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27 yr FEM, can have multiple orgasms but can't cum, and wants tooo soo bad .... HELP!

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shygirlluv

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Okay so exactly what my title says: LOL

So last night my bf was on a mission to get me to cum, we tried everything, I KNOW I have had orgasms, and actually I was married for 9 years and never had one with my husband, well I just started having them with my bf of 2 years... woo hoo!!! It feels amazing, but he gets irritated cus he does everything in his power to get me to squirt at least. He went down on me yesterday pretty much all night, all I know is it was a LONG time, and nothing, but several orgasms. Idk if maybe I withjust feel so much pressure to squirt that , maybe I think about it too much and I'm not relaxed enough? This morning, while he was in the shower I played with my dildo and allowed myself to relax enough, until this warm pee like feel came out, It felt exactly like pee , but I know I didn't pee cus I was masturbating, but the dildo gives me no satisfaction what so ever compared to what he can do with his mouth!! OMG!!! I need to find a way to show him I am very much satisfied ! IDK , but whatever it is, I want to fix it. I feel so bad cus I want him to know that he does satisfy me, but for some girls its harder..... there has to be a way....

Anyone???? I need some good advice to spice up tonight <3<3
 
I think there are, like, different degrees or something. Like some women don't at all, some women do a tiny bit (maybe you?), some women a little more, and some women a lot. Not sure there's any way to force it though, not as far as I know in any case.
 
I have made my girlfriend squirt, ONE TIME. I mean, she had at least 10+ orgasms, and literally squirted across the room. ANytime she would orgasm she would squirt.. We were on Cocaine, thats the ONLY time she has ever squirted. She has "gushed" cum before all over me while riding me. Try getting on top, putting some lube where your clit would be and ride his dick without going up and down where your clit is going back and fourth in his pubic area. That's where we had success.
 
My wife only squirted the first time we rolled and we had sex as she was peaking. Most of the time i can tell she is about to but stop because she thinks she needs to pee.
 
As a woman, who can and does squirt, i can tell you from my own experience that the sensation of having to pee was what inhibited me from squirting during sex. for most women the sensation of needing to pee and that of an on-coming orgasm are similar. this often leads to women holding back on or stopping their orgasm altogether. squirting during masturbation is one thing but peeing on someone is another, unless youre into that kinda stuff, lol!

I would suggest that you just go pee and empty your bladder before you have sex that way you know for sure it isnt pee (but honestly im sure your bf wouldnt care if it was pee) Now from what i gather from your post this is a small part of the problem.

The pressure from wanting to squirt for your bf plays a role, since you said you could squirt while masturbating why not use a mirror to see what it is you were doing with your dildo such as placement and motion to induce you to squirt. once you understand what works IF you notice there is a difference between what your bf is doing and what you do then ask him to watch while you practice in front of a mirror... just a few suggestions
 
Okay, there are some basic anatomical factors being overlooked here and having an understanding of what exactly 'female ejaculation' is and isn't might help somewhat.

My understanding is that during heightened arousal, the tissue inside the vagina becomes swollen and spongy as blood flow to the area increases, lubrication builds, and there is some shifting around of the walls of the vagina as things get close. The G-spot - which does exist and isn't mythology, is central in this spongy part of vagina that is getting plump with fluids and vessel dilation within the tissue. It is pressure on the G spot that causes ejaculation, and it is contraction of the spongy tissue due to that stimulation that causes some rather extreme lubrication to suddenly be expelled out of the vagina. In some cases stimulation to the urethra (entrance to the bladder) can trigger a burst of urine to be expelled during extreme excitement and G-spot stimulation, so often times it is actually pee that causes the wet spot, and not 'cum' as such.

Best positions for this FE is girl on top, or on back with legs up over his shoulders, enabling deep penetration. This stimulates the G spot and that spongy area at the top front of the vagina. I'm really not sure whether FE can occur without G spot stimulation via deep penetration with either penis or phallic substitute of some kind. If you think it does still happen without penetration, I would speculate that the bladder is releasing urine and not that there is a propulsion of vaginal lubrication being squirted from the spongy vaginal walls, ie, FE. This lubrication comes from glands in the vagina, and in some cases can pool in an area at the back, below the cervix, only being 'ejaculated' out of the vagina when the muscle contraction of orgasm force it out.

Quite tellingly, FE often occurs for the first time after childbirth, or as a woman starts to get a bit older, and pelvic floor muscles are not as strong - causing bladder weakness. So while the phenomenon of FE does exist, it is sometimes thought to have occurred when the reason for the fluid is more to do with the bladder.
 
pokepoke420 said:
I have made my girlfriend squirt, ONE TIME. I mean, she had at least 10+ orgasms, and literally squirted across the room. ANytime she would orgasm she would squirt.. We were on Cocaine, thats the ONLY time she has ever squirted. She has "gushed" cum before all over me while riding me. Try getting on top, putting some lube where your clit would be and ride his dick without going up and down where your clit is going back and fourth in his pubic area. That's where we had success.
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Thanks, I'm gonna try that!!
 
Sflseraphim said:
As a woman, who can and does squirt, i can tell you from my own experience that the sensation of having to pee was what inhibited me from squirting during sex. for most women the sensation of needing to pee and that of an on-coming orgasm are similar. this often leads to women holding back on or stopping their orgasm altogether. squirting during masturbation is one thing but peeing on someone is another, unless youre into that kinda stuff, lol!

I would suggest that you just go pee and empty your bladder before you have sex that way you know for sure it isnt pee (but honestly im sure your bf wouldnt care if it was pee) Now from what i gather from your post this is a small part of the problem.

The pressure from wanting to squirt for your bf plays a role, since you said you could squirt while masturbating why not use a mirror to see what it is you were doing with your dildo such as placement and motion to induce you to squirt. once you understand what works IF you notice there is a difference between what your bf is doing and what you do then ask him to watch while you practice in front of a mirror... just a few suggestions
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LOL ! NO he doesn't, he said to just let myself and if it's pee he'll swallow it.... lol ! I still don't want it to be pee though .
I'm gonna try using a mirror i've never thought about that before, I usually don't get off to a dildo so we'll see what's different ;)
 
Someone finally hit on the key. The best formula would be for him to be using his tongue around your clit and surrounding areas while he has a couple fingers in you stimulating your upper front wall (G-Spot). Rub it, tap it, circle it and it will probably happen. Sometimes it helps to have him put his other hand flat out on your lower belly, just above your genital area, pushing down a little (while he's stimulating you internally). Great recipe to follow but it does take a little coordination, however the rewards are well worth it! Good Luck team!
 
You're going to have to associate yourself with the that have the properties of "Exhuast", that aren't farts.

When he's going down on you, it helps to watch the Discovery channel, particularly a documentary on volcano's or Ol' Faithful. The key idea in making you squirt is the mind-set. The more deep sea hydrothermal vents you've seen, the better. Try to avoid staring at the glowing one-eyed fish's! They're creepy and will cause you to have only a normal orgasm!
 
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