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Hopeless How easy is it to end up homeless?

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cowardescent

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I'm 22, live in Ireland and struggling to get a job. I'm in college studying computer science but never worked. Sent like 120 CV's to no avail. My parents are giving me the hint that if I don't find a job, they'll move out of the country and I'll essentially be homeless.

Would you say many are in my situation or not? I think I'd be the first out of my friends in secondary school to become homeless. Even the worst performing students in my school still have some employment/friends from looking at them on Facebook/Instagram.

I also fear that when I get a job, I might lose it all as I've read you're only one paycheck/mistake away from being on the streets. Others though say this is false and those on the streets tend to be addicted to drugs along with having severe mental issues. My friends from the Netherlands say it's almost impossible to end up on the streets there unless you want to.

Is homelessness something that can happen to anyone or do you need a specific set of circumstances to end up there.
 
I live in Ireland. You’d have to be pretty far down to end up homeless tbh I think. There’s no way your parents would let you become homeless for a start.

We have benefits here you could apply for if you haven’t gotten a job. There’s lots you could get to help out if you’re in dire straights.
 
cowardescent said:
Would you say many are in my situation or not?
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Of course. But since u are from a developed country, I think there's a way to get help from GOV.


cowardescent said:
I also fear that when I get a job, I might lose it
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This kind of anxiety is my full time job because Im working abroad at a company where we are under an everlasting pressure, Many of my employees resigned and therefore they no longer have the allowance to stay/sleep at dormitory.
 
You don't need to harm yourself with these kind of thoughts, you will find a job calm down. Have you previously tried to volunteer?
 
A very good friend of mine ended up homeless after her dissertation and moving back to Vienna again. Her mother denied to give her money, her narcissistic stepdad said: " if you so not find a job you will not get any cent from me anymore ( even he is rich like shit). So it happens that she got homeless, she was already working and her colleagues didn't know it, so good she was in hiding it. I didn't know her by that time - of course she could have slept on my sofa. Now she has an apartment again but just because her Mum stepped back a bit, found a new husband and she could have her apartment. I think when a few things come together, it can mostly happen to everyone.

JJ
 
Maybe your parents don't want you to be a long haired beatnik for the rest of your life. I'm sure they mean well, they sound like good parents.
 
The Axe said:
Maybe your parents don't want you to be a long haired beatnik for the rest of your life. I'm sure they mean well, they sound like good parents.
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Yes, they were very good parents let their daughter sleep under a bridge for 3 months even they had the money to support you. She is mentally totally ill of course, but nobody cared about her. "Good parents".... And why do you say "your parents"? Can't you read?

JJ
 
JoEhJoEh said:
I'm sorry, I got that wrong. Would have been helpful if he tells to whom he is talking.

JJ
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I guess when someone is directing something towards you they will use the reply function. When it’s just them in the thread then it’s for the OP. That’s how i figure it.
 
PrincessDiz said:
I guess when someone is directing something towards you they will use the reply function. When it’s just them in the thread then it’s for the OP. That’s how i figure it.
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When someone answers directly after I was posting, without saying a name or whatever, then i figure he meant me. I stop here otherwise I would mess up the thread completely...
 
I think it depends on the country, idk about Ireland (although I’ve got a lot of Irish blood) but here in the states it can happen pretty easily. Especially out west it’s really bad, when you see camps left and right something needs to change.

Me and my partner aren’t exactly in bad professions, she’s a doctor for God’s sakes (with lots of debt though) and I’m a contractor in a niche trade but we still live paycheck to paycheck.

-GC
 
The America of old is long gone!! Starting in the 1980 , the philosophy of “ Greed is Good” took hold!, it was not what you could do to help your fellow man and country, it was All for me and Fuck everyone else. Everything was OK as long as you did not get caught and if you did, enough $$$$$$$$ could really fix it.
So in America a Full time Postal worker, with wife that works as well is homeless in many cities, with kids on the street!,,
we are broken, and so divided that my fear is once the shooting starts ( it’s all we talk about here” it will get ugly fast. I see families that will be split and it will be so ugly.
so you will do much better in Ireland, much more of a civilized country than here.
 
Iceman1216 said:
The America of old is long gone!! Starting in the 1980 , the philosophy of “ Greed is Good” took hold!, it was not what you could do to help your fellow man and country, it was All for me and Fuck everyone else. Everything was OK as long as you did not get caught and if you did, enough $$$$$$$$ could really fix it.
So in America a Full time Postal worker, with wife that works as well is homeless in many cities, with kids on the street!,,
we are broken, and so divided that my fear is once the shooting starts ( it’s all we talk about here” it will get ugly fast. I see families that will be split and it will be so ugly.
so you will do much better in Ireland, much more of a civilized country than here.
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Dublin was voted the worst city out of 82 sampled across the world for housing. link...lol.

You know, this should be a good PSA for why kids/teens should take school seriously. Almost all the kids I know who dropped out/didn't get good grades are working menial jobs/living in shared accomodation. The guys I know who got high marks in my school are generally know studying to be pharmacists, lawyers, bankers, accountants.

Isn't it true that nearly all of the 'working poor' involves people working minimum wage jobs? I don't think I've ever heard of a Biologist who is homeless because they can't afford rent.
 
You're right, lil girl. Dubai it's the most stinky country to ever be, in terms of payment. The workers are gettin kidnapped, blackmailed and you guessed erased. The abjuction atmosphere it's all over the tree, there's no denying in that but what you can do it's to not relay on your job unless you're white collar but other than that you're facing economical abyss. So it's always good to have something in your wrist, a thing where you tell yourself ''Well, I have a pack of cigs tonight''. Homeless it's not always linked with $, there can be many factors playing chess here. The best you can do it's to not over-think such things. There's nothing to be analyzed here.
 
It depends in so many circumstances, in the UK we have a benefit system, if you're out on your ass they'll probably put you up in a B&B or temporary accommodation, but that's not to say there ain't homeless on the streets because there is, some don't want to stay in B&Bs some have but been kicked out due to bad behaviour, some can't stay in homeless shelters and B&Bs because they have dogs so can't, it's so sad seeing a homelesss man with his best pal, cuddled into him sleeping outside in shop doorways

Back when I left home when I was getting into drugs, I started off in squats, then I stayed in a bedsit with a bloke I'd met at a soup kitchen because I was only 17 I couldn't get any benefits, because I left home, I wasn't kicked out of home, I just wanted to leave, so I did

Then in places like America, most people are homeless because of drugs or mental illness or both, but more often then you'd think you might come across people who are homeless, living in their cars, that have a full time job, they pay to use the gym so they can clean up, wash, take a shower before work etc

Homlessness can happen to anyone
 
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