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Mental Health Autism?
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feedtheSoul
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fun fact,
i have a puzzle piece tattoo behind my ear to represent autism awareness
are you on the spectrum?
my brother has aspergers and i love him to tears. its hard to know what hes feeling inside. but he is my brother and i am always there for him, i would take care of him my entire life if it needed be. he is awesome.
people with autism are very fascinating if you take the time to get to know them.
i have a puzzle piece tattoo behind my ear to represent autism awareness
are you on the spectrum?
my brother has aspergers and i love him to tears. its hard to know what hes feeling inside. but he is my brother and i am always there for him, i would take care of him my entire life if it needed be. he is awesome.
people with autism are very fascinating if you take the time to get to know them.
What an awesome, lovely and unique tattoo! 
I have no idea. I'm so confused
. I can't see anyone professional for months to find out.
This mental health woman suggested I might be on the scale in '12, but it wasn't explored due to my other problems.
I'm sober, clean, trying to make sense of things. I don't understand, (and never have) a lot of... social things. Like "signs" someone is bad. (keep getting into really bad, dangerous situations as I honestly don't see signs? Argh. :/ I keep offending people, (never ever done this before, as for years the best way to deal with humans, was to do just not talk, let them). I get really upset/ frustrated with things that (to me) seem illogical, irrational, emotional. I don't understand lying, small talk, other weird social things..
People are so.. confusing. I don't understand them, there's no decent theory/ book to understand normal people's behaviour? (I've even studied Psychology to try and understand, but it's all about dysfunctional behaviour. But to me, some "normal" behaviour *is* dysfunctional. )
I don't know if I'm just a really weird chick, or if maybe the woman was right? Ah. :/ I don't know. Do you see any similarities between me and your brothers way of thinking?
Thank you for replying. I'm sorry for mine, I hate speaking to people (it's embarrassing and I say the wrong thing, always). I'm sorry if I offend you in any way. I hope you're having a relaxed few days. x
I have no idea. I'm so confused
. I can't see anyone professional for months to find out.This mental health woman suggested I might be on the scale in '12, but it wasn't explored due to my other problems.
I'm sober, clean, trying to make sense of things. I don't understand, (and never have) a lot of... social things. Like "signs" someone is bad. (keep getting into really bad, dangerous situations as I honestly don't see signs? Argh. :/ I keep offending people, (never ever done this before, as for years the best way to deal with humans, was to do just not talk, let them). I get really upset/ frustrated with things that (to me) seem illogical, irrational, emotional. I don't understand lying, small talk, other weird social things..
People are so.. confusing. I don't understand them, there's no decent theory/ book to understand normal people's behaviour? (I've even studied Psychology to try and understand, but it's all about dysfunctional behaviour. But to me, some "normal" behaviour *is* dysfunctional. )
I don't know if I'm just a really weird chick, or if maybe the woman was right? Ah. :/ I don't know. Do you see any similarities between me and your brothers way of thinking?
Thank you for replying. I'm sorry for mine, I hate speaking to people (it's embarrassing and I say the wrong thing, always). I'm sorry if I offend you in any way. I hope you're having a relaxed few days. x
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feedtheSoul
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Quite frankly to me it sounds like you very much deal with the same struggles as my brother, so its possible you are on the spectrum. They are recently finding that the spectrum is quite broad and many people have a touch of aspergers in them or such. i recommend getting a test for a clear diagnosis, though i will tell you that they dont rally prescribe any drugs for autism in my brothers case as the symptoms are quite difficult to treat with medicine. however, along with his aspergers he is diagnosed as adhd, so he gets that to help him stay on task. he still struggles with communicating socially, but the better he knows someone he will open up. his responses can be quite blunt and frank, but he is hilarious. he does offend people sometimes, but once you understand that this is how he is then you learn to see the love underneath and love him.
you did not offend me in any way! spreading awareness is one of my side goals in life. anything you'd like to discuss about it is welcome and will not be judged upon reading -- i have learned at a young age that many people simply function differently and i am in no place to judge. feel free to get anything off your chest if need be. bluelight is a supportive forum and you are always welcome.
you did not offend me in any way! spreading awareness is one of my side goals in life. anything you'd like to discuss about it is welcome and will not be judged upon reading -- i have learned at a young age that many people simply function differently and i am in no place to judge. feel free to get anything off your chest if need be. bluelight is a supportive forum and you are always welcome.
Thank you feed! Sorry for late reply, been in stupid hospital.
I've been reading into "high functioning autism", and relate tremendously to all of it. It's frustrating being female, as even docs ignore the pretty obvious symptoms!
I'm going to ask my doctor, I hope he can just do it instead of having to wait to be referred... I hate speaking to people!! (I just write a list to my doc, hand it to him.. )
I honestly don't want any meds, I just need (for my sanity!!) to understand and have a diagnosis (for myself, not anyone else), so I can learn how to deal with it, in the best way possible. I definitely have symptoms of ADHD. Again, as I used to be quiet, not bother anyone, tried to get on with work/ school, and am female, it was never realised/ recognised/ even mentioned.
Do the help adults with it in the UK? :/
I have a substance abuse history, but they know and believe me about how anti-drugs I am now, lol. I try my best to deal with it, but really, professional help/ meds would probably be extremely beneficial.
Loool, yes I do that.. the blunt/ honest thing.. hehe, I'm soo used to giving up with communicating with humans (sorry, but species is SO driven by emotion/ illogicalness!!- wtff!!?), gave up for years, have only recently opened my mouth. (To the horrors of my parents, haha). The majority of people think I'm "hilarious", but it's the select few (mostly parents), I hurt./ piss off etc.. I hate it. (E.g. tonight, after I slipped up and mentioned a particular triggering word, my dad went nuts, and went into a rant on "how there's something deeply wrong with you, how can someone be this offensive? etc etc) ---- .... I can't help it, I forgot it's not socially acceptable to mention the word "alcoholism" in front of one.. I didn't even call him one/ lecture him/ anything?? I'm so confused and hurt.
I've been quiet for 20 years though, and understand psychology, the theories behind mental illness etc, so know and try as hard as possible to not be a rude asshole.
Thank you
Keep being awesome Yep, I drive and drive other people crazy (& not in a good way!!). If BL was a person, I'd definitely want to have sexy time with him. 
Also.. having seizures.. I'm too scared to look them up in detail, till I've seen a neurologist.
Does your bro have them? Is it common with other people with autism?
I've been reading into "high functioning autism", and relate tremendously to all of it. It's frustrating being female, as even docs ignore the pretty obvious symptoms!
I'm going to ask my doctor, I hope he can just do it instead of having to wait to be referred... I hate speaking to people!! (I just write a list to my doc, hand it to him.. )
I honestly don't want any meds, I just need (for my sanity!!) to understand and have a diagnosis (for myself, not anyone else), so I can learn how to deal with it, in the best way possible. I definitely have symptoms of ADHD. Again, as I used to be quiet, not bother anyone, tried to get on with work/ school, and am female, it was never realised/ recognised/ even mentioned.
Do the help adults with it in the UK? :/
I have a substance abuse history, but they know and believe me about how anti-drugs I am now, lol. I try my best to deal with it, but really, professional help/ meds would probably be extremely beneficial.
Loool, yes I do that.. the blunt/ honest thing.. hehe, I'm soo used to giving up with communicating with humans (sorry, but species is SO driven by emotion/ illogicalness!!- wtff!!?), gave up for years, have only recently opened my mouth. (To the horrors of my parents, haha). The majority of people think I'm "hilarious", but it's the select few (mostly parents), I hurt./ piss off etc.. I hate it.
(E.g. tonight, after I slipped up and mentioned a particular triggering word, my dad went nuts, and went into a rant on "how there's something deeply wrong with you, how can someone be this offensive? etc etc) ---- .... I can't help it, I forgot it's not socially acceptable to mention the word "alcoholism" in front of one.. I didn't even call him one/ lecture him/ anything?? I'm so confused and hurt. I've been quiet for 20 years though, and understand psychology, the theories behind mental illness etc, so know and try as hard as possible to not be a rude asshole.
Thank you
Keep being awesome Yep, I drive and drive other people crazy (& not in a good way!!). If BL was a person, I'd definitely want to have sexy time with him. Also.. having seizures.. I'm too scared to look them up in detail, till I've seen a neurologist.
Does your bro have them? Is it common with other people with autism?
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sorry to hear you were in the hospital, is everything okay?
i'm imaging that its very difficult in your case to find an answer especially if your parents aren't on board. what your dad said made me sad to read, as it is intolerant to your condition. though i have no clue what kinds of tests they run to diagnose autism, from my experience with my brother and other people i've met with aspergers, your experiences definitely sound similar in relation to autism and i agree you'd feel much more at ease if you had that proper diagnoses. its also got to be harder to diagnose in adults as usually autism is detected in the earlier years, so i'm thinking your doc thinks he knows your situation better than you yourself do.
funny you ask about them helping in the UK - i'm over in the US, and i hear we're pretty lucky over here when it comes to healthcare when you have something like autism. my dad several years ago got a job offer that would require us to move to England, and as it turns out, he declined the offer after learning that schools do not provide extra help for people like my brother, or they do help but not to the extent he needed. perhaps there is less autism awareness in the UK? sigh, either way, i truly hope that you can find the answer you're looking for. i've dealt with doctors not believing my own condition (fibromyalgia). it's disheartening to say the least.
my brother, he does not get seizures, no. unfortunately that isn't something i know too much about in relation to autism.
hey, you keep staying awesome too!
you will find and develop coping tools to get through difficult situations with time, but i think the diagnosis plays a huge role on opening up the resources to those coping tools. im glad if i could help you in anyway whether it be advice or just the listening ears!
i'm imaging that its very difficult in your case to find an answer especially if your parents aren't on board. what your dad said made me sad to read, as it is intolerant to your condition. though i have no clue what kinds of tests they run to diagnose autism, from my experience with my brother and other people i've met with aspergers, your experiences definitely sound similar in relation to autism and i agree you'd feel much more at ease if you had that proper diagnoses. its also got to be harder to diagnose in adults as usually autism is detected in the earlier years, so i'm thinking your doc thinks he knows your situation better than you yourself do.
funny you ask about them helping in the UK - i'm over in the US, and i hear we're pretty lucky over here when it comes to healthcare when you have something like autism. my dad several years ago got a job offer that would require us to move to England, and as it turns out, he declined the offer after learning that schools do not provide extra help for people like my brother, or they do help but not to the extent he needed. perhaps there is less autism awareness in the UK? sigh, either way, i truly hope that you can find the answer you're looking for. i've dealt with doctors not believing my own condition (fibromyalgia). it's disheartening to say the least.
my brother, he does not get seizures, no. unfortunately that isn't something i know too much about in relation to autism.
hey, you keep staying awesome too!
you will find and develop coping tools to get through difficult situations with time, but i think the diagnosis plays a huge role on opening up the resources to those coping tools. im glad if i could help you in anyway whether it be advice or just the listening ears!
Thanks, yeah I'm okay now. I made it past New Years, yay? (Usually in intensive care on my lonesome).
I'm still having seizures, trying to not care and be patient for neurology.. ahh...
You and your family definitely made the right decision staying in the US!! Haha. The NHS and school systems are terrible over here. (Huge waiting lists for everything.. atrocious lack of training with doctors/ schools and mental health).
It seems, here, autism is only ever diagnosed in 1) extreme cases 2) if you are male?
I've dealt with it by -never speaking- from the age of about 5- 24 (unless on drugs). I'm sick of it, I just want to be myself, but I can't.
Meh.
I'm still having seizures, trying to not care and be patient for neurology.. ahh...
You and your family definitely made the right decision staying in the US!! Haha. The NHS and school systems are terrible over here.
(Huge waiting lists for everything.. atrocious lack of training with doctors/ schools and mental health).It seems, here, autism is only ever diagnosed in 1) extreme cases 2) if you are male?
I've dealt with it by -never speaking- from the age of about 5- 24 (unless on drugs). I'm sick of it, I just want to be myself, but I can't.
Meh.
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Don't beat yourself up over this.. people are really confusing! And psychology is so wishy-washy.. as you correctly point out, what is 'normal' behavior? No one actually knows what is normal or sane thinking!
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Hey now, don't believe you don't deserve kindness! I agree with SS that there is no reason to beat yourself up over it, considering how true it is these days that we wonder what "normal" really means when it comes to human behavior.
You ARE normal, at the end of the day you are YOU, whether you have a diagnoses of autism or not! You are YOU and how you feel on the inside is not something you can help, it is just something you may learn to manage. Remember - those people that you see yourself offending is a small handful of people as you mentioned. I can understand how it being family makes this situation difficult to cope with, though.
Is there any support groups you can look into joining? I've found from personal experience with group therapy that most of the time there is another or even multiple individuals who are able to relate to the experiences or thoughts I'd bring up.
I agree with what SS said completely, my previous post may have implied that you must get a diagnosis to feel happy - this is not always the case!
I know that feeling, where you feel you don't deserve kindness...but this is just your perception of reality. it is not true. you deserved to be loved, and we are always here for you!
You ARE normal, at the end of the day you are YOU, whether you have a diagnoses of autism or not! You are YOU and how you feel on the inside is not something you can help, it is just something you may learn to manage. Remember - those people that you see yourself offending is a small handful of people as you mentioned. I can understand how it being family makes this situation difficult to cope with, though.
Is there any support groups you can look into joining? I've found from personal experience with group therapy that most of the time there is another or even multiple individuals who are able to relate to the experiences or thoughts I'd bring up.
I agree with what SS said completely, my previous post may have implied that you must get a diagnosis to feel happy - this is not always the case!
I know that feeling, where you feel you don't deserve kindness...but this is just your perception of reality. it is not true. you deserved to be loved, and we are always here for you!
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One thing I learned in my DBT therapy groups was not to label things as good or bad, right or wrong, etc. This places emotion on your observation which can get your thoughts racing eventually. Try to label things as what they really are factually in order to determine if your response was justified.