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A mans questionabout sex & a post menopausal woman

Gizzlefrtiz

Gizzlefrtiz

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Long and short of it I hooked up with a woman I dated for awhile 15 years ago. We parted friends and I moved to diffrent city for work. I have now hooked up with her again and "rekindled the sleeping beast". Her tail is no sex in 4 years or so due to menopause. She is now always horny and responds very well to oral sex, actually climbs walls and just gets crazy. However when I try to penetrate she says its very painful. Have tried different lubes etc.. and wont do anal.

Are there any ladies who have gone through same thing that can offer advise? I don't know why she has not ask her Dr about it. PM me or reply to thread..
 
Hi Gizzlefritz, I am in a similar situation to yours. Male, 54, wife is 51, menopause at 48 (!!!)

We still have our "good quality times" together, plenty of it
BUT
she has exactly the same problems you described.

Quite simply, her vaginal tissue has lost both elasticity and the capacity to produce lube - which is only partially compensated by your use of lube.

You say "She is now always horny and responds very well to oral sex, actually climbs walls and just gets crazy. However when I try to penetrate she says its very painful. Have tried different lubes etc.. and wont do anal."

My thoughts:

1. If she responds well to oral sex, then she is very well "into you" and "into oral sex", so be happy, problem 1 solved.
2. Vaginal penetration is painful: you now know why. Oddly, my wife becomes mush softer and everything becomes quite pleasant after she comes.
Suggestion: try penetrating her after making her climax through oral sex; if this should not work, use the "pencil technique" (aka the boiled frog)
Use something very thin (a pencil-thin object, or even just one finger) and get her used to having that inside her;
when she becomes comfortable with it, use something just slightly thicker, so that she gets used to that; then increase again, and again, and again...
Trust me, as long as she's comfortable with you (and if you give her head, she's very comfortable with you!) it won't be long before she'll be comfortable with all of you!
3. Anal sex: man's last frontier... there's only one way you can convince her: conquer the "front bastion" first, and be "Lord of the Manor"; then, lay a romantic siege to the last frontier...

Good luck, and good work !
 
PS What is the "boiled frog" technique?

Picture this: put a frog in a pot of boiling water, it will jump right out and flee and never be seen again.
But put the same frog in a pot of cold water, and heat it, it will swim to and fro, getting used to the increasing temperature, to the point it will be so weak by the time the water is too hot, it will stay... and boil.

Boiled frog.
 
[QUOTE Oddly, my wife becomes mush softer and everything becomes quite pleasant after she comes.
Suggestion: try penetrating her after making her climax through [/QUOTE]


Have tried this several times after she has intense orgasms..(at her direction I will add) I actually think she is more frustrated than me on this. I will talk to her about boiling some frogs.

Thanks!!
 
I saw an ad on tv about a new medication (pill) that helps with thinning vaginal tissue and poor lube from menopause. She might want to ask her gynocologist about this.
 
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