My heart and my head are fighting ! My husband of 24 years walked out 8 weeks ago after I caught him texting another woman - since then I have found out he was taking coke - xanax - adderal - roxies... and I think almost daily - fyi he was popping 5 xanax at a time and was seen buying 8 balls of coke - to let you understand the quantities.
We hardly have spoken since he left - because he has applied for a divorce - yesterday was the first civil conversation we have really had. Although it started with him angry is ended calmer - but as he was talking especially about money he broke down and started to cry because he has no money - he quickly stopped himself. He was never an emotional person to get him crying is a huge thing.
So now I feel sorry for him and want to send him money - he has not asked - and he is in complete denial about using drugs tells me that he wasnt etc.
It is his birthday today - I am so sad I just want him back ! Do you all think he could have cleaned himself up and has stopped using ? Am I safe to send him money ? Or do you think it will just go to buy drugs ?
We hardly have spoken since he left - because he has applied for a divorce - yesterday was the first civil conversation we have really had. Although it started with him angry is ended calmer - but as he was talking especially about money he broke down and started to cry because he has no money - he quickly stopped himself. He was never an emotional person to get him crying is a huge thing.
So now I feel sorry for him and want to send him money - he has not asked - and he is in complete denial about using drugs tells me that he wasnt etc.
It is his birthday today - I am so sad I just want him back ! Do you all think he could have cleaned himself up and has stopped using ? Am I safe to send him money ? Or do you think it will just go to buy drugs ?