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tomdpimp

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So I've been so bored in my marriage lately I feel the urge to cheat. I'm not wanting to do so, but no sex for 4 months after another drought of 5 months is too hard. Porn is getting old. I want to do something different.

Who else has been in similar situatuions and what did you do?
 
Is cheating worth hurting your wife? Will your marriage be better after you cheat?
 
True.
You sound like your mind is made up.
Only a matter of time and if you got a girl in mind.
 
Opportunity is not always perfect, besides if I did cheat I would want to find a couple and go for all kinds of things I can't get at home.
 
I say do it. Not only will you escape the monotony of monogamy, but if your wife finds out about your infidelity then you might just be lucky enough for her to file divorce—the boon of which being the termination of the insufferably boring and tedious "marriage" that caused you to consider cheating, in the first place.

It's a win-win. You get to fuck whatever or whoever you like, and the only real consequence is either emancipation from your wretched wife or the contraction of an STD.
 
Talk to the wife... straight up. What is the deal? Perhaps she is cheating on you?

Unless your both in your 70s... you should have active sex with each other, at least twice a month.
 
So tell her you are unhappy and want to sleep with other people. Also tell her that you are 100% OK with her sleeping with other men.

You don't want to be a hypocritical piece of shit, now do you?

At the end of the day, you were the one who agreed to your relationship's rules once it was formed. If you need those rules amended for yourself, you need to make your wife aware of the amendment so that she may also make any necessary amendments.
 
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Tell her you've been thinking about it. You have four possible options:
1) Open relationship
2) Counselling to resolve the underlying issues
3) Separation
4) Cheating without her consent (won't end well)

Good luck x
 
Similar situation over here, was with my girl for 5 years and the sex dwindled to practically nothing. It's her own psychological issues that she's working through, nothing to do with our relationship.

I thought about cheating but realized it would end with both of us more unhappy, than if I was to just break up with her or let her know I'm going to be polyamorous now.

Long story short I eventually decided I want to be polyamorous whether or not she wants to (I brought it up and although we used to be, she didn't want to be poly again), so I talked to her about it and let her know how I felt. She said she couldn't be with me, but a few days later she changed her mind.

She decided she would rather stay with me and accept me for who I am than break up because I'm unsatisfied with certain aspects of our relationship.

I'm going to have dinner tonight with a beautiful girl who makes me feel like a king. :)
 
Bluuberry said:
Similar situation over here, was with my girl for 5 years and the sex dwindled to practically nothing. It's her own psychological issues that she's working through, nothing to do with our relationship.

I thought about cheating but realized it would end with both of us more unhappy, than if I was to just break up with her or let her know I'm going to be polyamorous now.

Long story short I eventually decided I want to be polyamorous whether or not she wants to (I brought it up and although we used to be, she didn't want to be poly again), so I talked to her about it and let her know how I felt. She said she couldn't be with me, but a few days later she changed her mind.

She decided she would rather stay with me and accept me for who I am than break up because I'm unsatisfied with certain aspects of our relationship.

I'm going to have dinner tonight with a beautiful girl who makes me feel like a king. :)
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I would love to hear more about your situation.
I desire this kind of relationship w my husband.
 
@sms143 : fetlife.com - they cover all the kinks.

@tomdpimp : Were these sexual problems present when you both first got together and early in marriage? Usually (not always) Childhood trauma is ongoing - the sexual issues would be constant. Its possible its an excuse - not a reason. MissVL has posted the four options you really have available.
 
i like missvl's response.

tomdpimp, i think you need to man up and talk to her about opening up your relationship or ending it. latter may work and you may both be better off.

alasdair
 
What r u waiting for?
go for it cheating means cheating on her without she doesn't know!
so... Don't get cut
 
The issues have been on and off. We had some real issues back in 2009-2010, and she told me later she considered leaving me. Randomly we got some Molly and our first roll, completely awoke her and recharged our love and marriage. We sent a couple of years playing around with RCs and then she got pregnant. We had our son and then the last year and a half its been back to the issues. She is pregnant again, we planned this one, and now I think she might be coming out of the haze again.

I'm wanting to explore my own desires with her. I think since her father is a bit of a ladies man is part of this. Also she has neurological issues we are working on too.

I hope after the next baby is born we can roll again and kick it back into gear.
 
Talk to your wife, husband, or partner, before you cheat. This thread reads as though you have made up your mind to already cheat and are just looking for justification or reasons to cheat.

I've never cheated on anyone but I've had someone who I was in a relationship/partnership with cheat on me and it sucks.
 
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