ZayKayWill
Bluelighter
- Joined
- Jul 19, 2016
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- 54
It makes me so angry. On one hand I do know that there are a lot of unfaithful people out there who can't seem to control themselves when it comes to other people of the opposite sex, but still. There are some people out there who legitimately can be friends and nothing more with people of the opposite sex. Feelings could develop, sure, but it's not like it's gonna happen inevitably. If every person instantly fell for someone simply because they spent so much time with them, how do you explain all the people who end up getting divorced and all that crap? I do agree that perhaps you shouldn't spend AS MUCH time with them as you do your SO just so you're still making your current relationship something special, but to order your partner to not even be friends with someone of the opposite sex? That just doesn't sit well with me. Yet it seems to me that the majority of people in life have this mindset. Or am I wrong? If I am, PLEASE do say so because I would love to be wrong in this manner.
If my partner say had a really good childhood friend of the opposite sex and they were hanging out a lot, all I would do would just address it and tell them how I feel about it. "Hey honey. While I do respect your friendship with Larry, I'm still your boyfriend. I'm not saying stop being friends with him, but when you treat him like he's equal to me, it makes me feel like I'm not special in your eyes." Yet most people would automatically break up with them no questions asked. I hate it. :/
If my partner say had a really good childhood friend of the opposite sex and they were hanging out a lot, all I would do would just address it and tell them how I feel about it. "Hey honey. While I do respect your friendship with Larry, I'm still your boyfriend. I'm not saying stop being friends with him, but when you treat him like he's equal to me, it makes me feel like I'm not special in your eyes." Yet most people would automatically break up with them no questions asked. I hate it. :/