I have been sober 1 year. I got into trouble with child protective services almost 2 years ago, and have slowly but surely sorted out my life to gain the mindset that I did not need drugs to enhance my life. Meth was my drug of choice.
I met my current boyfriend of 8 months in a welding program we both attended this past year. He was the first boyfriend in like a decade that I've gotten to know without the use of drugs as a past time. I knew he had a background of Meth use and was on probation. I think he stopped using when we first got together. But now about 3 weeks ago I found out he had been using through out the time we've been together.
My first reaction was that it was unacceptable and that we were done. Then week by week I have to loosen up my boundaries. First was that, then asking him to stop at least until my child protective case is over (about a month left I believe), now it's gotten down to "can you just get high on Monday nights when I'm not around?"
I attend group therapy for addiction as I am required for my case. I don't share what's going on with this because I just want to be done with my case.
Every time he gets high and I know it, I am left upstairs in the bed trying to sleep, with him fiddling around in the basement all night. I can't fall asleep because I can't stop thinking about it. I question whether it's fair or not... If it just bothers me because I can't be getting high with him.
Of course I will always miss the high. But I didn't miss it enough to start thinking about starting again. Now I feel that if I'm going to stay in this relationship that I most likely will... I mean I'm pretty much planning my relapse once I'm free to. Thinking that this time I don't have crazy ppl in my life to get me in trouble like before...
I wish it were easy to leave because I'm starting to think it's the right thing to do
I met my current boyfriend of 8 months in a welding program we both attended this past year. He was the first boyfriend in like a decade that I've gotten to know without the use of drugs as a past time. I knew he had a background of Meth use and was on probation. I think he stopped using when we first got together. But now about 3 weeks ago I found out he had been using through out the time we've been together.
My first reaction was that it was unacceptable and that we were done. Then week by week I have to loosen up my boundaries. First was that, then asking him to stop at least until my child protective case is over (about a month left I believe), now it's gotten down to "can you just get high on Monday nights when I'm not around?"
I attend group therapy for addiction as I am required for my case. I don't share what's going on with this because I just want to be done with my case.
Every time he gets high and I know it, I am left upstairs in the bed trying to sleep, with him fiddling around in the basement all night. I can't fall asleep because I can't stop thinking about it. I question whether it's fair or not... If it just bothers me because I can't be getting high with him.
Of course I will always miss the high. But I didn't miss it enough to start thinking about starting again. Now I feel that if I'm going to stay in this relationship that I most likely will... I mean I'm pretty much planning my relapse once I'm free to. Thinking that this time I don't have crazy ppl in my life to get me in trouble like before...
I wish it were easy to leave because I'm starting to think it's the right thing to do