I've known this girl for a longtime we've been on and off for years and have had plenty of other relationships in between time. However she never really brought up anal until recently after a 2 year long relationship she had with a guy she thinks may have been bisexual or gay (which she found out in the end and Im still not sure if she was joking or not but having seen pictures its believable). We brought up fetishes and she mentioned a few things and also said she doesn't mind anal play. Now she knows that is and always has been a big no for me as for as full on anal sex, sure I rub around that area during sex, but I never went as far to even put my finger in. She's kind taken my hand and insinuated she wants me to put my finger in while she was giving me head which I avoided. And while we were having sex I accidentally got a little close to the other hole and somehow it got brought up that I'm not into it and she said something like "unless I make you into it." Anyways I've kind of asked her if she's done anal and she avoids the subject, but I assume the answer is yes after she said she likes anal play. But now I need to hear it from her mouth as I'm beginning to have fucked up dreams about her sexual past and I need to just know the truth, I want to know if its something she's into. I just need to know if she's done it or not, I feel like its something a woman should talk about openly. I'm reading most girls get asked by every boyfriend to do anal which to me seems like either a homosexual urge or just a way of getting power over her. I have one weird friend who's into it and when he explained it he said he just likes the power involved that he has over the woman (which is probably the worst answer I could have heard). Im into some kinky shit but anal I've always just seen as the most degrading thing that can be done to a woman and if she's gone thru it I would appreciate it if she at least tell me if she's into it. Ladies, fellas, am I tripping too hard on this? What's the best way to ask her without sounding like its this huge deal for me? It's not like I'm gonna kick her to the curb if she tells me she's done anal, but I want to know the truth.