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Break Up After 9 years

Fiori di Bella

Fiori di Bella

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BF is an alcoholic without a car or job who moved about 600 miles away to live with his sister when I lost my job due to COVID-19 and I had to give up my condo by the beach. I’m an Oxy person, I’m prescribed 3 20mgs/daily for chronic headaches. I’m back in town, I bought my first house and he thought he could jump on a plane, get back here and live with me again. When I told him I wasn’t ready to live with him again he lashed out, texting my daughter to say I am a junkie in withdrawals and texting me pictures of myself that were not very flattering. Yesterday he texted me to say that I have a problem and he can’t be with a junkie who’s not going to change. I kinda feel relieved. He can’t support himself, and I would be stuck paying the entire mortgage by myself. But I feel badly and wonder am I really a mess with my Oxy use? I tend to think he’s a very bad drunk, and that he’s just lashing out. But then again maybe I’m a big mess and I’m in denial. And he keeps texting saying he loves me but that I have a problem I need to address. I think maybe I should just block him so I never have to hear from him again.
 
Your life might not be glimmering right now but I’d say you’ve got your shit together a lot better than he does.. He sounds like a grade-A mooch of a BF, pretty damn shameless considering he does nothing with his life.

You should block him. I guarantee if you had let him back, all the sudden your Oxy use would’ve been no big deal. He’s trying to make you feel like your the one losing out, obvious manipulation, like he’s some big catch that you need to fight for lol.

-GC
 
It’s quite sad that he ended up this way. When we started dating he owned a beautiful home, a contract’s business and had a daughter he saw each week. The house, business, daughter, cars and drivers and contractors license are all gone. He’s been kicked out of his sisters and step brothers homes for excess drinking and he is now moving to Texas to live with his stepmom.
 
Alcohol is IMO one of the worst. My mom was an alcoholic and is now an opiate abuser (much more than 60mg oxy a day if she can get it) and I much prefer her on the opiates. Alcoholics are just plain nasty at times, and the worst part is they don’t remember any of it.

-GC
 
Yes, I’ve noticed the BF often forgets the shitty things he’s done while drunk.

And BTW, I’ve blocked him but I have 2 new voicemails from him. One saying I need to get clean from opiates and the 2nd saying I’m going to really miss the sex with him. I have no intention of returning his calls. The iPhone allows blocked peeps to still leave voicemails. I can tell you that if I want sex I can probably go out and get it.
 
Yo! You bought a house!enjoy it.
Notice that the insults come hurling towards you when you stand your ground. It’s childish. Him sending your pictures to your daughter is just fucked up and he’s trying to cause conflict in your life because there’s so much conflict in his. I understand that a 9 yr relationship might be hard to walk away from- but the longer you let it linger- the harder it will be to move on completely. If he leaves more messages, I wouldn’t even listen to them. There’s really nothing that he’s going to say that it would change anything if you listen to them.
 
I blocked him for now. And at times I miss him. But I’m pretty sure I was not in love with him any longer. His decline and lack of doing anything about it really was sad. I will need to speak with him in the future because he left some things in storage (that are now in my garage).
 
Oh, and re: do I think I have a problem, yes, I probably do. But if you were to hear me, I don’t sound wasted. I try to make do on my 90 Oxys a month but it’s not always easy.
 
No, I don’t feel judged by anyone here, I’m just at my wits end dealing with my chronic daily headaches and frequent kidney stones. My sister was on my case about laying down and closing my eyes when I have a headache at home and she also says I resort to taking pills when I should just work through pain. I don’t feel anyone can really know the quality of another person’s pain and I’m tired of hearing her crap.
 
BellaJewel said:
Yes, I’ve noticed the BF often forgets the shitty things he’s done while drunk.

And BTW, I’ve blocked him but I have 2 new voicemails from him. One saying I need to get clean from opiates and the 2nd saying I’m going to really miss the sex with him. I have no intention of returning his calls. The iPhone allows blocked peeps to still leave voicemails. I can tell you that if I want sex I can probably go out and get it.
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He's got alot of room to talk. Hes a parasite. He will try to get a free ride off anybody he can. Move on from that mistake!
 
xaddictx said:
He's got alot of room to talk. Hes a parasite. He will try to get a free ride off anybody he can. Move on from that mistake!
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He found a free ride! He moved to a place he said he’d never live, in a tiny town without cell service in West Texas. It’s his stepmom’s house. I can’t imagine he’s happy there except that she starts at 3:30 every afternoon so his alcoholism may be acceptable.
 
Oh, I don’t want to seem whorish but I haven’t had sex since losing my housing after losing my job due to COVID. I don’t want to wait forever but I don’t know how to go about that as bars are closed...
 
No, I want to have sex. S E X not with just anyone but yeah I’d like to have sex again.
 
Fuck, I’m sorry you’re going through this too. Sounds like if you and I were in the same city, and the fucking plague wasn’t happening, we could go out and have drinks or something. Does that make it harder for you too? I’ve found not having the ability to go out and just have background noise inhibits my ability to think about anything else, even though I desperately want to.
It sounds like he is angry that you are able to manage your drugs and your life, and that he can’t. You know who you really are, and so does your daughter. What he says doesn’t matter and is just to hurt you. The worst part, for me anyway, the shitty things said to/about me tend to have their desired affect.
 
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