weed hits me in two phases.
the high and then the stone.
the high can come with anxiety and sometimes make me uncomfortable but i always know that in about 40mins i'm going to become very calm.
lots of people take this for granted and let their anxiety get the better of them because those cannabinoids that counteract THC and kill the anxiety aren't that strong so it'll be easy to remain uneasy if you give it that much power.
in 40mins i'm feeling like i took a low dose of benzos, phenibut or even alcohol. those anti-anxiety effects are what people talk about and those are which relax me and they last a considerably long period of time if you are able to calm yourself and experience them.