Fuckleberry
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This probably isn't the best place to post. Sorry for the wall of text. I'm pretty stimmed out.
I've never been in such a difficult situation. I don't know what the fuck i should do.
About 6 months ago my best friend/roommate met a girl and they've been together ever since. I always kind of liked her but didn't do anything, because it's my friends girl and I value our friendship way too much. Still my feelings were always the same.
I slowly became more friends with her and she helped me out through a difficult time in my life. I'm a pretty anxious guy and usually need to take something to be able to talk to girls but with her it was different. I could talk hours on end and not get bored. Even though we had some pretty deep conversations I always thought she just saw me as a good friend
The day before leaving my college (i go to college in Italy and am visiting family in the US) she asked me to go out with her friends one last night before i left. When i got there it was just her and she was already a bit drunk. She basically told me that she loved me and could not stop thinking about me. That the reason she would come over to our house was just to see me. I told her that i liked her too and that i wish we could've met sooner but out of respect for my friend nothing could happen between us.
It's been two days since that happened and I can't stop thinking about it. We've been sending each other texts but I told her we needed to stop. I couldn't do it behind my bestfriend's back. The texts stopped until last night when she started sending me drunk vocals saying that she couldn't stop thinking about me and that she couldn't imagine her life without me. She told me that she wanted to break up with my friend for some time now and it had nothing to do with me. She asked me to give her an answer as if I would be with her if she left him and told me that she could never be just my friend. Even though I really like this girl I difficultly told her that even if she broke up with him I could never be with her because I would lose my best friend.
I was supposed to call her today but didn't, and instead told her to stop messaging me and that we could never be together (something that I deep down don't want) She took a while to answer but told me that she had fixed everything with my bestfriend, that the feelings she had for me weren't actually there and that she just saw me as a friend. I still haven't told my bestfriend about this whole situation and I honestly don't know whether it's a good idea or not (if i do tell him it's gotta be face to face). I'm happy they are back together and that I didn't lose a friend but at the same time a part of me wants to be with her. Now i'm sitting here at 6 in the morning wondering whether rejecting her was the best decision, i mean i think i fucking love this girl. I don't know what to do. I'm not going to be back in Italy for another two weeks but I have no idea what's going to happen when i get there. What would you do in my situation?
I've never been in such a difficult situation. I don't know what the fuck i should do.
About 6 months ago my best friend/roommate met a girl and they've been together ever since. I always kind of liked her but didn't do anything, because it's my friends girl and I value our friendship way too much. Still my feelings were always the same.
I slowly became more friends with her and she helped me out through a difficult time in my life. I'm a pretty anxious guy and usually need to take something to be able to talk to girls but with her it was different. I could talk hours on end and not get bored. Even though we had some pretty deep conversations I always thought she just saw me as a good friend
The day before leaving my college (i go to college in Italy and am visiting family in the US) she asked me to go out with her friends one last night before i left. When i got there it was just her and she was already a bit drunk. She basically told me that she loved me and could not stop thinking about me. That the reason she would come over to our house was just to see me. I told her that i liked her too and that i wish we could've met sooner but out of respect for my friend nothing could happen between us.
It's been two days since that happened and I can't stop thinking about it. We've been sending each other texts but I told her we needed to stop. I couldn't do it behind my bestfriend's back. The texts stopped until last night when she started sending me drunk vocals saying that she couldn't stop thinking about me and that she couldn't imagine her life without me. She told me that she wanted to break up with my friend for some time now and it had nothing to do with me. She asked me to give her an answer as if I would be with her if she left him and told me that she could never be just my friend. Even though I really like this girl I difficultly told her that even if she broke up with him I could never be with her because I would lose my best friend.
I was supposed to call her today but didn't, and instead told her to stop messaging me and that we could never be together (something that I deep down don't want) She took a while to answer but told me that she had fixed everything with my bestfriend, that the feelings she had for me weren't actually there and that she just saw me as a friend. I still haven't told my bestfriend about this whole situation and I honestly don't know whether it's a good idea or not (if i do tell him it's gotta be face to face). I'm happy they are back together and that I didn't lose a friend but at the same time a part of me wants to be with her. Now i'm sitting here at 6 in the morning wondering whether rejecting her was the best decision, i mean i think i fucking love this girl. I don't know what to do. I'm not going to be back in Italy for another two weeks but I have no idea what's going to happen when i get there. What would you do in my situation?