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Degree in Physics, not yet... am doing my M.Sc atm [but its not quite pure physics, is med physics/biophysics, never the less it still requires me to be well versed in relativistic mechanics and quantum theory]
Okay, so a handwavey explanation.
I am not trying to define someone's cognition or emotional experience. That is separate from time, and is the concern of psychology and neurophysiology, not physics per se. When I say simultaneity , I mean if two observers [could be a person, a computer or anything what so ever...a clock a video camera for this thought experiment is perfect] are at the same inertial frame, and they are both recording and putting a time stamp on the image, and the clocks are synced and super accurate, now a car crash happens. The cameras are bad ass high speed cameras too, and they both see it, [and are the same distance from the crash so the time it takes for light to get to them is the same] then the moment when car 1 one touches car 2 will have the exact same timestamp on it.
Now, if they where in different frames, [even accounting for the fact that light will take different time to reach them now] they will show different timestamps. The one which is at a higher rate of speed is going to show it happening earlier, due to time dilation...which is a key concept of general relativity. At velocity C, time appears to stop for that observer. Hence, simultaneity is relative. Again it does need to be stated that As no frame is privileged , a co-moving observer is admitted to the same world line...so, in my first example, the cameras are in the same proper frame, in the second, they are not.
Where T is time and X is distance, we see that the very fast object "moves" in time
less then the very slow object. They will obviously disagree on the simultaneity of event [in this case, at what point in TIME did each object reach some arbitrary point in space] The Very Fast Object as you see, is lower on the time axis, but will still "see" the very low object in the same point in space, except one will think it is 1982 and the other will think it is 1992 when it arrived at that point, as they [and hence their clocks] are not in the same proper frame. The point here that is relevent to the thread; people are also "objects" or "observers" and not immune to this effect, if you where in a significantly different frame then someone else, you two would have very REAL [not psychogenic] disagreements over "what time it is" If you guys agreed to a co-ordinate time, you would find that you two aged at different rates.