Honestly you sound kind of kind a dick to your gf no offense, but you're talking about brain damage then bring up a completely normal conversational trait that obviously comes from social anxiety exaggerating self conscious thoughts causing her to lose her train of thought that had nothing to do with her use because she did it before you just thought it was not only something she did because she was high, but that you find to be stupid. If you think that way about your gf you are supposedly possibly in love with.... I mean if it's stupid, but you can't help love it that's one thing although you don't sound like that's your train of thought from your statement.
Just saying anyways I'm going to read the rest of your post, but it doesn't seem to make any point towards possibly developing brain damage even if one doesn't od just fall out, which is the same thing although falling out does not mean a fatal od is the only possibly as if they are saved with narcan and rescue breathing or a respirator then yes one could develop brain damage, which has happened to a quite active member here.
Edit: Honestly you are a hypocrite..... Maybe your gf didn't have as good of a education as you have and is finally able to break through her self doubt because she had someone who took the effort to really help her. Maybe you should let her help you and if you're telling her she needs to be clean maybe you should try it as well. What is the point if you have someone you really enjoy spending time with that doesn't include someone you use drugs with. I may know nothing about you and be completely wrong here, but if you don't wise up and realize what you got she just might and realize she can do better so take my advice if you want as it's up to you, but honestly not my life or problem.
I admit, I am a dick to my girlfriend, I took on way more than I could handle, and I regret it. I am not defending myself, I am just beeing honest. I am not an overeductaed asshole who doesn't understand that just because your vocabulary isn't extensive your are an idiot. I grew up moving from school to school my whole life I got kicked out of two and the longest time I was ever in one school was 3 years and that was from primary to 2nd year. I never finnished basic level education and never went to highschool.
She finnished college and is in sever debt because of it, something else I am taking on. I am not perfect by any means, and I know I am an ass, I ask her constantly why she is still with me when I am such an asshole. It worries me, I don't know how to be kinder and I wish she would leave me so I can work myself out. I have totally lost touch with myself and I worry that leaving her will only cause her to return to her old ways. I care for her, I just don't know how to show it correctly.
So I just make sure she is ok and sober and happy. I avoid talking to her too much so I don't say mean shit, but when I get drunk I get very verbally abusive and I wake up the next morning and hate myself, I tell her I don't want to drink anymore, but she begs me to go get alcohol and then she gets drunk and drives me crazy and I drink. If I tell her no, she will just go down to the store and buy it herself. It is a horrible cycle and I every time she has had the chance to use again she has. So I know I can't just leave her.
I am only 22 and my life hasn't been exactly a perfect path to betterment, but I am trying. I want to love her like she loves me, but I feel like I have so much to expierience still and I am not ready to settle down, bt I don't know what to do.... I haven't smoked meth for 2 years, I quit when she did by the way. I don't hide anything from her. I have gotten high twice since then, first time was with her I was at a friends house whose mom did meth (I did not know this at the time) and I went into the kitchen to help my friend cook and I came back not 5 minutes later and there she was doing a fucking line. I freaked and then so I wouldn't go on and on about it all night, I also did a line and I said. There now I am stupid too, does it make you feel good to know we are both stupid together. We didn't speak for the rest of the night and then I had to work the next day, It was fucking terrible. the next time I did meth I was with another friend of mine and I had just had a falling out with my girl and I went drunk driving and my friend offered me meth so I could sober up and drive home, and I smoked a bowl, got home told her about it and I hated myself all night again.
I havent done it again since then, but I left her alone again with someone I was not aware of did meth and I woke up to her screaming at me and freaking out and I had no idea what was going on, it was only the next day I found out she had smoked a bowl. Now she has gone to visit her parents and she called me up and she was fucking high on the second day, after promising me she wouldn't even speak to those people. I am a dick, but you have no fucking clue how overwhelming this is for me. I am so stressed out I can't sleep, I sincerely hope she can do better, because I am not the one she should choose to settle down with. I have evn said this to her, but she says she wants to spend the rest of her life with me. she is 36 btw, not some young chick that doesn't no up from down.
This is my point this is what heroin and meth does to you, maybe it isn't brain damaged, but for her to think that its ok for me to say what I say to her and still want to stay with me just shows what drugs have done to her. She knew nothing but drugs by the time I met her, she could tell you how to make a meth pipe out of a lightbulb and what kind of foil was the best foil for doing heroin, but anything beyond that was like new territory to her. Maybe it is categorized as psychological damage and not brain damage. I don't know, what I do know is that I took on something bigger than me and now I can't just leave it. I am inperfect, but I know I don't want children for this reason, I hate the thought of ruining my kid because I am having a bad day one day and the kid asks me why his teacher is touching him and I am so absorbed in my own shit that I tell him to fuck off.
I have been unable to talk to anybody about this shit, maybe that is why I am venting, I have posted on so many threads already since I started, it feels so good to get all this shit off my chest, plus I am giving my own personal expieriences in the hope that maybe it can help someone else not to go down the wrong path. I am dick, but I am a somehwat caring dick, and overwhelmed angry at the world act like im still in my teens 22 year old dick head...... Whatever it's your opinion... Sorry for the rant.