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Anyone else got drug addicts for parents?

CaPoNe.

CaPoNe.

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I just wanted to see how many other people got drug addict parents and how they deal with it. My dad is a long time Crack Head and will do anything for the rock. When I was younger we used to live in the worst area in my city and it is well known for the crack houses that are all over. My dad was a gang banger and he would deal to try and make money and the only time he would come home would be to try and steal anthing that we had which wasnt much with my mom being a single parent who didnt recieve any child support. It was rough growin up cuz alot of poeple were after my dad and at night people would come to our house looking for him trying to break in our they would drive by our house and light that shit up and empty clips on our house which wasnt cool obviously. He then got caught up on a couple of murder charges and is in prison with a life sentence. So yeah thats my story anyone else relate?
 
my dad is a recovering alcoholic.

this disease runs in my family, on both sides. i have alot of cousins, two uncles, and other family members that have drug and/or alcohol abuse problems.
 
I'm gonna send this over to TDS. Mods, feel free to send it back here to DC if it doesn't fit well over there.
 
my father was a heroin addict for many years. disappeared sometime in early 94. had a general idea where he was but never tried contacting him - having tried to keep up a one-sided relationship for a couple years i wasn't willing to make any effort when he was unwilling to make any.

in october of 09 i got a call from a social worker at a hospice. he died a couple days later of lung cancer. i hope the last years of his life brought him whatever peace he was looking for.
 
My dad was a crackhead/alcoholic for awhile. He's clean now but yeah I had to go away to foster care for a year because of him. Fucked up shit.

He stole money from us, birthday gifts ect. Abused my mom and even pushed her down and threw a can opener at her when she was pregnant with me. The list just goes on. He was also abusive and one time he threw this hard plastic doll right at my face and it hurt I even got a welt....that was the last day I saw him and he never cameback. That was 4th grade but now he changed his life choice also I'm starting to rebuild the relationship since 10th grade. A senior now and still not really getting anywhere. He kicked me out this summer when I was visiting for no reason, called me the devil ect and made fun of how I looked. He may not do drugs anymore but he is still a cunt.
 
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i wanted to add that in retrospect i think my father was suffering from undiagnosed mental illness and the drugs (and drinking - he did that too) were for self-medication, and it is the mentall ilness that was much, much worse on me then the drugs were.
 
my 7 month old but we he's not using anymore for at least a year or two and I'm on methadone.

but hopefully by the time she can be ob this site will close that chapter.

my dad is a psychopath and an alcoholic, his dad was an alcoholic. both my grandpas were alcoholics, not sure about his.

My baby's god lots of bad in that department but we are working very hard to make this bad dream end. Hope she doesn't follow in our footsteps but if we don't try hard to prevent it it my most definitely happen I have a feeling.

That's why I chose therapy 6 days a weeks plus more stuff. Same for the daddy.

I want her to be happy.
 
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Unfortunately, I most definitely relate to the concept of having drug addicts in the family.
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Although my upbringing was a bit more 'functional'. Drug addicts and alcoholics are virtually everywhere in my family tree. My biological father was addicted to meth during the time that I was conceived. Consequently, my mother didn't want him around me while he was loaded. Hell, I'm more than certain from what I've gathered that he didn't want to be my father either. Last I heard, he had been clean off of meth for several years, and had joint custody of my half siblings. He drinks heavily around holidays, and apparently I have a lot of his traits—including the fact that I am a recovering meth addict that is prone to drinking heavily around holidays. Haha.

On my mother's side, my mother is addicted to painkillers and benzodiazepines (my drugs of choice). One of my uncles used to be addicted to morphine, and is currently a practicing alcoholic. My other uncle was also addicted to meth.

My Grandmother abused her painkillers throughout the course of her life as well. She currently has her Vicodin and Xanax monitored, because she asks for them on a daily basis for things like "itching". She would easily be a practicing addict if her medication wasn't monitored. My cousin has had at least one stint in rehab and has done virtually every drug in the book. I believe alcohol and cocaine are his drugs of choice. He was on Antabuse for quite some time; I'm unsure as to whether or not he still is. All of my other cousins except for one have had a drug problem at some point in time. One of my half-siblings smokes marijuana and drinks, and the other has already started doing meth at age 13. My great-grandfather was a very bad alcoholic. My great-grandmother was an alcoholic as well. If all that I just stated doesn't confirm the power of genetics, I'm not sure what will! Haha.
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My father was a drug user for most of his life, we used to get high together when I was a teenager. He is supposedly doing well not but we're not really in touch. My mother doesn't use drugs but has her own addiction issues. One grandfather was a heavy drinker, the other was was addicted to ritalin. One uncle was addicted to crack for a while, another one a binge drinker, my aunt also had/has problems with alcohol.

I think my family doesn't like emotions :\
 
My father is dead, he was never a drug addict, he only drank on special occasions and smokes some weed. However my mother is a meth head now that he died, and my step-father is an alcoholic. Perfect couple, eh.

I'm glad I moved away from them as soon as I possibly could, I can't stand either of them. The last time I saw my step-father was when I visited him in the hospital after beating him half to death.
 
I was the first drug addict. But my father was an alcoholic. He was physically and emotionally abusive. My mother was paralyzed by fear and allowed him to continue his tyrant with her for 32 years before she divorced him. My brother is an alcoholic and my little sister is more like me. She was addicted to opiates, was a cutter and suffers from pstd, just like me. The funnly thing is we are 14 years apart. We were not raised together, but had the same parents. Eventually realized once she became an adult, how we ended up the same.

We now have a relationship with my father, he is still drinking. He has finally admitted to what he did to us and has apologized. I feel he is sincere. I am not sure how to define the relationship we have right now, since I don't what is "normal" and what is not. I can understand why he ended up the way he did, his father was abusive as well. We are definitely not the lovely dovey father-daughter type, but I can say we have progressed into a mature and mutual respectful relationship. I do not talk to my brother because his wife controls him and apparently she does not like me. I wasn't even invited to their wedding.

But on the flipside, me, my little sister and my mother are very close. We would do anything for eachother. It is very difficult for me to be apart from them. I hate being without my sister especially. I miss her so much. Its like she is the only person on the planet that understands me.

Where I live I have no friends. No family. They are 5 hours away and rarely come to see me. I can't travel, because I don't have a pet sitter. The only human contact I have is when I am at work
 
Ugh I hate this subject but here I go. My family tree has a fucked up history of alcholism, depression and lots of people dying from stupid shit like greif.

My grandpa (fathers side) died of alcoholism and depression. My grandmother (mothers side) died from a xanax and ambien overdose. My mother is a pill popper, my dad is an ex alcoholic and has adhd and rage issues that both go untreated.

My dad is a former drill sargeant, he needs to take medications for a botched back operation (he rufuses to take pain pills so he can stay pissed all day to verbally abuse everybody) he hangs out at the bar all day after work and denies drinking.

My older brother rarely drinks but has a huge porn addiction. My little brother is a pill popper and a mean drunk. I on the other hand, have done a shitlod of substances that could've killed me at any point, yet the only thing that stuck with me is that I love to smoke weed. I was diagnosed with adhd and depression at 12 and was immediately put of ritalin and prozac.

Shit just got worse til I decided my parents were control freaks, so I moved out and detoxed from a ton of things (like the ungodly doses of aderall, valium and tranxene I was given daily while being told by my mother that they were to help me be normal (more like a mindless zombie) I have an alcohol problem (at least I haven't had a drink in a month lol) shit happens, at least I'm still alive. Nothing can change the fact that I never wanted to be born and I really hate my family
 
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Thanks everyone for sharing your family history I know it can be hard to talk about some of the things that happens in our lives but it kinda makes me feel better when I have people to relate to because my mom tried her best to keep me away from the streets and keep me in the suburbs but I hate all of the little spoiled rich kids that don't know shit about life and just live off mommy and daddy and I feel you guys on how addiction runs in the family cuz my whole dads side of the family mostly blew coke and drank and my moms side of the family was mostly amphetamines. Somehow I have opiates as my DOC and a mild addiction nothing to bad cuz I still work full time and go to college full time so im not doin to bad. But the thing that all of this has showed me is that friends can be just as good if not better than your actual blood family members cuz my mom hates me and my dad never wanted me but my friends are still always there for me when i need them :)
 
Schwew, where to begin.....
my dad was heroin, meth, alcoholicl, murdering hells angel
he's dead now

lol - got cancer in the end after hep c , etc...when he lost his hair from radiation, he got wheeled around the hopital and his entire balled head was a swastika tattoo
 
Hmm. Both of my parents smoke weed on a (I'm nearly positive) daily basis. I just found out this past YEAR that my Mom smoked (shocked the crap out of me! ). My Dad is more (psychologically) addicted than my Mom. I think my Mom just really enjoys it - they both use it as a medicinal resource. My dad for controlling his extreme emotions. My Mom, for anxiety and perhaps depression.
 
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Thanks everyone for sharing your family history I know it can be hard to talk about some of the things that happens in our lives but it kinda makes me feel better when I have people to relate to because my mom tried her best to keep me away from the streets and keep me in the suburbs but I hate all of the little spoiled rich kids that don't know shit about life and just live off mommy and daddy and I feel you guys on how addiction runs in the family cuz my whole dads side of the family mostly blew coke and drank and my moms side of the family was mostly amphetamines. Somehow I have opiates as my DOC and a mild addiction nothing to bad cuz I still work full time and go to college full time so im not doin to bad. But the thing that all of this has showed me is that friends can be just as good if not better than your actual blood family members cuz my mom hates me and my dad never wanted me but my friends are still always there for me when i need them :)
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stay stong am an addicted,heroin my drug of choice av been clean for a couple of months,l hate the stigma that goes along with heroin.
this is very sore for me but am gonna write this all down when am ready so u can read what the goverment do to people on h,am going throw alot the now with the social work and other stuff,but a will post it all when ano the outcome
u take care x
 
I'm the prodigal son.... the first junky, the first to land in jail, and the first under-achiever of the family. It's a head-scratcher for them.
 
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^^ First junkie in the fam here too. My parents dont get it either since I was raised ultra conservative catholic, believing all my life (up until a year ago) that drugs were evil and even aspiring to be a priest for most of my childhood. Of course things are different now lol.
 
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