Figuring myself out has been a lifelong adventure--not all of it pleasant, that's for sure. It sounds like you are close to getting some help and that's good news. But no matter what you find, no matter whether you get a benefit or not that will make it possible not to work, you are still going to have to figure out how to move beyond "I am so fucked up" in your own thinking; because by stating that as a fact about yourself you can get really stuck there. Social phobia, paranoia, depression and anger don't sound like states you would want to spend your life in. It sounds like early trauma played a pivotal role in your life and I'm really sorry that you have had to go through hell because of an abusive father.