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I am new here, so I don't know where to put this question. My husband is quiting cold turkey from opiates, again. He has got to 30+ pills a day. He blames me for his addiction therefore everything I try to do or suggest or attempts he yells, screams, and degrades me. Yes, occasionally I will take a pill or two because I am truly in pain. His drs say he should be too but for some reason he really isn't (without pills even). Anyway it's gotten to the point where he HAS to quit. I understand he's not in his right mind and I need to take everything he says with a grain of salt. I'm trying to be numb to the insults, etc while trying to support this process.
He says he can't do this with me around due to his resentment towards me (we've been together for 23 years, he's 37 I'm 35).
His phone has rang at least 20 times this morning from people with pills. He hasn't answered... Yet. He won't give me his phone so I can shut down that avenue. He won't give me his debit card (he's the only one with access to the money, I'm not on any of the account and I'm a stay at home mom and since I don't have a 'job' I'm not allowed money.
That's a little backstory. How can I help him? I've got all the vitamins from the Thomas recipe, the bar of soap, etc... How do I emotional support this man who at the moment wants me to go kill myself. What can I do? Everything I say or suggest he starts a fight with. It's like everything I say or do is just more ammo for him to use to hurt me. I now my feelings don't matter right now and I'm fine with that, I want to help him but I truly have no idea how to do this. Any ideas? Thanks.
I am new here, so I don't know where to put this question. My husband is quiting cold turkey from opiates, again. He has got to 30+ pills a day. He blames me for his addiction therefore everything I try to do or suggest or attempts he yells, screams, and degrades me. Yes, occasionally I will take a pill or two because I am truly in pain. His drs say he should be too but for some reason he really isn't (without pills even). Anyway it's gotten to the point where he HAS to quit. I understand he's not in his right mind and I need to take everything he says with a grain of salt. I'm trying to be numb to the insults, etc while trying to support this process.
He says he can't do this with me around due to his resentment towards me (we've been together for 23 years, he's 37 I'm 35).
His phone has rang at least 20 times this morning from people with pills. He hasn't answered... Yet. He won't give me his phone so I can shut down that avenue. He won't give me his debit card (he's the only one with access to the money, I'm not on any of the account and I'm a stay at home mom and since I don't have a 'job' I'm not allowed money.
That's a little backstory. How can I help him? I've got all the vitamins from the Thomas recipe, the bar of soap, etc... How do I emotional support this man who at the moment wants me to go kill myself. What can I do? Everything I say or suggest he starts a fight with. It's like everything I say or do is just more ammo for him to use to hurt me. I now my feelings don't matter right now and I'm fine with that, I want to help him but I truly have no idea how to do this. Any ideas? Thanks.