captainballs
Bluelighter
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Anyone who is truly suicidal knows a sad fact: life is optional, and if you leave right now it won't make a difference in the overall flow of the universe. In fact, you are probably acutely aware that the human race as a whole will one day disappear and none of it will have mattered.
I am posting not to give you permission to wallow in these thoughts, but to let you know that these facts can liberate you as they have me.
For almost 2 years, my life has been on a bumpy but upward trajectory. The beginning of the end of a long and miserable 10 years of opiate and benzo dependency was heroin addiction. You know your life is bad when the best week ever is when you have enough money to commit suicide painlessly, and it takes six months of daily hustle to get there.
But I hung in there, and I hang in there still. I don't consider it my life goal to be clean, sober, or even successful. In fact, I have found that when you are going through rough times life goals and dreams can be forms of emotional torture that feed feelings of worthlessness.
I don't want to write a novel, so I'll end here: every day your job is to survive. Basic survival. If you make daily decisions based on what will keep you in one piece mentally and physically for one more day, people will take notice and help you. And, more importantly, all of those little decisions will add up to you looking back maybe 2 or three years later and seeing the progress as a whole. No amount of dreaming and hoping could have produced it - only daily willpower.
Keep your head down, survive, accept the pain, and don't expect life to get better. Strangely, when you least suspect it, you will turn around and realize that it got better - and also realize that this optional life is worth selecting for a little while longer.
I am posting not to give you permission to wallow in these thoughts, but to let you know that these facts can liberate you as they have me.
For almost 2 years, my life has been on a bumpy but upward trajectory. The beginning of the end of a long and miserable 10 years of opiate and benzo dependency was heroin addiction. You know your life is bad when the best week ever is when you have enough money to commit suicide painlessly, and it takes six months of daily hustle to get there.
But I hung in there, and I hang in there still. I don't consider it my life goal to be clean, sober, or even successful. In fact, I have found that when you are going through rough times life goals and dreams can be forms of emotional torture that feed feelings of worthlessness.
I don't want to write a novel, so I'll end here: every day your job is to survive. Basic survival. If you make daily decisions based on what will keep you in one piece mentally and physically for one more day, people will take notice and help you. And, more importantly, all of those little decisions will add up to you looking back maybe 2 or three years later and seeing the progress as a whole. No amount of dreaming and hoping could have produced it - only daily willpower.
Keep your head down, survive, accept the pain, and don't expect life to get better. Strangely, when you least suspect it, you will turn around and realize that it got better - and also realize that this optional life is worth selecting for a little while longer.