I hid my pill habit that turned into a gram a day snorted heroin habit from my boyfriend of nearly two years. The pills were easy to hide, the heroin was not. He eventually found out and gave me a chance to get clean. I didn't take it seriously, I didn't think he'd actually leave if he caught me again. He did.
This is not the first relationship I've ruined with drugs. I lost a nearly three year relationship before this one that I began not an addict and ended hopelessly addicted to pain pills. I quit after that breakup too and stayed clean for several months. A couple of months into that clean time, I met my most recent ex and fell head over heels. I'm talking man of my dreams here. Eventually, the newness of that relationship wore off and I looked for that fix again. We were happy but it wasn't enough for me, I guess. I began using again..I was always broke..he helped pay my bills so many times thinking I wasn't making enough money at work (I was a bartender at the time, paid solely in tips so my pay varied daily)...he was good to me and I took advantage of him to feed my addiction. I broke his heart when he found out I was an addict and I nearly crushed him when he caught me again after claiming I had quit. I destroyed the trust between us.
So I'm getting clean. Not for him, for me. I'm 31 years old and I've realized that I am going to never have anything close to a healthy relationship if I'm an addict. No one can. And I've realized that there is no magical partner who is going to take away my cravings for opiates. I need to take those cravings away myself. This is my advice to you...get yourself right first. You have no idea what kind of damage your addiction can do to another human being who genuinely loves and cares about you, trust me. I'm very fortunate that my ex has forgiven me and still loves and cares about me. It would have been very easy for him to wash his hands clean of my junkie ass but he's still there...not the way he used to be...but he's there. We have hope that I can make it through this recovery process and that maybe we can give "us" another try. But we'll see. That's down the road.
My advice: work on yourself. Work on what's causing you to use. Do whatever you can to improve yourself. THEN find that special someone. No one can fix you. Only you can fix you.