Comparing gabaergic use disorder to opioid use disorder demonstrates you don't quite understand the difference! Clearly dependency is an issue as far as having to take a medication every day and experience withdrawal upon cessation. However, comparing opioid use disorder to obesity is also disingenuous.
If you want a condition to compare it to, diabetes is a pretty good one. Diabetics are dependent on insulin, but it doesn't tend to interfere with their lives (such as the consequences of not taking the medication as prescribed). Likewise, when used property, maintenance regiments of ORT don't interfere with ones life either (with stigma and discrimination being the possible exceptions).
Some of the great folks of history used opioids their entire lives while accomplishing great things (by the same token of course, people with opioid use disorder have also done some horrible things - so the point is really about HOW it is used).
What non-controlled medication are you talking about for alcohol withdrawal or use disorder? Benzodiazepines and barbiturates are the first line of defense for alcohol related withdrawal, and those tend to be tightly controlled.
You're clearly prioritizing abstinence as the means to the good life. I'm not interested in that. I'm interested in meeting people wherever they are to gain the tools for them to achieve that for themselves. Telling someone, "here is what you'll need to be happy, healthy and successful" is too cultish for my broad minded tastes, not to mention itself disingenuous. I'm more interested in supporting and promoting individuals own efforts at self determination, regardless of what those might be.
And to be even clearer, dependency is really only a problem for folks who prioritize abstinence over present moment quality of life. Abstinence may or may not be the goal for folks, that depends on their own needs and wants. Dependency vis a vis ORT is also a type of abstience for those who make it such, so they're not at all mutually exclusive approaches either, though most people misunderstand them as such.