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Husband wants to watch me have sex with another guy

I'll say you're a bad wife. Just the mere thought of my lady being pounded by another man upsets me. I have no idea how people would want this, then be able to look at their partner the same. Everyones different I guess.

lol, but the fact that his husband thinks about it and is the first one to bring the subject up doesnt make him bad? Just because it is not your thing does not mean its not plentyyyyyy of other people's thing. And for those people it is quite easy for them to look at their partners again because they do not feel the same possessiveness and insecurities as you do.
 
Has the OP consider hiring a male sex worker, Most sex workers of either gender are professionals' at what they do and it wouldn't be as emotional for the wife or husband.

On another note after reading this thread it made me realise how normal I am paying for sex off sex workers. If you ask me monogamy and also absentee from sex is not natural at all
 
Im not jealous or insecure or possesive or anything of the sorts and i dont know one guy IRL who wants to see their girl fucked by another guy lol. every girl ive been with didnt even want other girls looking at me lol let alone wanting to watch me destroy their juicy sugar walls

This topic is so fascinating to me because its something ill prolly never understand ?

Happy swinging!!
 
lol, but the fact that his husband thinks about it and is the first one to bring the subject up doesnt make him bad? Just because it is not your thing does not mean its not plentyyyyyy of other people's thing. And for those people it is quite easy for them to look at their partners again because they do not feel the same possessiveness and insecurities as you do.

You know you were ok until you got to the point of calling the poster insecure, in turn judging them as they judged you. The fact some People enjoy this stuff doesnt make them "bad." The fact some people just aint into it doesnt make them insecure.

Thought bluelight was one of the few places that existed not full of judgemental people.

Leaving thread dissapointed
 
I understand someone not being understanding or unable to connect on a topic, but to call someone a "bad wife" because she is looking for advice on the subject which was originally her husbands idea speaks of a person's insecurities which they are obviously taking out on others. I think there are a lot worse things I could have called him than insecure, we are all insecure in some ways and its important to be aware of those insecurities because that is how one works towards understanding them and acceptance. Maybe I should have said mysogynistic since the person only judged the wife, not the husband.

I wasnt being the judgmental one here, I am defending someone from judgement, dude. The original poster shouldnt be accused of being a bad wife when her husband was th first person to bring the whole subject up. So maybe you should be more disappointed by the fact that stovepipe is going around judging people's marriages.
 
So one thing I am learning here is that many men fantasize about watching their wife with another man. I am so shocked by this!! Can any women relate to how I feel? Am I a bad wife for wanting this? Any other women in my boat?

I'm also new here - having just registered to contribute my thoughts on this post. My Wife & I are both 37, also very happily married (over 10 Years) & our sex life is pretty good! I shocked my Wife just over 2.5 years ago by telling her the thought of watching her having great sex with another guy turns me on. I was nervous to tell her & in the beginning I think she struggles to get her head around it.

Between then & now she has become not just 'comfortable' with the idea - but almost every time we have sex she is talking dirty to me about being fucked by a hot-guy with a big dick. It has improved the quality of both of our sex lives tremendously.

I think to begin with she was worried I suggested this as a ploy to f**k another woman - but now she realises 2.5 years later i'm not remotely interested in doing that & the sexual turn-on for me is watching her have amazing sex.....then us having an amazing time together afterwards.

We haven't progressed beyond this point yet - so sounds as though we're in a similar position to you. We have talked now about visiting a traditional 'Swingers' club - whilst we're not interested in partner-swapping, there are loads of single guys there who also go to do this. Someone mentioned 'cuckolding' earlier & whilst there are lot of 'cuckolds' about - I prefer to view my Wife as a 'HotWife' - there is a clear difference.

My Wife has agreed to let me watch her f**k another guy - and in all honesty i'd arrange something immediately given the chance, but think going to a club will build her confidence. Being chatted up - maybe just even having a kiss with someone else; could be our next step forward. Of course I'd be jealous watching her - but that jealousy/voyeurism adds to the sexual excitement for me. It certainly doesn't mean I love my Wife any less - if anything this could make us even closer. 10 Years ago I'd have taken a different view of this - but I guess people change.

I would say well done to your husband for telling you (that was a scary thing for me to do) & well done to you for being open minded to potentially consider new experiences. I agree you should both set ground rules - for me it would have to be with a complete stranger so there is no 'emotional' connection - as opposed to 'just good sex'.

Best of luck with this - please let me know how you get on & I will do the same when we progress!
 
I could not and would not share my wife. I don't understand it and it blows my mind that others are turned on by the thought of it. That said I say go for it if it's what you both want.
 
I shared my x once on a drunkin night and it turned me on.... He was smaller than me and I wasn't jealous. I trusted her at that point to not go behind my back. We ended up splitting up but this had nothing to do with it. With that being said If I truly trusted my wife I would get a sex worker or make sure it was a stranger and keep it professional as possible. You know fake name no emotions. I love nothing more than to see a woman in pleasure no matter what it is. If im truly attracted to her I will give her whatever will turn her on the most. I have also had sex with one of my friends girlfriends while he watched and banged her also. We didn't communicate enough before hand so it made it awkward for me. I was completely turned on by her. I still remember how she smelt, looked and moved...OMG.... Now it was good but could have been so much better. I didn't know if I could talk dirty as hell to her? Tell her how hot she was? Kiss her on the lips? All he told me was no butt sex.... I was fucking her with this huge dildo and vibing her clit and she got tense and quite. I knew she was about to have a huge orgasm and he told me to stop that I was hurting her...FUCK.... She later on mentioned that she was about to cum really hard...... The sexyest thing that night was when she was sitting on his face and sucking on that huge dildo looking at me in lust. I will never forget that look...... I would love to get a hold of her alone! I would never go behind his back out of respect but I don't think many people would have the same respect. for what ever this is worth.......
 
Your husband wants to see you cum as hard and crazy as possible and then hug, love and sex your husband after. I would say do not talk to the guy after wards at all. All your attention should go to your husband and get the other guy out of their. Your husband will be so horny watching that he want hardly be able to jerk his cock while watching if your really getting off and giving your husband the naughty look while your fucking him.... woo have fun im turned on thinking about it....good sport girl....
 
Hell, what's the point of being in a relationship? For me, a body is a temple. When you give yourself to somebody special, you are basically telling them that only they have earned the right to touch it. So if people don't feel that same way, then I have to ask...what's the point of a relationship? This world of "Anything goes" really goes right over my head.
 
^it might be a hard concept to grasp, but maybe other people have different views of how their relationship works? my ex and I had an open relationship, and I was comfortable with her having fucked somebody else, because the connection through the mind was to me stronger and more important than the body.

I personally think that strict monogamy is just a symptom of male dominance to control women, and nowadays, it gets enforced the other way round as well, instead of being abolished.
 
That's not fair as well. Seeing own wife having sex with out person, is so disgusting. I can't think about it at all.
 
Hell, what's the point of being in a relationship? For me, a body is a temple. When you give yourself to somebody special, you are basically telling them that only they have earned the right to touch it. So if people don't feel that same way, then I have to ask...what's the point of a relationship? This world of "Anything goes" really goes right over my head.

Relationships are a lot more than just sex and pleasures of the body, its also about companionship, common goals, sometimes having a family, having a best friend and somene you can share your inner most thoughts with. Its about being there for each other when you are at your best and your worst and so many more things. Sex is def an important part of it but what defines sexual happiness is differnt to differnt people.

My point is there are many many other points to a relationship than just sharing one's temple as you put it.
 
I don't believe that you can maintain intimacy with your partner while trying to create it with someone else. It's not a good idea to bring in someone else in your relationship. What you have between I yourselves is special. You'd ruin it with jealousy and mistrust by having sex with someone else. Why is your husband so insecure? Why do you 2 not share a level of intimacy where your relationship is sacred?
 
I personally think that strict monogamy is just a symptom of male dominance to control women, and nowadays, it gets enforced the other way round as well, instead of being abolished.

Or you could also say that swinging is almost always the man's idea. The woman is the one that always has to be talked in to it. Coincidence?

See, that can go both ways.
 
how exactly do you know if that's "almost always the man's idea"? generalizing pretty much?
 
how exactly do you know if that's "almost always the man's idea"? generalizing pretty much?

I believe women view sex with more emotional connection than men. You don't see women obsessing over porn the way men do. There's a lack of intimacy with swinging that strikes me as male oriented. I take your point though about generalizing, but as loveline taught me: you only need to study a couple polar bears to understand the whole species.
 
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That is another harmful generalization that is made all too often. Its actually a form of sexism against men, a lot of people think that because that is what they are told to think about men and many males and discouraged from being "emotional" which often leads to issues with communicating their emotions. I enjoy porn quite a bit, and I bet there are a lot more females out there obsessed with porn than you could dream. But those females are programmed in so many ways to be ashamed of their sexuality from a very young age that they are much less likely to ever let anyone know they masturbate, much less that they enjoy porn. I'll help break some stereotypes for you, I started masterbating at a very young age, like younger than 10, and I am a female.

These are all stereotypes and you need to stop fooling yourself into believing that men, women and people in general can be generalized based on one small fact about one's biology.
 
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