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Do you believe the theory that everyone is bisexual to some extent?

But saying sexual OR romantic attraction to both sexes means either one or both. So what S&Em originally said "Remember bisexuality implies the ability to love both males and females romantically not just to be attracted sexually to both genders", is still not right, as that would imply that if your attraction to one of the genders was only sexual, you would not be bisexual, which is not true. And to answer the original question of the thread, yes, I believe everyone is bisexual to some degree, even if it's very little and most would never admit it.
 
I'm bisexual, have been out for decades, and I don't believe this theory.

If everyone, most people, or a majority of the human population are bisexual there would be no need for us bisexual and gay/lesbian people to come out, we would have no need for equal rights and would not have to fight for basic freedoms and privileges/rights like marriage, etc.

Also, the Kinsey scale and the Kinsey studies do not claim that all or most people are bisexual. The scale just shows the various ways people can be bisexual, and the study itself and other human sexuality studies show that most people are heterosexual.

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I know quite a number of gay men who told me how they have had sex with women or at one time had a girlfriend, or wife. They are not bisexual since they did this while they were closeted or did not know they were gay, or thought that if they forced themselves to have sex with women that they would somehow become heterosexual. They said how sex with a woman just showed them how they're not sexually attracted to women at all.

Lesbian women I have met who had boyfriends or husbands said how they thought they had to conform to society and be with a man, some did not know they are lesbian, and that sex with a man just showed them how they are not sexually attracted to men at all.
 
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I think what S&Em was trying to say about bisexuality is there is a difference between having a level of sexual engagement with the same gender and actually identifying as bisexual. The feeling you get when you are romantically attracted to someone is much more intense than strictly carnal physical attraction; and obviously there are people who have experimented with the same sex who don't identify as bisexual. I, for instance sometimes get bored of only getting off to women so occasionally I like watching gay porn, but I don't believe this makes me inherently bisexual. Even if I were to experiment with a male again later in life I don't think that would make me bisexual, as I only feel genuine romantic attraction to women and I don't identify as such.
 
It sounds to me like you are over thinking your sexual identity; it is likely that you just overthink sex with men more because you are more nervous around them. Just a thought.
 
washingtonbound said:
The feeling you get when you are romantically attracted to someone is much more intense than strictly carnal physical attraction
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It sounds like for you and her it is; that's not necessarily true for everyone. "Romantically attracted" is pretty problematic to begin with.
 
RDP89 said:
...", is still not right, as that would imply that if your attraction to one of the genders was only sexual, you would not be bisexual, which is not true. And to answer the original question of the thread, yes, I believe everyone is bisexual to some degree, even if it's very little and most would never admit it.
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That's precisely why I admitted I was wrong. I used to think bisexual because of sexual attraction alone but after some deep thinking (or just because I was bored) I decided that bi didn't feel right because I didn't feel my attraction to females was on the same level as my attraction to makes, however, the older I get the more I realize I am demisexual towards males whereas I am the complete opposite towards females (I'm female btw in case that wasn't obvious and/or somehow matters.) Eh to each their own...labels are dumb. I think everyone should do what they feel is right and just leave it at that
 
You have to wonder, how many good relationships never got started because one of the potential partners was too busy wondering what label he or she belongs to.

That's why we should reintroduce the Bluelight orgies I've heard about it.
 
I've always considered myself 100% straight or at least up until about a year ago, now I'm not so sure. I'm only into women but I've discovered that it doesn't matter to me if they haven't always been one. I still don't see myself as bisexual because I'm not attracted to men and I have zero interest in penis. :)
 
You know that phenomenon is kind of fascinating. I only look at gay porn, had some sex with men, and yet it seems like a pretty big hunk of straight men are into that genre, which grosses me out (the porn, not the people). I'm not gonna call it bisexuality though. It also seems not to include non-porn and non-sex worker trans people.
 
i'm gay and like 1 time every 6 months i have a wank over a vagina, but its really rare and i'm not into their women faces or tits, just a big juicy vagina i like.

its just a reverse of the "straight" men who only want the penis to play with but hate the man attached
 
pofacedhoe said:
i'm gay and like 1 time every 6 months i have a wank over a vagina, but its really rare and i'm not into their women faces or tits, just a big juicy vagina i like.

its just a reverse of the "straight" men who only want the penis to play with but hate the man attached
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But the dudes into transwomen aren't in it for the dick. Or at least they say they aren't. And if it's just anal, why watch porn of it? The straight men I've known who were suddenly in to dick all wanted it to play in them, in my admittedly limited experience.
 
I also think that the culture of pederastry in Ancient Greece had a lot to do with how teenage boys have kind of a feminine frame so to speak; and a lot of men today who are mostly straight but enjoy having sex with "twinks" illustrate how this attraction plays out. It is similar with how men might enjoy trans women or "chicks with dicks" because the mixture of masculine and feminine traits is attractive to some. I think it's common for people to have some level of arousal towards all genitalia but this doesn't always mean they are bisexual in a traditional sense.
 
Don't paint your "sissy" genre all over my twinks category please. By "frame" you mean Western Civ presenting them as feminine all the way up to the pornhub era? Cause I vaguely remember that age, and there wasn't much freedom to try that look. I agree that whatever fetishizing it is, it's not bisexuality.

I'd argue the 18-25 demo is popular for the simple reason that old people are ugly when they're naked.
 
Not at all. Me and most people I know don't even have even a tiny bit of homosexuality inside them.
 
That sounds awfully certain. MOST of the people you know? Not even a tiny bit?

More or less a tiny bit than Ahmadinejad meant went talking about Iran?
 
Some people can be asexual and not interested in sex with anyone so not everyone is bisexual. People can appreciate physical beauty in both sexes but not actually want to have sex with them.
 
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People can appreciate physical beauty in both sexes but not actually want to have sex with them
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I was talking to my niece about that. She was checking out this guy at a restaurant she though was hot.
Shesaid cant you see how hot he is. I told her I cannot ever tell if a guy is good-looking or not.

To me Brad Pitt looks a bit like white trash, but apparently many women like him.
I suppose on guys like Tom Cruise you can tell a bit thats he's at least not repulsive
 
Let me ask you this, when you want to have that experience with another male, and you had a female lover that you trust with this info, and told and she got hot over it and wanted to watch and be in on it if the offer male felt comfortable would you do it, or keep it from her when that opportunity came up, being that you weren't ready to show that side or wanted to keep that to yourself. And Do most males do that?
 
Yes, I don't think almost anyone is pure straight or pure gay. They might honestly think they are, but most people are shockingly disconnected from their real feelings by social pressures and so forth.

I don't find the idea of having sexual experiences with another woman particularly off putting. I can't say I find myself particularly interested in other women either though.
I went through a short phase as a teenager when I thought I might be attracted to women. But it was just a phase. I'm just not interested in sex with women. I don't have any strong aversion to it either. It's just not very attracting to me. I'm into guys, not girls.

So I guess that makes me straight, and that's how I identify. But it's just a label. One I use for convenience sake. I just go where my heart takes me and were I to fall in love with a woman I don't think I'd find myself having any sort of identity crisis as a result. I don't think about it very much. I think people worry far too much about their labels. Trying to find what label they fit and then conforming to that label.

Labels are for the convenience of others. I don't think people should concern themselves too much with them. Men in particular are way too preoccupied with what gay is and what being straight is. I find it particularly strange that so many see it as all or nothing. If a gay man has sex with a woman you don't see people go "oh my god he's straight!". But if a straight man has sex with another man it doesn't matter how many women he's been with or even what he feels, that makes him gay. It's stupid.
 
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