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    Anytime I'm at a music festival, I find myself attracted to most the girls there, which isn't the case in a normal setting. I've always desired to have someone to go on psychedelic journeys with, and obviously most people in those settings are into that. Loneliness kind of gets the best of me and I sit around a lot wishing for these experiences. In college I had a couple very bad times with girls that led me to having a lack of confidence for a quite a while afterwards, and I've not had anyone come into my life since then. I briefly tried joining an electronic music meet up at the last college I was at, failed miserably at making friends there cause I was dealing with depression, now I'm living at home again fantasizing about going to events and finding cool girls to do drugs with. Just my rant for today. Who else finds themselves attracted to these types?
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    Sorry to hear you've had some bad times. Do you have a question?
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    I think he wants to meet girls that do drugs?
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    Quote Originally Posted by washingtonbound View Post
    I find myself attracted to most
    Without any confidence, this must be very awkward for you.
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    so you managed to get out of the house

    well do it again

    in real life 1 meeting with people is not enough to guarantee that you would meet people you could be friends with

    get back out there.

    whining is one thing that never attracts people but putting yourself out there and making an effort really does.

    making friends is chance and luck

    but if you hide away it just doesn't happen
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    I think a lot of the times I place to high expectations on myself for making friends immediately which isn’t realistic. I seem to not have much patience and get frustrated and give up to easily.
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    Quote Originally Posted by pofacedhoe View Post
    whining is one thing that never attracts people but putting yourself out there and making an effort really does.
    Very true.


    Quote Originally Posted by washingtonbound View Post
    I think a lot of the times I place to high expectations on myself for making friends immediately which isn’t realistic. I seem to not have much patience and get frustrated and give up to easily.
    You seem to have some understanding of what the problem is. It's time now to start thinking of solutions, otherwise nothing is ever going to change.
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    I had two friends come up with the idea of raver girl porn. I don't know if such a category exists, but I think that the market for it would be huge. I too find myself attracted to most girls at raves I go to, though I think that has something to do with the alcohol, amphetamines, and the fact that many chicks are practically naked at such gatherings. Raves are the only place random woman wana dance with me (once I've got that 'I'm too fucked to care' vibe going).

    Sorry to hear you're having these confidence issues man. Like others said, staying at home wont solve it. You gotta get out. It's hard making friends, especially as you get older. As you age, it's important to find social clubs of sorts to make new friends. I worked at an electronics store for sixth months and made many friends simply because everyone that worked there was a weed smoking computer nerd, and that worked for me.
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    These "druggie girls" you meet at festivals and events and stuff, see if you can also meet them when they are sober and if they are also interesting then. A lot are interesting when not sober but, when sober, things are not so great.
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    I love the festival fairies. Barefoot ones are they best as they are looser than rice and hippies fuck on the first date or even just because you walked past them. Jesus CHrist on a bike...all my lady hippe friends are sluts. Just realized that now.
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    Hm.. I think a less creepy vibe would be to be about the MUSIC and GENRE. For example, I would be more like, I enjoy x genre type of music and like to go to music festivals (I've been to x, y, and z). Then maybe you can find girls with similar interests.
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    ^ agreed.

    if you want to get to know people that exist within a certain scene, i think one obvious way to approach it is to get involved in that community in some way.
    i don't know anything about you, but working at festivals in some capacity can help you network within that community - my social circles have been related to music (in various forms) for many years, and that's been incredibly fruitful for me over the years.
    lots of people work at festivals - behind the bar, putting on wristbands, support crew, security - or whatever else.
    better yet - learn to dj.

    you just have to find a way to engage rather than be on the outside looking in.

    what that means for you, and how you can do it depends entirely on you.
    i make friends at festivals by being the life of the party - dancing and enjoying myself and having the best fucking time of anyone there.
    good vibes, happy vibes, fun vibes are attractive. everyone wants to hang out with the people that are having a ball.

    the thing with festivals (obviously it depends what type of festival, and if it is part of a wider scene or music/subcultural community) is that they're not always ideal places to make social contacts because pretty much everyone there is just a punter who has bought a ticket and turned up hoping to have a good time.

    it depends on the festival and the scene, obviously, but if i is some one-off festival or something that happens once a year, then your chances of connecting with a community associated with it are probably pretty slim.
    i used to go to trance parties (called "bush doofs" in australia) which had a fairly tight-knit community where i met lots of people, but they were semi-regular occurrences with a social scene of people that were friends and houemates and stuff with other people in that scene.
    it's not the same with bigger festivals - unless you are one of the DJs, organisers, promoters, site crew or whatever else - but i assume that if you were, you wouldn't have started this thread.

    i've no doubt that plenty of people meet potential dates/lovers/partners or whatever at festivals, but you need to also be aware of the fact that lots of people aren't there to pick up, and it's important to respect that lest you end up giving the creepy desperado vibe which will not only put people off, it might ruin your (and their) time at the event.

    i tend to think that if you are going to meet someone at a festival, it is most likely to happen if you have some natural chemistry with someone - like if you end up hanging out together and having a good time.

    probably not a scene you're going to have much success trying to be slick in an effort to "pick up" - but again, i don't know anything about you or your situation beyond what you've told us.

    seriously though, i can't emphasise enough how much of a social lubricant fun is. if you're having fun, people will be drawn to you - especially in an environment where people are high and open. don't overthink it, or expect things to go as you've planned.
    just play it by ear and try to enjoy yourself. if your purpose for going is to meet a girl, you'll probably be disappointed - there are singles bars and dating apps for that.
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    This is where good MDMA comes into play.
    When you're in the zone on a good pill or crystal, you immediately become the most attractive person on the planet. You fuckin own everyone. The trick is to actually never come down again in case they realise that you're just another boring cunt...
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    ^ truth
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    ^^ Word
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