As the thread asks has anyone tried pegging before?
What was it like first time?
Apparently I'm the only person at bluelight who had a good experience with it lmao. That should be your first warning.
Truth be told it
hurt the first time but I was fine with that. According to legend it hurts less if you start with a smaller toy first and then switch to a bigger one but that's annoying and it makes the whole process too slow and not sexy. Standard anal sex rules apply: lubricant is essential, don't eat dairy/other irritants beforehand, and so forth. I don't much want to repeat all of this because it's poop and poop is gross so read a guide or something.
So let's talk about dildos. Don't be fucking cheap, basically. Silicone is the ideal material as far as I know -- glass is inflexible which sounds painful, and cheaper plastics are likely to fail. Also glass can break if you drop it, and there goes your money. Don't be an idiot with the size, you probably can't take as much as you think -- we use the standard size (6") feeldoe and I'm glad it's not any bigger.
Which brings me to the next subject, the double-sided dildo vs. strap-on question. The short answer is that I think the double-ended dildo is a better choice, because whenever I've heard a story (including my own) of a couple where both partners actually enjoy pegging, the girl is able to get some sort of physical stimulation out of the act. Very few people can enjoy sex without feeling something. The one we use looks like this:
https://www.tantusinc.com/collections/feeldoe/products/feeldoe
It's sold out at the moment, but it'll probably be back soon. Despite the term "strapless",
it does not work for anal without a harness. The good news is that you can buy a "harness" at Walmart: my girlfriend has found that simply wearing a pair of panties over it is enough to stabilize it so that she can, uh, enter me. The other good news is that it really does "work", at least in the sense that she sometimes comes while railing me.
The last thing you need to know about the dildo is, in the case of silicone, how do you make it stop smelling like shit? You'll probably notice it still stinks after you wash it. The feeldoe website tells you to heat it in the oven, which we have never done and would probably result in our apartment smelling like a sewage treatment plant. But you can completely deodorize it by soaking it in warm water (just use the hottest that will come out of the tap) with 2-3 tablespoons of baking soda for a few hours.
With regard to the actual act, you should probably be aware that sex usually doesn't start with pegging. Usually (after foreplay/oral) she'll ride me for a few minutes, then she puts the feeldoe in (her side), then we do some other things before she actually starts fucking me. The rest is mostly self-explanatory as far as I can tell... I can't really describe how to have sex, I'm afraid. In case you've never had sex before, you're supposed to touch your partner; you should always try to make them feel sexy; etc; some people don't get these. You'll probably moan involuntarily; don't be embarrassed, if she's ok with fucking you in the ass she probably won't mind learning how high-pitched your vocal cords can go.
One more thing: I'm pretty much always high during the act. Cannabis seems to make the whole process much smoother and more fun. So, if I haven't talked you out of it yet, spark up and enjoy!
PS: Some men get really obsessed with pegging and anal stimulation and want to do it more often than/without doing normal sex. I strongly advise you:
do not be one of these people. They are universally weirdos and they drive their partners crazy. Also, ignore anything porn tells you about orgasm;
our minds have only one scale and we resize our experiences to fit. She pegs me during about 10% of sex, which is fine.
PPS: I will never,
ever discuss this again.
g mess.
