Bored.

[-Kitten]

So yeah some of you know the sexless issue. I have no hope... we'll see how it goes.
For days I was thinking. I'm bored. Not with me but with my relationship. I have had many boyfriends none of them I got bored with then I had two long term relationships. This one and then my ex before this one. I still wasn't bored in this one I am though.
Since novemeber I've been screaming in my head daily about this.
It's like. No passion just " the same thing " I know people lose passion after a long time... but not all of it. nothing is spontaneous. We have a routine.
We go out to eat. We go see a movie. This... is... IT.
I used to party. go to raves. go to the beach in summer go ski in the winter. im VERY active.
Now he is on the computer sevreal hours in the morning then again at night. Once a week we might go out to eat or see a movie.if not he lays there watching movies on tv. then we sleep.
seriously... is this how all long term relationships end up.

 

[Lysis]

It happens. It's really fun being in that first part of a relationship. It's a lot of fun for a while. Since you're active, I'm sure you will find someone who is just as active while DOING those active things. I've basically always found and enjoyed the company of computer nerds. lol Because that's what I like to do, so if you can get out and do the things you like, you might just run into someone who shares those interests.

 

[munki]

Sounds like you need to get out and go to raves, ski, go to the beach, etc. again. Being active definitely is what creates more happiness, and if your bf isn't willing to do that you just need to do it on your own. I can't imagine being in a relationship and only doing humdrum activities all the time. I would go crazy.

Haven't you guys been having difficulties for a while? I know it is difficult to end long term relationships, especially if you live together (been there before...prolonged a completely dysfunctional relationship for over a year because we lived together) but really you will be happier in the long term if you get out of the rut.

Maybe suggest activity dates to him, and if he doesn't seem interested then do your own thing.

But the fact that you guys aren't even having sex...that's just all the more reason to end it. Even in my completely dysfunctional relationship we still fucked nearly every day, all five and half years of it. If there isn't any sex, then the only thing that is holding you together is that comfortable familiarity.

 

[llama112]

Maybe you should suggest something. Find a cool party. And if he doesn't want to go ... well you can still go!!

Yeah, relationships get more routine after a while but they should never get too routine. You should still try and spice things up!

 

[TheLostBoys]

Key to seeing the same person every day for hours on end is to keep the relationship going strong is to be active in doing different things, even if its just taking a walk in the park or going fishing. You know what would piss him off, you getting on a dating site & having fun talking to guys through a live cam. Maybe then he will wake up to what he has............