http://http://honey.nine.com.au/2017/04/24/09/22/stealthing-condoms-removal-consent-sexual-assualt-study
This link is to an article about "Stealthing" which is a term used to describe the act of removing a condom without the partner knowing or consenting.
Its a growing disturbing trend.
Its bullshit that guys do it unknowingly. They know damn well what they are doing and do that because they simply just want to fuck without a condom and taking it off mid act is the way to get away with it.
Its inexcusable.
Condoms can work their way off a bit but its obvious in the way it feels and can be replaced or pulled back up. Men can look and see. Men do like to watch their penis thrust in and out. Women also like to watch and there are positions and also fucking in front of a mirror to see yourselves having sex. Its a turn on and also a good way of seeing there is still a condom on too.
I use condoms on the rare sexual encounter. Yeah Ive had similar issues but the guy was happy to safe sex especially since I told him no sec no condom and I was fertile and if per chance he didnt use it like he knows how and I got pregnant he would then have to accompany me to the abortion and I would make him see the aborted foetus and also punch him in the face proper.
Condoms are not that bad and if they dont like the feel then they miss out or can put someone else at risk.
This incident the OP experienced was not a forgetful mistake. No. This was an intentional selfish act by a guy who could not give a shit about you, went against his word and exposed you to all the risks just so he could get what he wanted.
He had zero right to do that.
The legality of that- its unclear if laws keep up with this but it is a form of assault. No one deserves to be potentially harmed like that and I would think carefully about any further contact with someone like that. He is an arsehole.
No respect. No care factor. Just thought of getting himself off at a cost to you and he should take a good look at himself and realise that he really messed up.
There are guys out there who are better than that. Why have someone like that have the privelidge of being with you when he just abuses it?
Its the equivalent of people who iv and one person handing another a needle they have used to another who has been told its a fresh needle just to see them inject themselves with the perps blood. That happens too.
Yes you were deceived. I suggest you contact a sexual assault service and explain this.
Yes you were good with the sexual encounter. But only if protected. He did not go along with your reasonable request and you have been exposed to std and pre cum pregnancy. Deliberately.
A visit from the police or request for a statement from him might scare him into taking it seriously so no other woman goes through this. It doesnt matter that you had sex again. The full impact of what happened took time to digest and you might want to believe his bullshit story and think hes a decent guy but he is not one.
Its called stealthing. Get some assistance from sexual assault referral and they help by giving you prophylactics and std screening so you can be cleared of these and have some closure.
That guy is bad news.