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Do i have a sex addiction?

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I have a fiance and a 1yr old daughter with her. I have been with my last for almost 4 years.

So ok enough with the back story.

I have very compulsive urges to talk to other women when I am intoxicated, esp. on amphetamines.

I want to control my behavior because I love my family. I don't want to lose them over this bull shit.

The contact doesn't have to even be sexual with the other woman, it can be completely platonic, but I still have an urge to do this, even though it is destroying every bit of trust within my family.

I need this to stop. Anybody have advice?
 
Yes, just wank yourself into oblivion looking at porn. Don't risk losing your family over a drug induced obsession - it's not worth it.
 
I think this is less about having sex addiction and more about having a (drug induced) obsession. Hey, who knows, you might also be a sex addict - but you haven't given any indication of that.

When people say things like they had an amphetamine addiction and lost everything/ruined their life - this is one way in which that would be attained.
 
I bet if you quit the meth then the urges will stop. Family and meth doesn't mix usually. The sooner you stop the quicker you'll rebound your normal dopamine levels.
 
Hi,

I agree wholeheartedly with everyone and what they have said for the most part. If you REALLY want to keep your relationship, and it means as much to you as you say, get into rehab and get off the drugs. That is really the only way to know for sure if you are a sex addict or not. I suspect you are not. But, if you keep having the urges you have on the drugs, you are likely to act on your urges at some point and ruin what you have.
 
cut out the speed its a shitty drug for family life

pretty much the main solution- it makes you very horny, cant sleep then days after so bored and impossible to enjoy life

taking loads of xanax then uppers is stupid, if you cut out the downers speed will have a nastier edge and seem way less appealing
 
I bet if you quit the meth then the urges will stop. Family and meth doesn't mix usually. The sooner you stop the quicker you'll rebound your normal dopamine levels.

I've used speed for 15 years and only to induce sex crazed binges, where I watch porn for 3 days straight or go to see 10 hookers in short time. Most likely the urges will not stop, because I had very strong sexual urges before I started using speed. When I get that hyper-sexual state, I'm pretty much like in speed high, my personality changes totally and my priorities are about sex, and in order to be in that state even longer I need something that makes me even more hyper sexual, I try to avoid the climax every way possible, so most likely I never wank or have sex that ends with orgasm. Maybe it has something to do with starting to watch lots of porn since teens. Too much porn is fucking with dopamine system.

Only times when I ever have had urges to use stimulants are when I watch porn and I start to think how nice it would be if I was able to watch porn for 24h straight, so then I get some speed. Hyper-sexuality is dangerous state and can cause lots of life ruining problems, no matter if you are high or not while having hypersexuality (tho' just having that state is enough to make you high without any need for drugs). it feels nice, but after it's finally over, you get very bad hungover from it.
 
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Yes, just wank yourself into oblivion looking at porn. Don't risk losing your family over a drug induced obsession - it's not worth it.

From what i've been told becoming a porn addict and masturbating daily is the only sure fire way to overcome a serious sex addict hooker habit.

Having bookings with sex workers to the point of financial ruin is proper sex addiction. The OP situation is more of a drug issue.
 
Why not have sex with your wife? Rekindle whatever it was that attracted you to her in the first place, and explore that space. She is the mother of your child, and has devoted and trusted her life to you, that should be enough of a turn on! Get freaky with her, try new things, make her feel beautiful and desirable (especially if she's having post-baby image issues), you guys are about to me married! Either way, I agree, with speed has got to go. Is she aware that you use drugs?
 
From what i've been told becoming a porn addict and masturbating daily is the only sure fire way to overcome a serious sex addict hooker habit.

Having bookings with sex workers to the point of financial ruin is proper sex addiction. The OP situation is more of a drug issue.

Just stick to morning masturbation without porn. Porn can cause really strong addiction and give very strong cravings. When you masturbate as soon as you wake up before shower it might take away all the sexual lust for whole day. Its fast and efficient. You can spend tons of money on porn too.
 
I agree with the above. Get off the drugs esp if the behavior is specific to the drugs......

That would be the easiest.

The next thing if you absolutely can not stop the drug use, would be to find out why you enjoy talking to the ladies? Can you talk to your wife instead? Can you read a book? Can you do something else like masturbate to get your mind off it.
 
"Wanking yourself into oblivion" is bad advice. Just quit the drugs. Of course, you'll still like sex. But you'll have control over your actions.
 
"Wanking yourself into oblivion" is bad advice. Just quit the drugs. Of course, you'll still like sex. But you'll have control over your actions.

Never worked for me. Drugs or no, at least porn is extremely addictive for me, it's easier to stop using 2 days amphetamine binge than porn binge. Porn addiction really fuck up with youre brains in the same way as any other addiction. Sex addiction is little different, because it does not produce so much stimulus like watching tons of different videos with different women in short period of time, it's nothing compared to have sex with one woman. Porn watching gives much more pleasure once you are addicted to it.
 
porn distorts what turns you on from sensations to visuals.

it has bad effect on your sex life

its technically voyeurism

how often in real life do you wank while watching others have sex that you cant be a part of?

exactly
 
porn distorts what turns you on from sensations to visuals.

it has bad effect on your sex life

its technically voyeurism

how often in real life do you wank while watching others have sex that you cant be a part of?

exactly

It also messes up the way we receive pleasure. The act of jerking it is very different than sex and can causes issues in this way as well. Porn addiction is no joke. Ruined a couple one night stands with some gorgeous girls back in the day.
 
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