B/D and I are definitely in agreement here. You have a lot going on at once and part of what will help you ultimately succeed on your own terms, is approaching the situation realistically from the start. Like B/D just said, even if you went cold turkey from everything, this moment, it's doubtful that you would be ready even with 2 weeks to recover. I'm sure you would be mostly through the hard parts of the withdrawal, but for a momentous occasion such as this, you want to be emotionally and intellectually present. So, yes, tackling your addiction/dependence is a great and responsible decision, but if you would like to enjoy the wedding, put that on the back burner for now.
Now, talking in a general sense about your situation and the taper, my advice would be to tackle the Opioid dependency first. It's arguably a less intense, protracted process than Opioid withdrawal. I believe this to be true based upon my experience. Like most drugs, BZD typically leaves users with some Protracted Withdrawal symptoms. Again though, compared to Opioids, these PAWS symptoms seem to last for a longer period of time. Symptoms like anxiety, unsociability, depression, physical anxiety, insomnia etc. tend to linger at a low intensity for a few weeks. So, you can see why we're advising you to not bite off too much before the wedding.
Or, alternatively, if you are intent to pursue your taper now, I think you should plan on having medication on hand and ready to go for the day/night of the wedding. Even if you're going through withdrawal before and after, there's no reason why you can't medicate yourself in order to go to the wedding.
In an analogous way, whenever people ask me if high-dose Loperamide (Immodium) is appropriate for treating their withdrawal, I can give two separate answers. The first is, if they have no game plan and are in one way or another going to be Opioid free for an indefinite period of time, it's inappropriate because it has some potentially deadly cardiovascular side-effects. The second, however, if say, they just need to make it two more days until payday, at which time they can continue using their dope at the usual interval, I would say using Loperamide as a stop-gap is a little more appropriate. There are things in life that you need to be present for, like work, family, etc. and strategies for making it through these scenarios is different than providing long-term advice.
Does this kind of make sense? If you could give us some more information regarding your relationship with your prescribers, more specific information regarding your volume and frequency of use (what does it take to make you feel well? what does it take to make you feel high? etc) I or another BL would be happy to give you a more concise plan of action. Either way, we're here for you and will do our best to make your ordeal as smooth as possible and to hopefully help you enjoy the wedding! (And to have others enjoy your presence
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