ChristBait
Bluelighter
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So my best friend just told me recently that CPS is no longer going to be paying for his methadone treatment beginning next month. I've known this guy for the last couple years now and we've been really close friends since we met in rehab. I've been with him through thick and thin and have helped him in any way I can any time he needed it. Problem is, he's in the position where he always needs financial help, because he's raising 4 kids along with his girlfriend, and neither of them work since they both collect welfare. He's always been there for me too, especially in the last couple months, since I've been struggling with a heroin addiction. He's always kept me well even when I didn't have the money, by getting fronts from his connect.
However, a few months ago I caught him in a lie, where he told me that he was with his girl, and they both got pulled over by a cop. He told me that he threw 28 grams of H down a sewer he was standing next to when the cop wasn't looking. So because of that, he was 28 Gs in the hole that he would have to pay his connect or his life would have been in danger. Knowing that I would go out of my way to help him out of that, but not necessarily asking for the money from me, up front, but rather asking me if I could take him boosting almost every day for that month, until he got enough to pay his debt. Well, later that night that he told me this, I call up his girlfriend to ask her about the situation. Oddly enough, she knew nothing about it... but actually had to call him to ask him what she should say to me, so both their stories could match. Now obviously this is a huge betrayal on his part, but I was eventually willing to let it go. He knows me well enough to know how much I care about him and would go to any length to help him. And after helping him any chance I could in the last couple years since he's been in program, giving him rides, buying him food for his family, and loaning him money every time I could. But they wouldn't even be considered loans since I know he would never be able to pay me back because of the circumstances he's in, with never having any money himself, since he's always just barely getting by from his welfare.
So about a month ago, he tells me that CPS are no longer going to be paying for his methadone treatment, that he's been on for the last couple years. So of course, I offer to help him, and we work out a deal to where if he could bring me dinner every night, since I just moved into a house right around the corner from his house, I would pay the $280 he needed for MMT every month. He wouldn't really be losing anything out of the deal, since we agreed that he would be cooking with the food that I would have to buy myself.. so all it would cost him is his time.
My concern at this point is that he's just giving me another story cuz he knows I would go out of my way to help him, since I wouldn't want him to get sick and inevitably relapse and lose everything again, that I've helped him to get back. Considering that I've already caught him lying before, in order to get money from me, I'm just worried that he's taking advantage of my generosity and our friendship. He knows that if he would just ask me for the money that I would just give it to him every month, because I know its going to go towards putting a roof over his head and food on his family's plate. The other night I asked him to bring me the papers from the clinic to show me proof that he really does need it. He sounded a little hesitant but said he could do it. Question is, should I even try to get proof of his claim, or just give him the money every month without question? Obviously if I caught him lying it would put a huge strain on our friendship. Now, I really don't want to lose him as a friend but at the same time I don't want to be seen as just a tool that gets used as a doormat by people that know of my empathy and generous nature. Plus, I really don't make that good of money and an extra $280 a month would mean around 20 more hours of work I would have to put in at my 2 jobs. I've always tried to help out anyone in my life in any way I can, those that I see as less fortunate than me. But I don't want people to take my kindness for weakness either.
However, a few months ago I caught him in a lie, where he told me that he was with his girl, and they both got pulled over by a cop. He told me that he threw 28 grams of H down a sewer he was standing next to when the cop wasn't looking. So because of that, he was 28 Gs in the hole that he would have to pay his connect or his life would have been in danger. Knowing that I would go out of my way to help him out of that, but not necessarily asking for the money from me, up front, but rather asking me if I could take him boosting almost every day for that month, until he got enough to pay his debt. Well, later that night that he told me this, I call up his girlfriend to ask her about the situation. Oddly enough, she knew nothing about it... but actually had to call him to ask him what she should say to me, so both their stories could match. Now obviously this is a huge betrayal on his part, but I was eventually willing to let it go. He knows me well enough to know how much I care about him and would go to any length to help him. And after helping him any chance I could in the last couple years since he's been in program, giving him rides, buying him food for his family, and loaning him money every time I could. But they wouldn't even be considered loans since I know he would never be able to pay me back because of the circumstances he's in, with never having any money himself, since he's always just barely getting by from his welfare.
So about a month ago, he tells me that CPS are no longer going to be paying for his methadone treatment, that he's been on for the last couple years. So of course, I offer to help him, and we work out a deal to where if he could bring me dinner every night, since I just moved into a house right around the corner from his house, I would pay the $280 he needed for MMT every month. He wouldn't really be losing anything out of the deal, since we agreed that he would be cooking with the food that I would have to buy myself.. so all it would cost him is his time.
My concern at this point is that he's just giving me another story cuz he knows I would go out of my way to help him, since I wouldn't want him to get sick and inevitably relapse and lose everything again, that I've helped him to get back. Considering that I've already caught him lying before, in order to get money from me, I'm just worried that he's taking advantage of my generosity and our friendship. He knows that if he would just ask me for the money that I would just give it to him every month, because I know its going to go towards putting a roof over his head and food on his family's plate. The other night I asked him to bring me the papers from the clinic to show me proof that he really does need it. He sounded a little hesitant but said he could do it. Question is, should I even try to get proof of his claim, or just give him the money every month without question? Obviously if I caught him lying it would put a huge strain on our friendship. Now, I really don't want to lose him as a friend but at the same time I don't want to be seen as just a tool that gets used as a doormat by people that know of my empathy and generous nature. Plus, I really don't make that good of money and an extra $280 a month would mean around 20 more hours of work I would have to put in at my 2 jobs. I've always tried to help out anyone in my life in any way I can, those that I see as less fortunate than me. But I don't want people to take my kindness for weakness either.
