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Being depressed - Will it ever get better?

Jabberwocky

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Hi all,

have been depressed for most of my life and as of recent its been getting worse, I just don't seem to care any more or at least it feels that way. I am currently 25 turning 26 and I feel as if the last of my years have been a waste even though uni is about to be finished next year in July.

I feel as if I make it worse a lot of the time by going out of my way to drink and eat comfort food when I know it will make the depression or anxiety worse. I know I can go on and look after myself and lose the 18 kilos i've put on but for whatever known reason I just feel as if it's not worth it. I shed weight before, looked after myself, the whole shebang but I still felt hollow and that's what got me to start drinking again and just not giving a shit about much but uni.

I have caused a bad pattern for myself whereby i'm stuck in a cycle, sometimes it will be good for a few days in which case I cherish it by enjoying it and then the rest of the time its down in the dumps kind of day. I acknowledge i've done a lot of wrong for myself, mostly by self medicating through gambling, drinking, smoking cigarattes and eating crap food however I think it was all in the spirit of aiding my depression. The problem now is that these behaviours or impulses won't fuck off. I'll usually hold off drinking for 2 weeks at a time or sometimes one and then I cave in. It seems like a live with a handicap for whatever I do and now i'm fed up of it.

Does anyone have any suggestions?
 
I would avoid alcohol, and focus on eating a balanced diet and getting enough exercise (enough exercise is detrimental for mental health in my opinion, and not only to lose weight).

Depression can certainly get better, what have you tried in the past?
 
So far I have exercised, eaten healthier although the depression was still there a little bit and as was the anxiety however I did feel different. I guess different in a positive way, one in which i'm not used to and hence maybe this is why I went back to my old ways.
 
noonoo said:
So far I have exercised, eaten healthier although the depression was still there a little bit and as was the anxiety however I did feel different. I guess different in a positive way, one in which i'm not used to and hence maybe this is why I went back to my old ways.
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Have you tried medications? I'm not trying to push them on you I'm just wondering if you have already tried any.

I tend to find a correlation between how much exercise I do and how positive/happy I am.

Do you like listening to music? I often find that constantly listening to music also helps keep my mood in a more positive area throughout the day. I have ADHD and I think part of the reason I have such poor focus/attention span/even at times memory, is because I need a lot of input, to continue to focus and such. So when I don't get it I just daze off half the time. The only reason I can write all of this down without doing something else instead of typing this is because I am listening to noise (Japanese noise). I think that the overwhelming amount of things going on in noise tends to keep me alert and awake. I think without music, most of the time, I wouldn't get through a big post like this at all.
 
It sounds like you're thinking about slowing down your bad habits, like drinking, before they completely take over your life. That's good, and you should probably stop it in its tracks. As Captain.Heroin noted, exercise is a big deal, especially for people who have the propensity to be depressed. A good diet, good exercise, and avoidance of cigarettes and alcohol are all definitely a good start.

MeddieFrac might be right about trying out some medications, but if it was me, I'd try to see by doing my best getting my life back on track and improving my health. Medication is a great alternative, though, if that doesn't seem to work out for you.
 
noonoo said:
Hi all,

have been depressed for most of my life and as of recent its been getting worse, I just don't seem to care any more or at least it feels that way. I am currently 25 turning 26 and I feel as if the last of my years have been a waste even though uni is about to be finished next year in July.

I feel as if I make it worse a lot of the time by going out of my way to drink and eat comfort food when I know it will make the depression or anxiety worse. I know I can go on and look after myself and lose the 18 kilos i've put on but for whatever known reason I just feel as if it's not worth it. I shed weight before, looked after myself, the whole shebang but I still felt hollow and that's what got me to start drinking again and just not giving a shit about much but uni.

I have caused a bad pattern for myself whereby i'm stuck in a cycle, sometimes it will be good for a few days in which case I cherish it by enjoying it and then the rest of the time its down in the dumps kind of day. I acknowledge i've done a lot of wrong for myself, mostly by self medicating through gambling, drinking, smoking cigarattes and eating crap food however I think it was all in the spirit of aiding my depression. The problem now is that these behaviours or impulses won't fuck off. I'll usually hold off drinking for 2 weeks at a time or sometimes one and then I cave in. It seems like a live with a handicap for whatever I do and now i'm fed up of it.

Does anyone have any suggestions?
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Don't mean to sound like some expert but that doesn't seem to be much of a depression. Everybody passes through lower points in life without being clinically "depressed", and without making such a huge deal of it. What you're describing is nothing special in the ways of underachievement and hurting... unless for some overly anal borderline narcissist that aspires to an "ideal" life (six figure income, trophy wife etc.) as seen on tv.

You can hold your drinking for 2 weeks and you still complain?! Give me a break...

My suggestion: try to be less of a drama quin.

p.s. For some reason, I imagine you to be studying some retarded domain that has something to do with marketing, economics or the newer social "sciences" that seem to spring up lately. In this light, your feeling of being a "waste" is entirely in tune with the objective truth.
 
Does your life suck? That is a reason that many people's lives are touched by depression.

If you had something, maybe another person or an object (new car, phone, house, etc) would it suddenly get better?

If so your life sucks, and you should work towards getting there.
 
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