Best friends

[floatingaround]

So this may turn into more of a rant then a Q, anyway..

I made a post a few weeks ago regarding my feeling towards a close friend. Ive kept my distance since then and things have been great. I feel like im not so attached like I was before and we are speaking again.

I do relise now she genuinly wants to keep me as a friend after she mentioned how much I helped her through things in the past. She say's if it wernt for me putting her 'in line' she wouldnt be who she is today.

We are basically bestfriends and tell each other anything and everything, the problem is I still just like her more then a 'friend' but ive accepted the fact(she also has a bf now which helps accepting things tbh) that she dosent feel the same way. I'd like to be just friends but some thoughts I cannot change and deep down I do wish in the next few years we could get together but long shots.

Anyway, I wonder how many other people are also going through/have gone through this before and how did things work out etc?

 

[PriestTheyCalledHim]

I've had this happen with people both men and women. It totally sucks but at least they didn't lead me on and were honest about how they didn't want to date or have a relationship.

I've also been on the other end when a friend wanted to date me or have a relationship and I told them no since I didn't want to lead him on.

I'm still friends with these people and getting out and dating people helped and the one guy basically told me to do that when I said how I wanted to date him or have a relationship and he said no, and that's what I did.

 

[bzzsdd]

I know how you feel. I've had feelings for one of my best friends for a long time... I only recently told her, but things have just gotten weirder since then and I can't read into how she's feeling at all. It really sucks. I feel so ready to move on but at the same time I don't want to give up my friendship with her, because she's such an awesome person. But opening up to her has shown me a side of her that I didn't think existed, an attention seeking side that's really off putting. I guess I'm just letting everything sink in and trying to move on right now.