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    How many friends/family members have cut contact with you from drug use? 
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    Due to the stigma?

    I'm surprised this isn't more common with bluelighters given the insane drug propaganda that the majority of society believes. It seems that I'll have to cut my entire family and keep my drug use under wraps when I get money. They just aren't tolerant and did threaten to kick me out for something unrelated. I also am weary of talking about drugs to others my age because from past experience, a girl looked at me differently and stopped talking to me.

    Is this the reality? Even if you don't steal, end up homeless and looked "kept together", do most people really have contempt for hard core drug users?
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    Sadly yes they do and I learnt very quickly to keep it to myself due to the stigma and attitude from most people.
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    It's hard to say to be honest. I've cut a lot of friends off because of my drug use rather than the other way around. I know I've been cut off so to say by a lot of good friends that I valued a lot as my downward spiral really began to take off, but before things got dark and even right as I started using drugs I cut off a lot of really good friends because I thought they were boring and unexciting or judgmental because they thought I was headed down a bad path. Before I got into drugs I was actually starting to get really involved in a church planting, working as a youth pastor and playing in the worship band. Once I started smoking pot with the occasional psychedelics and mdma, I felt like anyone who didn't smoke pot was a square and not of interest, that only interesting people smoked weed and partied. Basically all my close friends from highschool who were really great friends that I had had for years. Then once I got into drug dealing, regular drug users were no longer interesting to me, so basically cut most everyone off who wasn't up to the same shit with the exception of a few ride or dies.

    When I finally quit dealing drugs, it was interesting to see who still came around. Family who I would have died for no longer answer my calls, others who I thought might wish I would have taken a bullet already have been some of the most supportive. The friends that stick around and maintain through the real toguh times are the ones that I have realized are the ones worth working to keep around. The ones that leave at first signs of trouble are really just weeding themselves out.. I try not to worry much about those.
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    Mafioso nailed it. I haven't spoken to one of my older sisters in years because she proclaimed that she wasn't speaking to me until I went to rehab. This is someone I haven't been around for years prior and barely spoke to anyway. My drug use was no where near her since she's lived 1300 miles away for the past 6 years. This also the older sister who threw parties at our parents house and was ok with her friends getting her10-16 yr old brother drunk and high. Ironic much?

    I'm now approaching 2 months sober (no rehab lol) and have no desire to have negative forces around including much of my family and supposed friends. I believe it's better this way, either during active in addiction or during sobriety. I don't have any love lost. 3 reliable, good friends are better than 20 flakes and hangarounds. It's just tough when you're financially dependent on potentially toxic people.
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    I hope i didnt do that today. My father has been evil but he is dying now and i kept calling when he said not to because he keeps breaking promises and i feel i am going insane from it. My mother ignores me for no reason. More evil than him. At least he was yelling at me. Didnt even know she moved out of state until after it happened. Ignores me ignores me. Hope my dad forgives me.

    Oh. No. It isn't stigma. Theyre just evil. I am innocent.
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    Quote Originally Posted by TripMcnealy View Post
    Mafioso nailed it. I haven't spoken to one of my older sisters in years because she proclaimed that she wasn't speaking to me until I went to rehab. This is someone I haven't been around for years prior and barely spoke to anyway. My drug use was no where near her since she's lived 1300 miles away for the past 6 years. This also the older sister who threw parties at our parents house and was ok with her friends getting her10-16 yr old brother drunk and high. Ironic much?
    Woaah,,,that's sounds like b.s. Did you tell her what drugs you were taking?

    This hypocrisy never ceases to amaze me, in particular with people who are raging "alcoholics" on the weekend but look down on me for drinking two beers every day after work/school.
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    I have some cousins who quit talking to me after I had a nervous breakdown / mid life crisis. This is because I stole from my parents. I don't blame them.

    When I got in heavy with the booze I ditched a lot of people. Booze was the only friend I needed at the time.
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    Heavy stuff Jeanpaul, hope it works itself out with time. Cowardescent, funny you say that. She drinks like 2 bottles of wine a night. Anyway she knew I was taking pills, drinking, doing coke etc... She never minded when I had ecstasy parties at the house lol. Was fine with all of this and me selling shit out of the house for years.

    Funny thing is, she made this proclamation when I cleaned up after I had a complete meltdown, yes drugs were a part of it but only one factor of many i.e. mental illness, breaking up with fiance, her cat leaving fucking fleas in my apartment, losing job, no sleep, bombing the apartment etc...

    So instead of asking about what's going on, or seeing if addicts need help, it seems like most family members just assume whatever they want and cut ties as if some great wrong was done to them.

    During that time and more recently when I was sniffing dope and shooting Fent, all of my relatives were talking about me, spreading rumors, and just making things worse. Not one person came to me to ask what was going on with me. I probably would have broke down crying and told them I couldn't stop had one of my cousins just approached me about it.

    Since I'm clean I haven't heard from anyone at all. Only my few real friends from back home and my one good friend out here. My other older sister who threw the same parties, rents the apartment at my parents here and is very melodramatic about all of this. She acts as if we had some glorious relationship before and now "I'm back" lmao. Not the case. Methinks she likes the attention from outsiders, good or bad.

    Obviously addiction is a factor, but a nice portion of us fuckers had fucked up families to begin with.
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    Quote Originally Posted by noonoo View Post
    I have some cousins who quit talking to me after I had a nervous breakdown / mid life crisis. This is because I stole from my parents. I don't blame them.

    When I got in heavy with the booze I ditched a lot of people. Booze was the only friend I needed at the time.
    back story please?

    did the cousins stop because of the theft from parents.
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