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No feeling when i have sex and i cant ejaculate.

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Handyman101

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Im 18 and have had sex around 5 times with 3 different partners all where oral and vaginal and ive had oral with another 4 girls and ive never got much feeling! It feels okay but its not exactly enjoyable the last time i had sex it went on for 2 hours and i was destroyed by the end so i had to give up. Im getting really frustrated with this problem and feel like an idiot when i cant come. I mean come on WTF!! I have no problem staying hard it just doesnt feel like anything, i have no problem making myself come with masturbation but i have never came with a girl apart from my first sexual encounter which was a blowjob and sex which lasted about 5 minutes haha. Im just really annoyed that i cant come its not down to nerves its just lack of pleasure. Has anyone experienced something simmilar and if so did you rectify it? Is there a cure? I hope so i feel like im really missing out! And its awkward the girls ask is there something wrong and i have to sit there explaining oh no this always happens, as you probably know this isnt the sort of conversation you want to be having after an uneventful sex session lol. Please help me out! Its driving me crazy i just want to be able to finish i know some girls would see this as a blessing but for me its a nightmare.....I just want to come is that too much to ask!!!!!
 
Make that problem work to your satisfaction and become a superman lover.

There are many women that are happy to get it for long time.

Get some more experience and you may find they were the wrong women for you.

Maybe you need for her to do something other than what you've experienced to get your rocks off.
 
well, while most inexperienced tend to come too quickly when having sex, I've heard about the opposite as well. it's probably psychological and will go away when you get more experienced.
 
Stop masturbating.

I wouldn't be down to having sex for 2 hours though.. I'm more of a quickie kind of girl.
 
Try having a consistent partner. Someone who is patient and who you can get to know and trust. I have this problem and Ive tried both men and woman and a bunch of weird stuff and nothing really did it for me until I settled with one partner for a long time and built trust and comfort. Perhaps you have a certain fetish? Something else that you need to get off? Or it could be too much porn and you are used to that so the real thing isn't srimulating in the right way.

Try abstaining from porn for a few weeks and only use your imagination when you masturbate to reset your arousal palette. Either that or find an exclusive partner for awhile and get comfortable and experiment.
 
Similar happens to me when I am on opiates and girls like it and like that girls like it. Sex doesn't always have to end up on ejaculation to be satisfying.

For me to ejaculate takes willpower and willingness of the girl to work on it on a way that makes me able to ejaculate if we want it to end to my ejaculation which isn't always needed in my opinion.
 
ssris????

also stop looking at porn.

its a visual orgasm issue

i have the same shit. stopped looking at porn and then i could come. i still wanked just focus on the feeling as you come instead of visuals

also for me if i dont come by 15-20 mins in i'm prob never going to come as i get desensitised
 
Just think about a hot girl or an ex girlfriend while u do her. My gf is fat so I close my eyes and pretend she's someone else.
 
pokepoke420 said:
Are you on SSRI's?
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Why would SSRIs be the problem if he can finish by masturbation AND stays hard the whole time but just has no feeling during sex??

Wouldn't SSRIs effect masturbation AND sex??

I've always heard of SSRIs making it so people can't cum PERIOD under any situation or they can't get hard, not making them into superman who can stay hard for over an hour during sex but without feeling but having plenty of feeling when masturbating and cumming easily.

I've heard this is more of a psychological problem.

How could it effect sex only but have no effect on masturbation or staying hard if the main problem was SSRIs??
 
Yeah I experience the same thing and just now found this thread. I even went to a doctor to get this figured out but he's as puzzled as I am and he's a urologist so specialised in these types of problems. Doesn't matter what any girl does to me, I just can't seem to orgasm. It's not due to my size or tightness of the girl I'm with, I'm of above average size and always had this problem with any girl I've been with. They can give me a blowjob like a champion for half an hour and it will feel pretty good but I just can't seem to reach that point. Not down to anxiety either because I'm very comfortable with sex. It's due to sensitivity

The only time I've ever been able to orgasm is when having sex without a condom and going at it very fast, hard and for a long time but even then it's very rare

This seems an advantage at first but it is actually quite frustrating. Trying to explain to a girl that I think she's super hot, that it's not because of her but because I am naturally very insensitive is not very fun to say the least. I really wonder what the cause is. And yeah ejaculation is not needed, sex is fun without it as well. The only issue for me is that I get serious blue balls every time because of this. I have a hard time reaching orgasm when masturbating as well. I do orgasm then but it takes a lot of time and I have to go really really fast, faster than you would be able to go when having sex. I've also tried stopping masturbation for a while but that doesn't help either. I think there is a nerve that's not connected right or something =D
 
BlueBull said:
Yeah I experience the same thing and just now found this thread. I even went to a doctor to get this figured out but he's as puzzled as I am and he's a urologist so specialised in these types of problems. Doesn't matter what any girl does to me, I just can't seem to orgasm. It's not due to my size or tightness of the girl I'm with, I'm of above average size and always had this problem with any girl I've been with. They can give me a blowjob like a champion for half an hour and it will feel pretty good but I just can't seem to reach that point. Not down to anxiety either because I'm very comfortable with sex. It's due to sensitivity

The only time I've ever been able to orgasm is when having sex without a condom and going at it very fast, hard and for a long time but even then it's very rare

This seems an advantage at first but it is actually quite frustrating. Trying to explain to a girl that I think she's super hot, that it's not because of her but because I am naturally very insensitive is not very fun to say the least. I really wonder what the cause is. And yeah ejaculation is not needed, sex is fun without it as well. The only issue for me is that I get serious blue balls every time because of this. I have a hard time reaching orgasm when masturbating as well. I do orgasm then but it takes a lot of time and I have to go really really fast, faster than you would be able to go when having sex. I've also tried stopping masturbation for a while but that doesn't help either. I think there is a nerve that's not connected right or something =D
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uncut or cut? just as a question

i have no problem cumming (i'm uncut) when masturbating but sex takes so long i give up same with blowjobs, i enjoy them but cumming might never happen. happens about 1 bang in 20-30
 
pofacedhoe said:
uncut or cut? just as a question

i have no problem cumming (i'm uncut) when masturbating but sex takes so long i give up same with blowjobs, i enjoy them but cumming might never happen. happens about 1 bang in 20-30
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I'm uncut. And like you I do orgasm every time I jerk off but it takes quite some effort. What I'm worried about most is the day I decide I want to have children with someone it's going to make it harder.

My current gf loves it though, she loves marathon sessions and luckily believes me when I explained it isn't her but my physiology that's the issue
 
nah its because when watching porn you are having to have a visual stimulus bring you to orgasm but without it you have to focus on your own sensations. it does make it easier to cum from sex

basically internet voyeurism is remodelling you neural circuits- it can be undone
 
Are yall using lube when whacking it....you could have messed up your sensitivity if your doing it dry
 
HYDRO_CHRONIC said:
Are yall using lube when whacking it....you could have messed up your sensitivity if your doing it dry
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when your uncut after 10 minutes (it takes that long to even get half going at times) by then you should have some precum and that lubes it. cut- have no idea but yeah that makes sense cos dry would be mega intense (uncomfortable i would think)

i swear my love of porn (allows me to reduce my horn enough to not bite peoples heads off at work) makes it impossible to cum from sex. i stopped watching for a few weeks 6 months back and i came easily during sex BUT i had a bad row at work on night shift (bashing one out before work when super tired is impossible without porn- and had to go back to managing my frustration/rage with wanks. annoying.
 
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