26 let's say). :)
As you grow up, age differences just don't matter as much.
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Very true. We met when I was 15. Through my mother's job. He was married and neither of us were interested me being a young'n and all. Just a family friend. I got married a couple years later (diff story) Then we reconnected later after we were both divorced. His mom's 2nd marriage...they were 14 years apart lol they fought all the freakin time.
 
llama112 said:
Right on. That doesn't seem like much of a difference at all. It would have been weird when you were younger (age 15 and 26 let's say). :)
As you grow up, age differences just don't matter as much.
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I don't believe the age will ever be an issue for you.

What normally ends a relationship is how you deal with each other years from now.
When the routine doesn't make it interesting, or lack of motivation.

I have the same age as my wife but after we had kids and turned 40, we started to discuss all the time.
We had gone to a marital psychotherapy and we learned how to do things again without so much stress.

But again, the stress and routine of our jobs aligned with educating children takes their share.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that not your ages but how you care after each other will make all the difference.
 
Erikmen said:
I don't believe the age will ever be an issue for you.

What normally ends a relationship is how you deal with each other years from now.
When the routine doesn't make it interesting, or lack of motivation.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that not your ages but how you care after each other will make all the difference.
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Definitely agree. Sometimes you have to work at it, but in the end it's worth it.
 
Thanks y'all. I think I'll just hang out with him and not cross the line. I have family to think of. He's a wise soul, hella sexy, but I don't want to corrupt him.
 
^ are you sure he's after a relationship or might he just want to have some fun? also, why do you think you would "corrupt" him? a lot of young men want to be with more experienced women, because more experience = better lover...
 
Bagseed said:
^ are you sure he's after a relationship or might he just want to have some fun? also, why do you think you would "corrupt" him? a lot of young men want to be with more experienced women, because more experience = better lover...
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We hung out a few hours today, he wants a relationship, he told me, but I let him down gently.

I have some baggage ... addiction, grief over the loss of my son, family, divorce, etc. He has yet to really experience life yet.

I should just give in and have sex. Lol. Seriously though, he's a nice guy with such a bright future ahead of him.

Today, as he held my hand and was talking to me about art, I had a vision of choking him with a belt as I rode him. Bad, I know.
 
Maybe he'd be a good companion to help you through all the baggage? I know you've already made your decision, but I wouldn't close the subject completely just yet. Lol at the vision...do yours usually come true?
 
My Aunt was 40 when she married my 25 year old Uncle, 20 years later they are still together and happily married. I mean he was a particularly mature guy and still is. I dated a 30 year old when I was 21 and ultimately I ended up breaking it off cuz she was out of her mind. Look if two people are different ages but at the same place in their lives, there is no reason why a relationship couldn't work.
 
I have a "relationship" with a woman who is 53, and I am 28. It was all physical really. I started chatting with her cougarlife.com. I did enjoy her company and we chat from time to time. the last time that we hooked up was around November 2014. we still talk from time to time. I really like banging her because she just is probably the best lay that I have had. I mean she is a dirty freak and I love it. I wouldn't be in an actual relationship with her, and she wouldn't with me. We get along great, and might get a drink here or there, but I would say that I have a great adult relationship with her. we talk about life, dates that we've had, and what we plan to do in the future with our lives. she doesn't do drugs, or really drink either, but
 
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