Hi,
I'm 19. A couple of years ago, i threw my life away with mephedrone, benzos, GBL, etc. had seizures various times from withdrawals.... had a lot of bad shit happen! So after 2 years of pretty much daily drug use, and ongoing battles with quitting various things... in January 2010 i stopped all of that!
One last addiction that i do have sadly seems to be alcohol. I'd drink a bottle of vodka each night... did that till July 2010, then switched over to a bottle of wine or two a night in late July.... then in August i didnt drink for a few weeks... was fine, then when i started getting stressed again.... i started again! I've stopped for weeks off every now and then, and don't see alcohol to be an addiction in the sense of my previous ones (i.e. i don't NEED it in order to hold back seizures from withdrawals, etc..... i just dont sleep well for the first couple of nights if i don't have it before i go to bed), and i see alcohol just to be a nice break now at the end of the day, I know i can control it and not let it become any more... thinking of quitting soon anyway!
BUT... to the point... I always thought when i quit, having been at rock bottom for so long... that everything would go back to how "wonderful" (from my relative perspective) it was before. Sure... family problems have gone away... i'm far more healthy... i don't look like Jack Skellington from nightmare before christmas anymore.... But still... i feel i've never been able to get my real self back.
I used to be very outgoing, very confident, and thinking of how i was then, compared to now... i wish i'd never had the drugs to initially push me further socially. Now I'm not very good with meeting new people.... I shy away from conversation, because i find it difficult to think of things to say... I also am AMAZINGLY paranoid about who i can trust, so don't really have any close friends because i find it very difficult to trust people (when coming out of my addiction, i made a lot of money *ill let you all guess how* and people i thought were my friends were just friends for the money... now thats all run out.... theyve took off, and left me feeling very alone). After every night out with friends.... i always come home thinking they hate me, and then drink to try to stop thinking about it. Obviously it transpires they dont hate me and its just my mind thinking ive always done something wrong... or not been the fun person i wish i could be and know i should be!!
I thought by now, 11 months after i've stopped, things would be back to normal... yet i still cant connect with people socially, and still get horribly depressed. I'm guessing this is the right forum to ask about recovering from an addiction, and just wanted to know if this is just the way it is when coming off a 2 year drug addiction even a year down the line... Has anyone been through similar times? Got any advice on how i can try to get things better?
thanks in advance
I'm 19. A couple of years ago, i threw my life away with mephedrone, benzos, GBL, etc. had seizures various times from withdrawals.... had a lot of bad shit happen! So after 2 years of pretty much daily drug use, and ongoing battles with quitting various things... in January 2010 i stopped all of that!
One last addiction that i do have sadly seems to be alcohol. I'd drink a bottle of vodka each night... did that till July 2010, then switched over to a bottle of wine or two a night in late July.... then in August i didnt drink for a few weeks... was fine, then when i started getting stressed again.... i started again! I've stopped for weeks off every now and then, and don't see alcohol to be an addiction in the sense of my previous ones (i.e. i don't NEED it in order to hold back seizures from withdrawals, etc..... i just dont sleep well for the first couple of nights if i don't have it before i go to bed), and i see alcohol just to be a nice break now at the end of the day, I know i can control it and not let it become any more... thinking of quitting soon anyway!
BUT... to the point... I always thought when i quit, having been at rock bottom for so long... that everything would go back to how "wonderful" (from my relative perspective) it was before. Sure... family problems have gone away... i'm far more healthy... i don't look like Jack Skellington from nightmare before christmas anymore.... But still... i feel i've never been able to get my real self back.
I used to be very outgoing, very confident, and thinking of how i was then, compared to now... i wish i'd never had the drugs to initially push me further socially. Now I'm not very good with meeting new people.... I shy away from conversation, because i find it difficult to think of things to say... I also am AMAZINGLY paranoid about who i can trust, so don't really have any close friends because i find it very difficult to trust people (when coming out of my addiction, i made a lot of money *ill let you all guess how* and people i thought were my friends were just friends for the money... now thats all run out.... theyve took off, and left me feeling very alone). After every night out with friends.... i always come home thinking they hate me, and then drink to try to stop thinking about it. Obviously it transpires they dont hate me and its just my mind thinking ive always done something wrong... or not been the fun person i wish i could be and know i should be!!
I thought by now, 11 months after i've stopped, things would be back to normal... yet i still cant connect with people socially, and still get horribly depressed. I'm guessing this is the right forum to ask about recovering from an addiction, and just wanted to know if this is just the way it is when coming off a 2 year drug addiction even a year down the line... Has anyone been through similar times? Got any advice on how i can try to get things better?
thanks in advance