Boyfriend cannot cum without squat position. What can be done?

[hunyul]

I believe I am a fairly non judgemental girlfriend. My boyfriend loves his own ass and loves me to spank/squeeze it during sex which I like to do as anything that turns him on, turns me on. As a female however this is a bit of a blow to my femininty as no man should pay more attention to his own ass than a girl. Whilst yes, he does compliment mine, generally speaking the attention is focused on his. Excuse me if I sound weird myself however I find it odd that my boyfriend loves me to give him hand/head and even loves to masturbate when he is in doggy position. Basically on knees, leaning forward with ass in the air. He loves me to go from behind. He also loves squatting which he finds pleasurable. He finds it easiest to cum in those positions and of course during sex which is usually him on top but finds it hard to cum laying down on his back if I give him hand/head. He has told me that masturbating in other positions is not effective and if that he just squats down, he cums very quickly. I've seen it before and he even flexes his feet so he's literally just balancing on his toes. When I have asked before, he tries to give me unreasonable explanations such as "gravity" which makes me even more puzzled.

The issue is that it is interfering with our sex life. When we first met, he couldn't cum. It was only till after many tries of doing everything to please him, that he could cum inside yet he was still somewhat squatting, just penetrating this time. It was very frustrating as sometimes I would give him oral for 40 minutes or so, obviously enjoying it but no ejaculation. He put it down to masturbation, porn and performance anxiety. It was only one night where he was able to cum, that was inside me and somewhat squatting. I have mentioned to him that in order for him to be able to cum and not be desensitised, he needs to slowly try other positions masturbating so his body also gets used to it. He has agreed to do this yet still mentions he has tried other positions however it is not that effective. He believes just refraining from masturbation itself will help, yet I disagree because even if he does that like he has done other times, he still will only be able to ejaculate in me in particular positions such as missionary where he is somewhat still "squatting"

Do you find this quite odd? Why would one continue to masturbate like that and not find other positions effective as he claims? Is my suggestion the correct suggestion?

Edit - the other night we were on the phone and I asked him to refresh my memory about a gay story he had whilst away on holiday that he told me months ago about a gay male hitting on him. He first told me he ignored him yet last night he said something different. He told me that the gay man at the party was telling my boyfriend he gave off a bi sexual vibe and asked if he's ever been with men and that it is only a matter of time. Again, I asked if he IS bisexual and he said "no, end of story" I told him that I would be disappointed if I found out he was lying. He said I will never find out as he isn't bisexual. He mentioned I could ask his friends and that they would laugh at it as they believe he is homophobic. We then were speaking about different masturbating techniques and I said to search on google as plenty of advice and different forms will come up, he mentioned he could look at male solo's. I asked why he would do that as it sounded homosexual and he said "yes actually that does sound very wrong. Just to be able to see how it's properly done" do straight men ever watch male porn or at least watched it ever and stopped? Then last night, I asked him again and it caused an argument, he said he feels offended. Obviously I will stop now though I still am suspicious and would like another opinion on this matter.

 

[DrinksWithEvil]

I believe I am a fairly non judgemental girlfriend. My boyfriend loves his own ass and loves me to spank/squeeze it during sex which I like to do as anything that turns him on, turns me on. As a female however this is a bit of a blow to my femininty as no man should pay more attention to his own ass than a girl. Whilst yes, he does compliment mine, generally speaking the attention is focused on his. Excuse me if I sound weird myself however I find it odd that my boyfriend loves me to give him hand/head and even loves to masturbate when he is in doggy position. Basically on knees, leaning forward with ass in the air. He loves me to go from behind. He also loves squatting which he finds pleasurable. He finds it easiest to cum in those positions and of course during sex which is usually him on top but finds it hard to cum laying down on his back if I give him hand/head. He has told me that masturbating in other positions is not effective and if that he just squats down, he cums very quickly. I've seen it before and he even flexes his feet so he's literally just balancing on his toes. When I have asked before, he tries to give me unreasonable explanations such as "gravity" which makes me even more puzzled.

The issue is that it is interfering with our sex life. When we first met, he couldn't cum. It was only till after many tries of doing everything to please him, that he could cum inside yet he was still somewhat squatting, just penetrating this time. It was very frustrating as sometimes I would give him oral for 40 minutes or so, obviously enjoying it but no ejaculation. He put it down to masturbation, porn and performance anxiety. It was only one night where he was able to cum, that was inside me and somewhat squatting. I have mentioned to him that in order for him to be able to cum and not be desensitised, he needs to slowly try other positions masturbating so his body also gets used to it. He has agreed to do this yet still mentions he has tried other positions however it is not that effective. He believes just refraining from masturbation itself will help, yet I disagree because even if he does that like he has done other times, he still will only be able to ejaculate in me in particular positions such as missionary where he is somewhat still "squatting"

Do you find this quite odd? Why would one continue to masturbate like that and not find other positions effective as he claims? Is my suggestion the correct suggestion?

Edit - the other night we were on the phone and I asked him to refresh my memory about a gay story he had whilst away on holiday that he told me months ago about a gay male hitting on him. He first told me he ignored him yet last night he said something different. He told me that the gay man at the party was telling my boyfriend he gave off a bi sexual vibe and asked if he's ever been with men and that it is only a matter of time. Again, I asked if he IS bisexual and he said "no, end of story" I told him that I would be disappointed if I found out he was lying. He said I will never find out as he isn't bisexual. He mentioned I could ask his friends and that they would laugh at it as they believe he is homophobic. We then were speaking about different masturbating techniques and I said to search on google as plenty of advice and different forms will come up, he mentioned he could look at male solo's. I asked why he would do that as it sounded homosexual and he said "yes actually that does sound very wrong. Just to be able to see how it's properly done" do straight men ever watch male porn or at least watched it ever and stopped? Then last night, I asked him again and it caused an argument, he said he feels offended. Obviously I will stop now though I still am suspicious and would like another opinion on this matter.

with my girlfriend i had a hard time cumming when we first met for like 1 a month...blowjobs didint work nothing did. after awhile i was able to cum all the time with blowjobs and sometime sex, if she rides me just right. and i have to choke her first and she has to be showered i cant stand the smell of even the faintest dirty vagina. huge turnoff. is your boyfriend a addict? im a heroin and booze addict and porn. porn is very big in my sexual performance. i often think normal sex that we have is boring and not like porn and i get turned off.

i like getting head in the car ina public area. cuz it turns me on more. i dunno wtf im talk ing about anymore. if he is addict like me have him not watch porn for a week then try.

 

[hunyul]

with my girlfriend i had a hard time cumming when we first met for like 1 a month...blowjobs didint work nothing did. after awhile i was able to cum all the time with blowjobs and sometime sex, if she rides me just right. and i have to choke her first and she has to be showered i cant stand the smell of even the faintest dirty vagina. huge turnoff. is your boyfriend a addict? im a heroin and booze addict and porn. porn is very big in my sexual performance. i often think normal sex that we have is boring and not like porn and i get turned off.

i like getting head in the car ina public area. cuz it turns me on more. i dunno wtf im talk ing about anymore. if he is addict like me have him not watch porn for a week then try.

He is not addicted to anything, as far as I'm concerned no.

 

[Cdkman]

Everybody's sexual preferences are different..it's like personality,everybody is different due to genes and life experiences.if u don't like someone's personality u stay away from them, if u don't like their sexual preference don't have sex with them..that's how I see it anyway..it is kinda weird but I've seen/experienced some shit with woman that would make him look like the avg joe

 

[Durzo1258]

I can't get the image of a guy doing Slav squat while rubbing one out because he gets off from it out of my head.
It's a long shot but maybe it has something to do with hip position.


@DrinksWithEvil
Sex when risking getting caught is fun because of added adrenaline, it's hardly unusual to enjoy it.

 

[pofacedhoe]

dunno why but i went through a phase around 15 years old where if i had my legs in a squats position it was the easiest to cum but i did it lying on my back. i just get bored of shit so over time it lost its alure. maybe he is being triggered by memes?

but seriously it changes the muscles around your prostate and anus etc. us try fucking someone up the ass then move their legs about into different positions and you will feel the change in tightness.

 

[protovack]

The positions thing doesn't sound that odd to me. The telling stories about being hit on by guys, and looking at male porn, well, that is a bit strange, but you confronted him and he said he is heterosexual. Does he masturbate too much? That's a real quick way to ruin great sex.

 

[d1nach]

If he is bisexual he probably doesnt even know it. Or like i could have recreational sex with a guy but id only want to date women so id just say i am straight.

My girlfriend used a strapon on me . Lol

I dont think it has to do with porn or masterbation because when i could I would be able to have sex to orgasm like 3-5 times a night or until they are exhausted and I watch porn like 3 x a day.

Anyway check this out might help

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pudendal_nerve

Basically the nerve endings in the pelvic area tend to both the anus and penis. Therefore by increasing pressure on these ending it probably makesit easier to finish.
Idk how willing you are with the freak stuff but one option could he he could have either a 1 percent table salt enema or a butt put in therefore still activating the nerves without needing to use odd postures because it will put pressure on them in all positions

 

[hunyul]

If he is bisexual he probably doesnt even know it. Or like i could have recreational sex with a guy but id only want to date women so id just say i am straight.

My girlfriend used a strapon on me . Lol

I dont think it has to do with porn or masterbation because when i could I would be able to have sex to orgasm like 3-5 times a night or until they are exhausted and I watch porn like 3 x a day.

Anyway check this out might help

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pudendal_nerve

Basically the nerve endings in the pelvic area tend to both the anus and penis. Therefore by increasing pressure on these ending it probably makesit easier to finish.
Idk how willing you are with the freak stuff but one option could he he could have either a 1 percent table salt enema or a butt put in therefore still activating the nerves without needing to use odd postures because it will put pressure on them in all positions

Thank you. That was definitely helpful. If you don't believe it's masturbation or porn, what do you think it is? Please state your honest thoughts.

 

[hunyul]

The positions thing doesn't sound that odd to me. The telling stories about being hit on by guys, and looking at male porn, well, that is a bit strange, but you confronted him and he said he is heterosexual. Does he masturbate too much? That's a real quick way to ruin great sex.

Ever since we met, we often have sex everyday and if we're apart from each other for a day or so he doesn't masturbate. He did say he used to but since we've had this issue, he tries to refrain.

 

[hunyul]

dunno why but i went through a phase around 15 years old where if i had my legs in a squats position it was the easiest to cum but i did it lying on my back. i just get bored of shit so over time it lost its alure. maybe he is being triggered by memes?

but seriously it changes the muscles around your prostate and anus etc. us try fucking someone up the ass then move their legs about into different positions and you will feel the change in tightness.

If it's prostate & anus stimulation, can't he try other positions that will stimulate that?

 

[d1nach]

I think it is because of nerve endings like the pundendal nerve and hypogastric nerve and nerves prostate being roads which are all interconnected with the muscles that control penile contraction, erection,ejaculation and sensation. Because theses nerves like a bunch of side roads but they all end up coming up into a few main roads then the spine into the same areas so your brain is getting similar stimulation from both.


An example I could take a straight male and if I stuck my finger up his butt and pressed on certain nerve endings he would get precum and penile erections and contractions despite not being gay. When he is squating lookwhere it puts all the pressure right above the penis where those nerve are but now instead of touching then the awkard position is putting pressure on those nerves by simply his own body weight.

Also his physical butt has a huge amount of respensation in areas like the somatosensory cortex. Therefore where you touch it your sending alot of sensory information to the brain thats why its erotic spanking someone your sending basically a strong sensaton.

 

[hunyul]

I think it is because of nerve endings like the pundendal nerve and hypogastric nerve and nerves prostate being roads which are all interconnected with the muscles that control penile contraction, erection,ejaculation and sensation. Because theses nerves like a bunch of side roads but they all end up coming up into a few main roads then the spine into the same areas so your brain is getting similar stimulation from both.


An example I could take a straight male and if I stuck my finger up his butt and pressed on certain nerve endings he would get precum and penile erections and contractions despite not being gay. When he is squating lookwhere it puts all the pressure right above the penis where those nerve are but now instead of touching then the awkard position is putting pressure on those nerves by simply his own body weight.

Also his physical butt has a huge amount of respensation in areas like the somatosensory cortex. Therefore where you touch it your sending alot of sensory information to the brain thats why its erotic spanking someone your sending basically a strong sensaton.

Thank you once again! However because he seems to do this position because he gets the most gratification from it, are there any other positions I can suggest for him to try for masturbating so it may help him cum while having sex with me? It's just upsetting when I give oral, or if I want him to cum whilst we're in doggy or I'm on top, yet he cannot do that. Plus it often takes him sometimes half an hour to even cum (his only way) in missionary. The worst scenario is I could put it down to us being not sexually compatible yet I don't think I want to end our relationship just because of that.

 

[hunyul]

Whether this is irrelevant or not, he squats while on tippy toes, never flat feet.

 

[d1nach]

I would try either a butt plug or 500 ml enema warm with 5 g of salt. This would make it so when hes doggy hes getting the same pressure on those nerves. Idk how old you are or how vanilla you are. But this doesnt mean hes gay.

I can easily hold in a enema even water and oil enemas no problem then it makes the sex cause stronger contractions because tge liquid slams against those nerves. But if not a but plug works but isnt nearly as intense.

 

[d1nach]

And when your on your tippy toes you can go and squat below paralell and maximize the pressure on the pelvic floor nerves.

 

[d1nach]

Part of it though sounds like you being the dominant one. So you could maybe for say a half hour before having sex maybe you could watch something on tv and he could lye with his head on your lap and you could just gently grab his butt occasionally. My ex used to watch anime or something idek but id have my head on her lap most of the time didnt even care what was on tv sometimes shes even play with my hair. Then I would have sex with her till I was covered in sweat and id be much much much more aggressive like doggy pulling on her hair gently biting spanking when I was just lying on her lap a few minutes earlier.

 

[Durzo1258]

My girlfriend used a strapon on me . Lol

Pro tip, putting things up your ass, or having a girl do you with a strap does not make you bi or gay. Unless when she does it you imagine it's a guy doing it.

 

[Jackal]

I really wouldn't worry too much. At the end of the day; if he doesn't come it's his loss.

If you continue to make an issue of it it could become an elephant in the room as far as your relationship goes.

Maybe just give it a month of practice and see where you two are then.

Possibly try some natural aphrodisiacs to spark him up a bit more.

 

[hunyul]

I really wouldn't worry too much. At the end of the day; if he doesn't come it's his loss.

If you continue to make an issue of it it could become an elephant in the room as far as your relationship goes.

Maybe just give it a month of practice and see where you two are then.

Possibly try some natural aphrodisiacs to spark him up a bit more.

Thank you. He mentioned he masturbated to me the other night and it was in a different position so I feel more confident he is also willing to help. I can only trust him and appreciate it.