Ever Been Told to ‘Check Your Privilege?’ Here’s What That Really Means

Source: Everyday Feminism
@schizopath
The first time I was told to “check my privilege,” I’ll be honest, I was angry. I was defensive. And most of all,
I was offended.
It’s not like my life had ever been particularly easy. Growing up with bipolar disorder and being queer, I often felt like I was fighting an uphill battle.
So for someone to suggest that
I was privileged?
“Oh please,” I said to myself, “They have no idea what my life has been like.” In no uncertain terms, I told that person to go kick rocks.
And now, years later, I can say without a doubt that I was wrong.
I
do have privilege.
And chances are, so do you. Because we all carry around privilege of some kind.
Simply put, this means that we may, unknowingly, have certain advantages over others. And this is only because there are aspects of our identity that society values over others.
For example, growing up,
I came from a middle-class background. I never experienced food or financial insecurity. I didn’t have a job while I was in high school, and I was able to attain a good education. It was assumed, by default, that I would be high-achieving. As a result, my teachers invested a lot in my success.
In contrast, poorer classmates that I knew
experienced near-constant food and financial insecurity. As a result, this impacted their focus, their emotional wellbeing, and their grades. Teachers simply assumed that they were “lost causes” that didn’t care about their schooling. Consequently, they didn’t spend as much time mentoring those classmates as they did mentoring me.
Does this mean I didn’t struggle, too? No. Does it mean that I’m a bad person? Nope.
It simply means that I gained an unearned advantage, in comparison to other people – by no fault of my own, but rather, because of prejudice.
We, unfortunately, live in a society that carries a great deal of prejudice on many different levels – and this impacts the way that we are treated.
Often times, our laws and other institutions can reflect this prejudice, too. And the result is that people end up with advantages and disadvantages, depending on their intersecting social statuses – things like disability, race, a/sexuality, gender, class, and much more.
And this – only this! – is where the idea of “checking your privilege” comes from.
When someone asks you to “check your privilege,” what they’re really asking you to do is to reflect on the ways that your social status might have given you an advantage – even if you didn’t ask for it or earn it – while their social status might have given them a disadvantage.
Yes, it’s
okay if your initial reaction to being asked to check yourself was not a pleasant one. It can be uncomfortable to be asked to reflect on these issues. It can be especially uncomfortable if, like me, you just didn’t know how.