So, Bluelighters, great to see you all again. I haven't been on in at least 4 years, and had to change my user name, etc. Which is ok, because I got clean during that time and kicked all my daily habits. But this post isn't about that.
As a background, I'm in my middle 40's, well educated and experienced work wise, take excellent care of my body and mind and have recently been looking for work. I was living in California, working as a sober companion/ House manager of sober livings. Since moving back to the south, those gigs have dried up...
I placed an ad in a well known professional website ( not craigslist!) saying I was looking for work in those areas and was contacted by a very nice gentleman in his late 40's. He interviewed me and was vague about the position; I gathered he needed a P.A. of a sort.
In hammering out our details its becoming clear what he wants is an attractive, smart, personable woman to travel with him and attend business functions. I.E., an escort of sorts.
The contract so far I've been shown is very clear in matters of sex ( there will be none) and on what he does expect- To dress as he wishes for functions and meetings, be charming and help him grown his business. In exchange the salary is certainly more than acceptable, as it is twice what I was earning in California, in Malibu. I've had a background check run on him, and he comes up clean. As I said, very successful in his field, married to the work and therefore single.
The problem isn't choosing to do this-the decision has been made. My problem is how to explain this to the man I have been seeing off/on for three years. We are sexually active but do not see it becoming a long term relationship. More than Fuck Buddies, less than Gf/Bf. He is much younger than I, at only 31, and I fear he may not understand what I am doing. I do care for him but we could never marry, etc. He wants children someday that I can not provide all of which we have discussed. It is exclusive in that neither of us are having sex with others.
How do I explain this to him without sounding like I'm whoring myself out? ( Which if I were, I know women my age who do it all the time for new refrigerators or sofas. What do you think marriage is?)
With such a broad base of members, I'm eager to see your suggestions. And no, not telling him isn't an option. Some trips will take me away for weeks on end.
DIND
As a background, I'm in my middle 40's, well educated and experienced work wise, take excellent care of my body and mind and have recently been looking for work. I was living in California, working as a sober companion/ House manager of sober livings. Since moving back to the south, those gigs have dried up...
I placed an ad in a well known professional website ( not craigslist!) saying I was looking for work in those areas and was contacted by a very nice gentleman in his late 40's. He interviewed me and was vague about the position; I gathered he needed a P.A. of a sort.
In hammering out our details its becoming clear what he wants is an attractive, smart, personable woman to travel with him and attend business functions. I.E., an escort of sorts.
The contract so far I've been shown is very clear in matters of sex ( there will be none) and on what he does expect- To dress as he wishes for functions and meetings, be charming and help him grown his business. In exchange the salary is certainly more than acceptable, as it is twice what I was earning in California, in Malibu. I've had a background check run on him, and he comes up clean. As I said, very successful in his field, married to the work and therefore single.
The problem isn't choosing to do this-the decision has been made. My problem is how to explain this to the man I have been seeing off/on for three years. We are sexually active but do not see it becoming a long term relationship. More than Fuck Buddies, less than Gf/Bf. He is much younger than I, at only 31, and I fear he may not understand what I am doing. I do care for him but we could never marry, etc. He wants children someday that I can not provide all of which we have discussed. It is exclusive in that neither of us are having sex with others.
How do I explain this to him without sounding like I'm whoring myself out? ( Which if I were, I know women my age who do it all the time for new refrigerators or sofas. What do you think marriage is?)
With such a broad base of members, I'm eager to see your suggestions. And no, not telling him isn't an option. Some trips will take me away for weeks on end.
DIND
