Michael_25
Bluelighter
- Joined
- Oct 19, 2009
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Hey fellow Blers,
I'm in a pickle right now, dating-wise. I've finished college some time ago and squandered all my opportunities to meet girls there. I'm 33 now and work in a office (shitty administration assistant). I don't want to pick up girls at my workplace, For one, most are married; for two, I shouldn't "shit where I eat". (Besides, most of my female colleagues are not exactly attractive.)
I have hobbies, but these prove to be of no avail when it comes to meeting girls, as most of my hobbies are solo hobbies, and most girls would regard them as "geeky". So there is no luck on that front. I've been to meetup.com groups which involved meeting other people at bars and clubs. Unfortunately, I have a propensity to drink to excess; once I start drinking I have great trouble trying to stop. Presumably girls don't won't someone who is so inebriated that they reek of booze, slur their words, and sway whilst standing on the spot.
Furthermore, I suffer from social anxiety, which is, in part, why I drink so heavily when in the presence of others in social situations. Alcohol induces dis-inhibition, thus making me a little more social. I get nervous talking to girls when sober. I feel as I'm imposing on them when I attempt to make small talk. The final kicker is that I'm not what one would consider traditionally handsome, and there is no real way to circumvent this. Sure, I go to the gym four days a week but you can only improve your aesthetic appeal so much. However, I'm not aiming for model-looking girls, just down-to -earth, somewhat cute girls.
Any ideas on ways to improve my situation. I'm getting older and it's making me more and more despondent.
Thank you, guys.
I'm in a pickle right now, dating-wise. I've finished college some time ago and squandered all my opportunities to meet girls there. I'm 33 now and work in a office (shitty administration assistant). I don't want to pick up girls at my workplace, For one, most are married; for two, I shouldn't "shit where I eat". (Besides, most of my female colleagues are not exactly attractive.)
I have hobbies, but these prove to be of no avail when it comes to meeting girls, as most of my hobbies are solo hobbies, and most girls would regard them as "geeky". So there is no luck on that front. I've been to meetup.com groups which involved meeting other people at bars and clubs. Unfortunately, I have a propensity to drink to excess; once I start drinking I have great trouble trying to stop. Presumably girls don't won't someone who is so inebriated that they reek of booze, slur their words, and sway whilst standing on the spot.
Furthermore, I suffer from social anxiety, which is, in part, why I drink so heavily when in the presence of others in social situations. Alcohol induces dis-inhibition, thus making me a little more social. I get nervous talking to girls when sober. I feel as I'm imposing on them when I attempt to make small talk. The final kicker is that I'm not what one would consider traditionally handsome, and there is no real way to circumvent this. Sure, I go to the gym four days a week but you can only improve your aesthetic appeal so much. However, I'm not aiming for model-looking girls, just down-to -earth, somewhat cute girls.
Any ideas on ways to improve my situation. I'm getting older and it's making me more and more despondent.
Thank you, guys.