Do you believe the theory that everyone is bisexual to some extent?

[washingtonbound]

Hi all, wanted to post this because I am curious what people's perspectives are on sexuality. I had heard about something called the Kinsey scale when I was in highschool, but I dismissed the idea because I used to think that orientation was a set and stone thing. But now that I think about it it makes a lot more sense. The theory is that sexuality, among many other things, exists on a continuum and people often aren't totally at one end of the spectrum or the other. This implies that the majority of people have at least some capacity for same sex attraction. If 0 on the scale was totally gay and 100 was totally straight, many people are likely around the 70-90 perent mark, leaving some room for sexual fluidity.

I have really begun to realize how the pre-disposition to bisexuality is suppressed a great deal in our culture; heteronormativity is constantly reinforced and men in particular are highly discouraged from same sex experimentation. I notice how adamant a lot of "straight" men are about asserting their orientation, denying that they have ever experienced any attraction to the same sex. I feel that a lot of people are in denial about their own sexual fluidity.

Although I have always identified as straight throughout my life, I have found that I have the capacity to at least appreciate the sensuality of certain men. Once I became more open to it I found that gay porn was arousing in its own way and at times I even fantasize about being dominated by men. I only really get the nervousness, shallow heart feeling around women and don't find myself romantically attracted to men, but I at least don't deny that I am at least a little sexually fluid. I have had one same sex experience and didn't enjoy it that much due to the partner I'd selected but would still probably be open to another one in the future. Although I don't identify as bisexual I would say that I am probably a 75 or so on that scale I was describing.

That's just my two cents; what are your thoughts on sexuality? Although I focused mainly on the subject of male bisexuality in this thread, women are welcome to respond as well.

 

[socko]

It depends on the individual. Some are bi. Some never will be gay not even for a day.

 

[CoastTwoCoast]

I'm a woman and definitely attracted to certain women, always have been. I even fooled around with other girls when I was a younger girl. Like full-blown sex. I haven't done that in adulthood though, always been with men. Still very attracted to women. Currently getting serious with a guy. I don't know if I could ever be in a relationship with a woman.

The Kinsey Scale was mentioned on the show Masters Of Sex. That was the first time I had heard of it.

 

[Cheshire_Kat]

Everyone? NO...

How can anyone even try to paint with that wide a brush?

Individualism is way too uncontrollable for that.

Most people are far too polarized for that.

 

[Asclepius]

Spectrums and where people lie within, yes. Nothing can be quantified in perfect measure; especially sexual attraction/ whether someone is an asshole or not.

 

[Scrofula]

I don't know, are you cute? What are you doing tonight?

 

[Smellitfirst]

I think in some sense it all depends on your options. When girls are available, I want girls. If I were stranded on a deserted island with no hope of rescue, I may feel differently.

 

[Scrofula]

See, you gotta define it, which is how these always get derailed. In this thread we already have definitions based on both thought and action.

OK, so Socko and smellitfirst are stranded on an island drunk somehow, or they're two buddies high on meth, haven't felt the touch of a woman in years. decide to try a little circle jerk. Hey, it turns out to be fun. They had a good time, decide to do it again next Friday. Are they now bisexual? Or are they heterosexuals who just jerked each other off? I lean toward the latter.

How about the married man who loves boobies and vagina, but watches a little gay porn, thinks about his buddy from high school sometimes? What if he regularly does the Craigslist thing with dudes when he travels for work?

Then again, what if in the last case, that kind of covert hook-up is more like a kink or fetish, and not about attraction at all? In that case I'd lean toward the middle case as being the real bisexual, as in, someone who has actual physical attraction sometimes to some people of either sex. I think you have to think your jerk-off buddy looks kinda good in his new jeans for it to count.

But I'm open to suggestions.

 

[Theendgame]

Hi my first here. But the subject is me Im in my 50's dam good looking ladies give me lots of attention. Then came prostate swelling which I found out my Dad had cancer at his prosta
Also my father, Father had cancer at his prostate. I've been checked my levels are low (psa). But my erection and size have dwindled to all time low. Length from 7.5" now 5" at best width 6" now 3.5" I don't want to be bisexual but my dick will not work good enough to please a woman of mine. So she suggests toys which leads me here. Pegging once it was done two me I loved it. I haven't fucked a guy. But I sucked a cock and my Girlfriend peggs my ass. Now two years later I have gay thoughts more each day

 

[Scrofula]

^^QFT It's a well-known fact that if a good straight man is having proper intercourse with his wife, and something touches his butt-hole, he instantly catches Gay.

Also, if his penis can't get erect due to medical issues, he has no choice but to do butt stuff.

And once you do butt stuff, you might as well put on a skirt and cook me dinner.

 

[washingtonbound]

On a serious note, I think it's sad that a good majority of men haven't experienced good penetration. The prostate is the male equivalent of a g spot, and I've noticed immense stress relief when I shove two fingers up my ass in the shower. Being on the receiving end of anal intercourse can be quite exciting. If someone is in a heterosexual relationship and his wife pounds him with a strap on then more power to him. But I think at some point every guy should try getting fucked; my first and only time I took an eight inch black one and it was painful but I still fantasize about getting penetrated from time to time. More than anything I would love to get pounded while getting sucked off by a girl in a threesome.

 

[Scrofula]

This is part of my theory on how people obsess over this stuff. The thread is about bisexuality, and like Hitler in a political thread, it gets reduced to buttsex eventually.

All the moralists with their hangups about gay guys is because they won't stop thinking about anal sex.

Yes, straight people do it, straight guys shove stuff up their buttholes all the time.

Lots and lots of gay guys are NOT into it.

None of it has anything to do with sexuality.

It's also overrated and smells like farts.

 

[BehindtheShadow]

It's also overrated and smells like farts.

lol - I actually snorted reading your post

 

[pofacedhoe]

It's also overrated and smells like farts.

acutally sometimes there is no smell (only certain people) and sometimes it smells of full on shit.

really depends on the person, their diet and how fast their bowels are. some people make very solid poo like they are on codeine even if not, this tends to not smell. anyone eating lots of meat and chocolate and grease in general combined with everyday booze- fucking woah there

no two people are the same

 

[Scrofula]

Oh, yeah, totally agree.

And it's always a pleasant surprise when your partner happens to have one of those assholes that smells like an asshole.

 

[S&Em]

Hey guys I'm new here but just want to throw in my two cents. I think bisexuality and sexual attraction are two different things that are often confused. Remember bisexuality implies the ability to love both males and females romantically not just to be attracted sexually to both genders. That's why I like the Kinsey scale though! I would probably consider myself heterosexual but I absolutely love having sex with women and I miss it dearly since it's been a few years. However in all of my same-sex and counters, I have never been romantically involved with another woman nor do I feel that I am capable of having such feelings. However I am smart enough to Never Say Never and personally I would see nothing wrong if that were to happen. Interestingly enough I am also unable to find a man attractive than I am not interested in on at least one other level, usually emotionally. I'm completely incapable of having casual sex with a man and I'm also incapable of making love to a woman go fucking figure!!

 

[RDP89]

Hey guys I'm new here but just want to throw in my two cents. I think bisexuality and sexual attraction are two different things that are often confused. Remember bisexuality implies the ability to love both males and females romantically not just to be attracted sexually to both genders.

Not true, the definiton of bisexuality is: a person who is sexually attracted to both men and women. Nothing to do with the romantic component.

 

[S&Em]

Not true, the definiton of bisexuality is: a person who is sexually attracted to both men and women. Nothing to do with the romantic component.

From Dictionary.com:"noting or relating to a person who is romantically or sexually attracted to both men and women, or to people of various gender identities; ambisexual."

So based on the actual definition i am bi!!! L

 

[S&Em]

Not true, the definiton of bisexuality is: a person who is sexually attracted to both men and women. Nothing to do with the romantic component.

I like Merriam Webster's definition even more: ": of, relating to, or characterized by sexual or romantic attraction to members of both sexes; also : engaging in sexual activity with partners of more than one gender" however this is confusingly similar to pansexual (Merriam Webster: "of, relating to, or characterized by sexual desire or attraction that is not limited to people of a particular gender identity or sexual orientation.")


I know the difference obviously and I guess in theory I lead more towards Pan but a)it feels like a superficial trendy label and b) I have zero experience outside of heteronormative men and female presenting women so I can't say with certainty that it would be something i'd dig. I have watched Granny porn if that counts!!! Lol

 

[Scrofula]

Not true, the definiton of bisexuality is: a person who is sexually attracted to both men and women. Nothing to do with the romantic component.

It's a pretty fluid term still.

Consider the difference between your def. and S&Em's def: there are some huge gender differences in how we choose partners.

For men there's more physicality than there is for women, and women who have a potential lifetime child commitment have to be more discerning (I'm talking biology and instinct, not deliberate evaluations of partners).


So you can't really say bisexuality involves either romantic or physical attraction.

And there's some validity to basing the definition on action, too, even if I don't like that def. In that case, a lot of hetero guys doing gay porn become bisexual, which they would certainly hate, closeted or not.

ETA: the problem with using romantic attraction only, is it doesn't work for normal partnering: suddenly a lot of nerds and "nice guys" think they have girlfriends: "I like you . . . mentally."